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Well, CIBabe, I'll be seeing my daughter later this week and she's pretty good with stuff like this. We'll try it.

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For those of you singles who are golfers, there is a local chapter of the American Singles Golf Association in The Villages. They meet the second Tuesday of every month at Chula Vista. If you want more info, just send me an e-mail @ ilvgolf2004@yahoo.com. We have a great time.

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Love reading all this good stuff on the singles site. Keep it up. I've been single for 33 years now. Brought up two daughters and even had a couple of really nice relationships over that time. I quite enjoy my freedom, but would love to have a soul mate to do fun stuff with like travel. I think that's called a "LAT" relationship - living apart together. How do all you single folk out there feel about relationships? Are you widowed, divorced, never married? If you could have your wish, what kind of relationship would you like to be in - or not? :-* 040

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Peazoup..... my story is similar to yours..... single since 1966 and raised my kids alone and enjoyed relationships along the way. After all those years of being independent it has become my lifestyle of choice and with a s/o living apart, but very close-by has always worked for me ;) ;)

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Peazoup, I've never married. I've had some nice relationships over the years. I have no desire to marry. I'm not saying it will never happen (I try to never say never), but it's not something I particularly seek, certainly don't need, and don't plan on it happening. I would like a monogamous "special" relationship with a man, someone to enjoy life's pleasures with. But, if that doesn't happen I'm fine alone, or "playing the field", or just hanging out with friends.

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I really enjoy this much-needed thread.

I’ve been divorced for 27 years with no desire to remarry. Was in the party scene for about 8 years and had a few nice relationships.
I have had a long distance relationship for 20 years (my choice) which involved lots of fun, companionship and travel..
When I moved here 2 years ago, I decided to cool that relationship and spread my wings, although they haven’t flown anywhere since my move here!!!!! I agree with Peazoup. I think I would really like to have a "LAT", a soul mate.

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Single for 22 years now. Had found my soulmate after my marriage. Truly had no real interest for a serious relationship since breaking up with my soulmate. I like dating, even semi-relationships (a few steps above friends with benefits) but really don't want any more. At present, I'm not looking, not trying to find and it would have to fall into my lap pretty dang hard for me to notice.

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Red - I love the way you express yourself :clap2: :)

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Isn't this interesting? I think years ago, when my girls were young, I would love to have remarried (my ex died not long after our divorce). I always dreamed of having the "Brady Bunch" kind of family. But, I guess it just wasn't in the cards. I would never say never, but now, especially after reading all the prenup threads, it must be a little complicated to tie the knot and wonder what the point would be at our stage in life. So, it seems we are all sort of in the same mind set - at least we ladies. How about the men? Who do you think are more prone to remarry - men or women and why? Let's hear it from you fellas. Don't by shy! We won't send you casseroles! :-*

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Peazoup,
From my point of view. I'm really conflicted. I was married young and for over 30 years. Many times I thought being single or alone would be just great, but being single now for over three years I'm not so sure. Several people in tv have told me you don't marry you just live together. After reading all the prenup stuff on totv I guess maybe their right.It must be more complicated than I thought. But for me ,I hope I can find someone to share what ever time is left for me. Married or live together who knows. I had a best friend for 37 years and even though we bickered some we each knew the other would be there for them, and wherever we went we where never alone. My point of view is from a never divorced person.
From a selfish point of view. Cancer took 18 months to take my wife. I quit working and stayed home with her. I went to every Dr's appt, every chemo,every operation,a stem cell transplant, and was holding her when she passed. I'm proud of that, and think that was important, and i hope that when my time comes there might be someone there for me.
Besides that I think men need someone there to remind us what jerks we are sometimes.
And peazoup NO CASSEROLES ?

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benj,
You have paved your way to heaven! How very sad to lose your other half after 30 years. I wonder if you ever get over such devastation. I always feel great compassion for folk who have lost their loved ones especially in their later years when you're supposed to "ride off into the sunset" together. It must be hard to think of another relationship after such a loss. There must be a whole bunch of others on TOTV who are in the same boat. Hopefully, you'll find another special person to keep loneliness at bay.
And now you've done it........ until then.............. expect casseroles galore

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This is hard for me..but necessary. I was married young and over thirty years...I adored him. He had a brain tumor which we treated ( 3 craneotomies, max radiation, and much chemo) for 16 years. Jim always told the MD's to do whatever they wanted to him from Sept. to June, but Blondie and I travel in the summer so it was off limits. It worked until the last summer when the MD said you need to have more chemo---Jim said---see you in Sept. Sept came and he thought worse case scenario he would have another operation...but the tumor had crossed the mid-line of the brain, and surgery was not possible. He had more chemo, but come December, it was evident that further treatment was futile. I took off the next six months from work to be with him, and he died on May 31st (that was seven years ago). One thing I have learned is that no matter how badly your heart is broken, the world doesn't stop for your grief. Jim surely was my soulmate, and I can't imagine that anyone could ove me as much as he did....so I haven't dated. I don't want to sound morose, b/c I am one of the luckiest people I know. I have a beautiful daughter, wonderful son-in-law, and two of the best grandkids in the world. I love dancing, going out with friends, making new friends, and adventures....and I love TOTV, as it has opened up a whole new world to me. :)

md blondie

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mdblondie - hugs, hugs and more hugs. So sad. I'm sitting here at work with mascara running down my cheeks. I'm sure your wonderful family has helped you tremendously as you sound like you have great support to keep going. Bless you.

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Blondie,
I'm not sure this is what Coney or Peazoup was thinking when they started this thread but ditto your thoughts about totv. I think sometimes that life's only been tough on me then I read posts like yours and (I know this sounds weird) it makes me feel better. This is the first web "forum" I've ever been on and I can't believe how many deeply personal things I've posted to perfect strangers. But thats the thing about totv and tv in general I feel a connection there even though I'm 2500 miles away.
So it's 7 years for you ? Do you ever start to feel better? Benj

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Benj,
That's really hard to answer. I once read that "expecting life to treat you well because you are a good person, is like expecting an angry bull not to charge because you are a vegetarian." So I guess I try to focus on all the wonderful things I have rather than dwell on the fact that this shouldn't have happened to us. As you say, there are so many others in the world who didn't ever have what I had, and still have. You know no one can take our great memories from us, and I bet you have many wonderful ones as well. So, I guess I can say that, yes, it does get better. I am so looking foward to meeting all of the TOTV folks, and start another new chapter of my life. I'm scared but I know it's time to move on. When Jim died I had to reinvent myself so to speak...not easy for me. One thing I did was that I used to ride on the back of Jim's motorcycle, and when he died I got my own license and now I have my own. I am having it shipped down to TV in Sept.and hope to ride with the Motorcycle "Gang" down there. Doesn't that sound like fun? I have also signed myself onto the Cruise with TOTV----a very bold move for me. I hope I don't spend all my time in my cabin. :(

Anyway, I am very appreciative to you and all the TOTV folks for including me and making me feel welcome. Hope I can meet you soon, Benj----we can share stories about our soulmates.

Blondie

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040 BUMP 040

Summer's almost over in south Oregon and I'm looking forward to my favorite season.... the fall. Soon, there will be a crisp cool breeze in the air, beautiful colors everywhere...... the growers' market will have loads of goodies and harvest festivals are always fun, especially Oktoberfests with beer & bratwurst.

Trying to keep this Singles Forum alive - - so - -

Whatcha doin' TV Singles & Wannabees ???

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Hi CIB and all,

I just returned today from TV :'( and tomorrow I will drive to LI NY to spend some time with my sister and her hubby. He has been diagnosed with cancer of the mouth, and will be operated on the first week of Sept. (prayers would be very appreciated).
I'll be back in MD this weekend and head to a soccer tournament (Grandson is playing in VA ) with my daughter, son-in-law, and grandkiddos---great fun--- :#1:
Then...back to MD...pack up the car....and head back to TV for two months. 040
I have such mixed emotions b/c my heart is breaking for my sister and her family, and I am praying that all goes well; however, I know they have a long road ahead of them.

BTW...I had such a wonderful time these past five days in TV meeting many new folks and talking to "old" TOTV friends. Stay dry my friends and I will see you soon.

MDB

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md blondie:

My wife died of a throat cancer (among other things) 8 years 3 months and 12 days ago! Who said I'm counting?

After slightly more than 5 years of caring and coping, her passing was, honestly, a great joy for us both! Here I am now in TV, enjoying every minute and somewhat astonishing my up north friends who had thought I'd end up as a basket case! [No comments, please, from those of you who think I really am a basket case!]

I have a very good friend whose wife was killed 9 years ago in a t-bone car crash on her way home from her teaching job one afternoon, not a mile from their house. She was one of the most vibrant people I ever knew. Her husband retreated into a shell for a number of years, but now gets out and about and enjoys his solitary life, as do I!

TOTVers are here for you, as I think you already know!

SWR

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SWR, Thank you I appreciate the kind words. I just got back from NY tonight, and my sister, her husband and kids are doing as well as can be expected. They are a close family and care very much about each other.

I will be back in TV in 8 days, and am looking foward to seeing my TOTV friends again.

MDB

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Hi blondie ....... wav wav wav swrinfla, benj, Peazoup, wiw, bestmicky, redwitch, ilvgolf, nannie, tkret,

and all lurking singles wav wav wav

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Hello to you, too, Nice Lady. Hope all is well with you. And Jack, how is he getting along?
Have you confirmed any plans to visit TV soon? I'm sure the good folks of TOTV are anxious to meet you in person. Post some new photos soon; they're always so nice.

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tkret......... thanx for helping to keep the singles forum alive..... it's too quiet in here. We need to think of something to stimulate some participation :dontknow:

IDEAS.... anyone ::)

P.S. UMmmmmmm..... it's very quiet in my neck-of-the-woods literally, and I'm looking forward to the Fall. Next month, a large pear orchard owned by the city of Grants Pass has an Open House Free Pear Picking Day.... and everyone loads up their bags & trucks with pears ! Exciting Stuff, huh ?

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Hi CIB & Others,
Yes, let's try and keep this open. I'm sitting at work in Connecticut with my countdown calendar to retirement push-pinned to my wall - 32 days. My house is still not sold, but I have tons of interest. Problem is the interest is coming from people who also have a house or condo to sell first. September promises to be better than August for real estate. Do you still have your home on the market? If not, try again this fall. I see a light at the end of the tunnel. Things are beginning to improve a tiny bit.
The weather is really nice here - high 70s to low 80s during the day dropping down to 60s at night. The petunias are starting to get leggy and the grass is not growing quite so fast. My hydrangea blooms have turned from magnificent bright blue to mauve on the topside and pale green on the underside. Signs of fall approaching.
Hope everyone in TV weathered the downpours. I feel badly for folk who planned vacation during the storm.
Can't wait to meet everyone whose names have become so familiar to me because of TOTV. My appreciation goes out to the many hours our hosts put in to make this happen. Thank you from a soon to be Bonnybrook girl.
And singles....................keep it going......... 024 024 024 024 024

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Hi Peazoup...... :2cool:
I've got two questions for ya.......

Why did you choose Bonnybrook Village?

And about hydrangeas.... I need some advice on when/how to prune them. This year mine are not well. Either they got frostbitten in the spring, or someone (not me) pruned them wrong, cuz they never grew to be as large and lush as the previous years (like in my pic). So, do you know when is best to prune and should I cut back drastically or just prune to the buds?

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Hi CIB,
I chose Bonnybrook because I wanted to be close to 466 shopping and Sumter Landing. Also I had been surfing the different For Sale sites for a specific CYV model and found it in Bonnybrook. And, I wanted a resale as I didn't want to think about landscaping. Plus mine was an estate sale so it came completely furnished. There are some things I will change in time to suit my taste, but for the most part, the furnishings are very nice.
I don't know if this is true or not, but I have heard from a couple of different sources, that people living south of 466 tend to be the younger retirees and people living north of 466 tend to be older. Maybe we can get some comments on whether or not it's actually the case. This, however, didn't make any difference to my decision as I'm sort of in between. I have to say though that I really like the more mature trees and landscaping north. I didn't want the new construction because those homes are all electric and I love cooking with gas.
Now - hydrangea - DON'T PRUNE!!! Just cut off the old blooms. Hydrangeas bloom on old wood.

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Hi singles and others,

I am still here, and getting ready to drive down to TV for the next 2 months.
Peazoup...what's your timeline...will you be here before the end of October? Hope so, then we will be able to meet in person. :bigthumbsup:
CIB, I know your house is off the market for now, but why not just take a little trip to TV, and meet some of us in person. :dontknow: We would enjoy that.

MDB

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Hi MD,
Boo - no, I won't be there end of October. I'm hoping sometime in November. This $(*@+?@ real estate market is not making it easy. At some point, I'll have to give up trying to sell and get a tenant in till the market really picks up. I think it's beginning to pick up - this according to my real estate agent. I'm so looking forward to meeting everyone. What's your timing?

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Peazoup..... thanks for the information. I agree with your reasons for choosing Bonnybrook, I might like that area also - along with the historic district.

mdBlondie...... :dontknow: No plans to visit TV as of now, but anything is possible 8) I would certainly like to meet everyone who I have communicated with at TOTV so I'm motivated to continue hanging out with y'all.

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Hi All,

Nice to see this forum staying alive. I will be in TV from the 12th thru the 16th meeting with two Realtors. I really don't anticipate anything but you never know. My original intent is to wait until Spring/Summer of '09 but it's important and helpful to see what's what now.

Redwitch and DickY were kind enough to advise me to notify them prior to my arrival and, hopefully, I can meet up with them somewhere. Md, perhaps you can, too. Our day is coming everyone and as the other Singles forum says, "Keep the faith".

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Peazoup, I will be there from this Saturday until the end of October....hope I don't miss you, but if I do, I will catch you in the Spring. :bigthumbsup:

CIB, we will keep pestering you, and hope you give in and and come for a visit. wav

Tkret, let me know also when you will be in town ....we can all get together. :welcome:

MD Blondie

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Great idea mdblondie. It will be fun and educational to exchange opinions. It will also be so nice to meet in person. I'll send a "pm" prior to my arrival. Of course, either of the town squares during the entertainment is probably the best place and time to say "Howdy Neighbor". stay well.

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TKret, let us know when you will be there and we can set up a time to meet, usually by thee clock at LSL during entertainment. MD Blondie, don't forget the monthly luncheon at Crispers on the 19th of September.

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Thanks, again, DickY. I'll "pm" you prior to my arrival and then again when I'm in TV. Should be great, indeed.

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Hi DickY, I am looking foward to our next Crispers luncheon...perhaps I wil ride my motorcycle there. 040 , but I hope I see you all before the next luncheon.

MDB

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hi peeps,

i feel so out of touch as i have been moving from north dakota and finally arrived here in hemingway village last wed. night, with rain from fay to greet me...my friend from nd has been helping me hang pictures, etc and we are both exhausted....if anyone is meeting by the clocks at LSL any time soon, please clue me in as i would love to meet whomever i can. i am taking advantage of the free wireless service at my neighborhood recreation center to finally get back on line and say hello to everyone...i love this place! since i am not on the computer daily, feel free to call me at 406-480-1945. my little place is still a mess of boxes and sans a dining room to sit at but would love to meet at the square for the time being.

would like to recommend S&S painters who did a very nice job painting my interior at a very reasonable price....they advertise on this site.

hope to see some of you very soon....

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chachacha,

Look at topic https://www.talkofthevillages.com/sm...cseen.html#new

There is a get-togeather being formed for the clock at LSL on Saturday 8/30 at 6:00.

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040 040 :beer2:
Hi chachacha, mdblondie, tkret, dickY, CIB, swrinfl, benj, wiw1819, redwitch, bestmickey and all other "single peeps".
The weather has been beautiful here in Connecticut lately with bright blue skies, warm days and cooler nights. I live by Long Island Sound and these beaches have been bursting with people this last weekend. Everyone trying to squeeze the last drop of warm sunshine out before fall settles in. :bigthumbsup: :bigthumbsup:
How many of us are planning to be in TV this winter? How many of us are still trying to sell "up north"? I'm told that the real estate companies are expecting a little burst of energy in the next couple of months. Let's hope. :2cool: :2cool: :clap2: :clap2:
What's your story? 024 024 024

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Hi Peazoup wav

Thanks for helping to keep our Singles Forum alive.

I'm looking forward to the fall and might do a mini road trip to California with my friend and Jack the Rat Terrier. I've given up on selling until the r/e market really improves :'( I still might visit TV in the winter, depending on another family member's plans. Everything is so iffy :dontknow: cold_cold

Anyway, I sure hope this coming winter isn't as cold/snowey as the last ::)

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Reading all the conversations here and I think I posted most of my info on the wrong place. It happens. Enjoying all the info and hope to find a few new friends here.
If you ride a HOG, I'm looking to ride with you. My trike is in VA, moved from there in June,
joined the HOG Club at Gator HD so to say the least I miss riding.
Not looking for Mr. Anything. Not looking for Mr. One Night Stand either. Looking for friends who enjoy being together and having fun.
All those looking to move here, Come On Down. I really like it here and am glad I chose TV as my new hometown.
PGB

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Hi PGB wav :welcome:

If/When I move to TV I'll also be wanting to make the most of the lifestyle and just make FRIENDS to enjoy mutual activities ! As I recall, a couple of the singles have mentioned motorcycles. Go to the top of this page and click on "search" and type in motorcycles and see if you can find those posts.

Since you've been there a couple of months already, have you joined any of the singles' groups ? What are they like ?