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Ant717 11-11-2020 04:28 AM

Thinking of moving to TV with an Autistic adult that lives with us
 
I have been to TV for the last 10 to visit a friend and really enjoy my time there. My wife and I are thinking about moving and need some help.

We have a 32 year old autistic son that lives with us. Our concerns are will he have things to do in and around TV and more importantly will he be accepted.

We worry that he will be looked at differently and not be accepted in a not so direct way. He is a warm and respectful l person and any experience I have had with people in TV has always been positive, friendly and accepting but i am only there 6 days a year to have fun with a few friends.

I’ve always been told it wouldn’t be a problem and I believe he would enjoy himself but would welcome honest opinions.

Thank you

Kilmacowen 11-11-2020 09:26 AM

As others have advised many times, its best to rent for a few months to decide if It is right for you.

Jayhawk 11-11-2020 09:34 AM

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Originally Posted by Ant717 (Post 1859172)
He is a warm and respectful l person

That's all anyone could ask for from a friend and neighbor.

Come on in !!!!

Broncosap 11-11-2020 10:18 AM

I too am considering moving to the Villages with my 39 yr old Autistic son, and i have similar concerns. Within the tri-county area i do not see (from internet searches) any support groups or social groups, but i also understand that it can take time to learn of such things. It would sure be nice to know of any groups that exist prior to renting/buying. I will continue to follow this post to see if anything pops up.

JimJohnson 11-11-2020 10:33 AM

Form a club for adult children on the spectrum. Have get togethers etc.

:MOJE_whot:

Aloha1 11-11-2020 04:50 PM

Our 36 years old autistic adult son lives with us here. He absolutely loves going anywhere on our golf cart and being our club caddy when we golf. He has been widely accepted everywhere we go. Your child sounds a lot like him.

We were recently informed of a group called Autism Angels here in TV that we will reach out to. Come on down, life in sunshine beats dark cold winter.

Florida Fan 11-11-2020 09:45 PM

Autistic adult
 
Many opportunities for adults w/special needs who are living with their parents here. There is a group called Special Friends Bowling that meet ea. Sat.for bowling & other activities throughout the yr. such as dances X-Mas parties etc. That has been put on hold due to Covid until after the new year but it is a large, active group. There is also a club/support group called Advocates for Adult Children with Intellectual Disabilities (AACID) that meets monthly, the 3rd Thurs. of ea. month at one of our rec centers. Different speakers come in ea. month. It is headed by John Langan who started the club about 6 years ago with approx. 12 families & I believe his e-mail list is now over 200 families. John is a wealth of knowledge & help in our Special Needs Community. Other opportunities are in the works.

Pbthrockm@msn.com 11-12-2020 05:48 AM

I think it would be best to rent for afew months to see if there are things he might enjoy and also determine best village where they have more activities and close recreation center and pool etc.

Worldseries27 11-12-2020 06:27 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ant717 (Post 1859172)
i have been to tv for the last 10 to visit a friend and really enjoy my time there. My wife and i are thinking about moving and need some help.

We have a 32 year old autistic son that lives with us. Our concerns are will he have things to do in and around tv and more importantly will he be accepted.

We worry that he will be looked at differently and not be accepted in a not so direct way. He is a warm and respectful l person and any experience i have had with people in tv has always been positive, friendly and accepting but i am only there 6 days a year to have fun with a few friends.

I’ve always been told it wouldn’t be a problem and i believe he would enjoy himself but would welcome honest opinions.

Thank you

first of all you would be hard pressed to find a better and caring community. When i go for a walk i'm usually offered rides
the real issue for you is can he get around himself, be able to drive a golf cart, use a cell phone. If he is mobile perhaps a request to the local sports softball activities can be made to waive the age requirement. Not to say you can't accompany him to his activities in community centers. Where there's a will
there's a way.
Best of luck

bowlingal 11-12-2020 06:37 AM

In the Daily Sun on Sun and Mon are lists of support groups/volunteer opptunities

FromNY 11-12-2020 06:46 AM

Also find out about medical providers. If he has special medical needs it may not be easy to find doctors who will be able to treat him. There seems to be many offers of assistance from others on this post. Follow up with those who are here. Most people are friendly and a special needs person deserves opportunities for joy.

mydavid 11-12-2020 07:37 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Ant717 (Post 1859172)
I have been to TV for the last 10 to visit a friend and really enjoy my time there. My wife and I are thinking about moving and need some help.

We have a 32 year old autistic son that lives with us. Our concerns are will he have things to do in and around TV and more importantly will he be accepted.

We worry that he will be looked at differently and not be accepted in a not so direct way. He is a warm and respectful l person and any experience I have had with people in TV has always been positive, friendly and accepting but i am only there 6 days a year to have fun with a few friends.

I’ve always been told it wouldn’t be a problem and I believe he would enjoy himself but would welcome honest opinions.

Thank you

You should be fine, just remember people here are like people anywhere,

bluecenturian 11-12-2020 07:41 AM

I live in desoto and I see 2 adults with autism or special needs in the neighborhood. They both ride bikes and seem to be out on their own doing activities. I have never saw/heard of any incidents of anyone treating them poorly. I don’t think most villagers would tolerate such a thing either. There are over 3,000 clubs and if you check probably one for autism. I think your son would be just as comfortable here as any other neighborhood.

https://districtgov.org/images/clubslisting.pdf

bluecenturian 11-12-2020 07:49 AM

I know of a really great support group in the Orlando area which is about 50 minutes away. Here are a few links that may be helpful.

The Villages Autism Therapist - Autism Therapist The Villages, Sumter County, Florida - Autism Counseling The Villages, Sumter County, Florida

Autism Resources | Florida Department of Health

Singerlady 11-12-2020 08:18 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Ant717 (Post 1859172)
I have been to TV for the last 10 to visit a friend and really enjoy my time there. My wife and I are thinking about moving and need some help.

We have a 32 year old autistic son that lives with us. Our concerns are will he have things to do in and around TV and more importantly will he be accepted.

We worry that he will be looked at differently and not be accepted in a not so direct way. He is a warm and respectful l person and any experience I have had with people in TV has always been positive, friendly and accepting but i am only there 6 days a year to have fun with a few friends.

I’ve always been told it wouldn’t be a problem and I believe he would enjoy himself but would welcome honest opinions.

Thank you

He is welcome! There are a few families with children like yours living in my sub and more in TV that I don’t know about. As a woman with a mentally disabled sister, who doesn’t live here though, she is accepted when she visits and we go out! It’s a wonderful environment for her and your son! Non-Acceptance can happen anywhere, unfortunately. I refused a long time ago to let those people control her happiness...and so did my parents.


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