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Stu from NYC 08-19-2023 12:50 PM

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Originally Posted by golfing eagles (Post 2247540)
And a whole lot effort than grinding and brewing them. Friends again????:beer3:

Wonder what it will costs to make it up to her?

Debfrommaine 08-19-2023 03:19 PM

Took classes at various gyms in my life and it was the same years ago as it is now. I think it's so strange people call Villagers entitled. People's behavior did not start the day they landed in The Villages LOL.

VApeople 08-19-2023 03:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Chee-Chee (Post 2247439)
I have noticed recently in some of the aerobic and yoga classes that people come in early and save spots for friends.

How do they save a spot for a friend? Do they beat you up if you take that empty spot?

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Originally Posted by Chee-Chee (Post 2247439)
Some participants have gone as far to have people move because it’s not their spot.

How do they 'have people move'? Do they call the police and have the people forcefully moved?

If they are not using force to make people move, then I would just ignore them and take any spot that is open.

NotGolfer 08-19-2023 04:22 PM

I would just say "oh.well!" and not move!! This happens all over as others have said---not just "here" but where we all came from too. People bring their behaviours with them. As for saving seats---see it in church ALL the time, with Bibles and or bulletins. I see folks counting down their rows too to make sure there's enough room for their pals. In our church you can't bring coffee etc. in the auditorium but have to stay in the commons. I sort of "get it"---as folks want to socialize a bit but being rude doesn't factor into the equation in my view. Either plant you behind OR take your chances later just like regular people do.

margaretmattson 08-19-2023 05:10 PM

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Originally Posted by BobnBev (Post 2247463)
Sounds like you've been meeting the true "ENTITLED" villager. They seem to be everywhere.

Through the years, I have found that this is more of a never-miss class attendee vs someone who just wants to pop in. If I have never been to a class, I do not expect a regular to give up his/her spot to me.

If I am new to a class, I arrive early and ask, Is this class full?A regular usually responds nicely and will point to a spot that is available. If there is not an opening, they sweetly inform me of a class on a different day that is not as full. Either way, I am thankful. Kindness and entitlement works both ways.

Velvet 08-19-2023 06:24 PM

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Originally Posted by margaretmattson (Post 2247602)
Through the years, I have found that this is more of a never-miss class attendee vs someone who just wants to pop in. If I have never been to a class, I do not expect a regular to give up his/her spot to me.

If I am new to a class, I arrive early and ask, Is this class full?A regular usually responds nicely and will point to a spot that is available. If there is not an opening, they sweetly inform me of a class on a different day that is not as full. Either way, I am thankful. Kindness and entitlement works both ways.

Do “regulars” have assigned spots like children in grade 1 with their names on it? Or are their numbered tickets assigned to a spot? If not, it’s first come, first served.

coffeebean 08-19-2023 06:34 PM

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Originally Posted by golfing eagles (Post 2247540)
And a whole lot effort than grinding and brewing them. Friends again????:beer3:

For sure!

margaretmattson 08-19-2023 06:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Velvet (Post 2247614)
Do “regulars” have assigned spots like children in grade 1 with their names on it? Or are their numbered tickets assigned to a spot? If not, it’s first come, first served.

First come first served is your viewpoint. Throughout the years, I have learned classes continue to exist because of the people who attend them on a regular basis. Without them, the class would be cancelled and I have seen this happen.

Why upset the apple cart? Take a spot that you are directed to or attend a class with more openings. For me, it is an easy adjustment.

Velvet 08-19-2023 06:55 PM

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Originally Posted by margaretmattson (Post 2247622)
First come first served is your viewpoint. Throughout the years, I have learned classes continue to exist because of the people who attend them on a regular basis. Without them, the class would be cancelled and I have seen this happen.

Why upset the apple cart? Take a spot that you are directed to or attend a class with more openings. For me, it is an easy adjustment.

If the instructor directs me to a spot, of course, I will try to do that. If some entitled “regular” attempts to guide me… they’re out of luck. THEY are the ones upsetting the Apple cart, and yes, this is my opinion.

Velvet 08-19-2023 07:08 PM

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Originally Posted by NotGolfer (Post 2247598)
I would just say "oh.well!" and not move!! This happens all over as others have said---not just "here" but where we all came from too. People bring their behaviours with them. As for saving seats---see it in church ALL the time, with Bibles and or bulletins. I see folks counting down their rows too to make sure there's enough room for their pals. In our church you can't bring coffee etc. in the auditorium but have to stay in the commons. I sort of "get it"---as folks want to socialize a bit but being rude doesn't factor into the equation in my view. Either plant you behind OR take your chances later just like regular people do.

I like your “Oh, well” I have to learn to velvet my reaction.

JMintzer 08-19-2023 07:53 PM

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Originally Posted by vintageogauge (Post 2247535)
This is exactly why I don't exercise.

I like the cut of your jib... :thumbup::thumbup::thumbup:

JMintzer 08-19-2023 07:58 PM

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margaretmattson 08-19-2023 08:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Velvet (Post 2247628)
If the instructor directs me to a spot, of course, I will try to do that. If some entitled “regular” attempts to guide me… they’re out of luck. THEY are the ones upsetting the Apple cart, and yes, this is my opinion.

I understand your frustration, been there many times myself when I want to attend a popular class or club.
But, I understand these classes and clubs are not public like a gym or the squares. They exist because of individuals who took the time, energy, and constant attendance needed to start them. I would not classify any of these people "entitled." They are just continuing and participating in something they created. What gives you (or anyone) the right to push them out?

Personally, I find most of them quite accommodating. They tell you their guidelines, offer you a spot if one is available, or go out of their way to tell you of another class with more openings. What more can they offer? Their spots to newcomers who did nothing to create and continue the class? I still am a believer that Kindness and entitlement works both ways.

PersonOfInterest 08-20-2023 12:17 AM

We come to the Villages to enjoy the abundance of things to do and what seems like an overwhelming number of recreation facilities. Over 30 golf courses, over 100 pickleball courts, etc. When you try to use some of these facilities and find them to be so crowded it takes away some of the value we originally saw in so many recreational opportunities.

margaretmattson 08-20-2023 12:56 AM

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Originally Posted by PersonOfInterest (Post 2247665)
We come to the Villages to enjoy the abundance of things to do and what seems like an overwhelming number of recreation facilities. Over 30 golf courses, over 100 pickleball courts, etc. When you try to use some of these facilities and find them to be so crowded it takes away some of the value we originally saw in so many recreational opportunities.

In this post, we are talking about the overcrowded classes. If you want more classes or clubs, you have to start them. Any one can start a class or club, just takes some intuitive.

As for the golf courses, pickleball courts etc. You should have done the math! No way over 30 golf courses is going to mean 140,000 people plus their occasional guests can golf whenever they want. Same with the 100 or so pickleball courts, you have to learn to share. Or, do as they do in some retirement communities. Guests are not permitted to use any of the amenities.


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