i don't agree with the pheromones theory alone.....when i first laid eyes on my future husband across a huge room, i was too far away to smell him but i knew immediately that he was for me! and he felt the same way. we were married within six months. i think it is some sort of spiritual recognition as well as the physical attraction. the pheromones are merely a survival mechanism to make healthier offspring. but real chemistry is much more than that.

And "your song" then was "Some Enchanted Evening", right?

Cha is correct about the visual and spiritual side of things. Usually my interest in a woman commences when I notice her, even across a room. Then, when I talk to her it either develops or ebbs. I recall situations where I was very attracted to the appearance of a woman but when she opened her mouth and started to talk I immediately lost that initial interest. Other times I found a woman's physical appearance moderately attractive, not striking, yet after she and I engaged in conversation strong mutual attraction developed. I won't bore anyone with the stories.

Ladies and Gents:

Please let me know privately or on this site if you are interested in a one-time meeting with a group decision to opt for more meetings. Also, please provide one or two sentences of what you would like to get from the group. I will facilitate. I have years of experience in similar groups. I have a degree in Marriage and Family Therapy (MFT). We should aim for a least 12 people.

Tom

What does "chemistry mean"?

Well I can't define it but I can describe it.

Just view a Pepe Le Pew cartoon that's chemistry

Chemistry?

It's passion. It's when you touch the other person and the hair on the back of your neck stands up. The scent is incredible. Your toes curl.

Whatever chemistry is, I wouldn't mind coming down with it. It's a great feeling, especially if it's a two-way connection.

Katie

Mr. Kris describes well what has always tripped me up. And more conversations with friends indicate that some of us are more sensible and some of us are more sensual. I've always gone for a looks, taste, touch, scent...walked by a guy tonight in a leather coat....mmmm, smells good. I kept walking. Am trying to learn to be sensible about a mate while there is still time.

Tom, I'm in. I know that with your expertise and research I will learn something I did not know about how we choose each other for mates. A lifetime of marginal choices later, I'm listening...
Kitty

Looks like I’ll be bringing my leather coat with me in April.

I’ve tried to ignore the passion, but the “old guy” kept on sneaking his way in anyway. Katie’s got it right. It has to be a two-way connection. And then both have to work at keeping the flames burning. Unfortunately it doesn’t always work. And I am not in a position to give anyone else advise. I have to work on myself and my own “future” relationships. We’ll see how that goes.

I look forward to seeing everyone in April. You’ll recognize me. I’ll be the guy standing on the corner in a leather jacket, and shorts.

first laugh of the day. thank you!:mornincoffee::loco:

I know, but I just couldn't resist. ;)


The reason I said what I said is because I can't forget what a pharmacist once told me. When I was a young man I worked for a pharmacist. He owned his own pharmacy and it was just the two of us running things. Every day I would go out and get his lunch which was the same thing every day - an egg salad sandwich. One day on the way back to the pharmacy I saw an elderly couple acting like teenagers. They were holding hands and seemed quite inspired by each other.

When I got back to the store, I told the pharmacist what I had observed and he only said two words: "Senile love."

Seems the "chemistry" interest has died out. I'm still willing to facilitate a group (see my previous posts). Anyone else interested??? I'm positive that it will be informative.