:agree: been told that before, and it's in this thread somewhere...the new people that don't show their face can't be trusted...to paraphrase... I'm too old to need someone to validate and comment on my every thought. I like the info that can be gleaned on here, but there is a definite perceived "ownership" of this forum by some...doesn't take long to figure it out and I always feel sorry for the newbie that gets jumped on first time out...it's not helpful, and couch it however you want, not
nice...

It's in this thread, and I've been told it before.

When you are up north in the polar vortex TOTV is your life line.
I thank god for all of your post.
Keep'em coming
Even if it is pop corn

:agree: I never attend any of the TOTV get-togethers, but I turned to TOTV ladies recently to get help for a friend, and the support she received was amazing.

There are many wonderful posters who NEVER attend gatherings, MANY. In fact MOST. I will never, ever meet Bogie Shooter in person, he wants always to remain anonymous. I have even asked if he would show up at my funeral. He never answered, but... well hope springs eternal.

Somehow the meaning of saying that the cruel posters and the bullying posters and those who give anonymous jabs and seem to never have anything to say that is supportive or kind never show up at gatherings got to be misunderstood. Some, any, all, frequently, never, most, a few....all qualifiers.


I think people who read this forum a lot can pretty much figure people out.


There are many times that brand new posters come on with a rant. That always makes me suspicious as to who they used to be. People can and do change or add screen names even though the moderators keep close watch.


Trouble makers WANT to cause trouble and the oil on troubled waters folks are always out in force.


This is an interesting forum to say the least, every day. I think it is better than a novel or a TV show or a movie or a book on human behavior..........., and I can read better than I can HEAR in gatherings.. My excuse. :(

Let's see. I'm a frequent poster. I'm not a fan of the Morses. I think Gracie pretty much walks on water even though there are time I shake my head at her political leanings (and I won't even discuss my reaction to l2ridehd although he knows it intimately rofl). I rarely jump on a poster but it would be wise to duck if I do -- I do aim before I fire. I try to respect others' opinions regardless off how misguided I think they are. Basically, I really do try to treat others as I want them to treat me.

I HATE when I see someone bashed because they are a newbie and their comments seem out of line to others, even when I am shaking my head in disbelief at what was said (i.e., the recent Mezza Luna thread where the owner's son behaved badly). Just because you didn't witness it or it didn't happen to you, doesn't mean it couldn't have happened. You can defend the company being denigrated without being rude to the poster.

Opinions are worth almost as much as the paper they are written on. And, since paper isn't even used here, we know exactly how much they are worth. My opinion is my opinion, yours is yours. Try to stand in the other person's shoes -- they may have a real reason for saying what they believe.

I was truly hurt recently when I was accused of not being a fan because I changed allegiances with what I felt were valid reasons. To the one who accused me, he had been raised in one area and, I gather, so had at least his parents. He could no more imagine changing teams than he could imagine not breathing. This was not the case with me but that certainly didn't mean I loved my teams any less than he did his. I'm just not hometown loyal.

As to why we're not out playing in this "nice" weather -- we're fair-weather folks. To you, 35 is almost balmy. To us, it is downright cold. Heck, anything under 70 brings out the heavy jacket, gloves, hat and scarf to many here. It is not fun to be riding around in a golf cart when cold. I shake my head in disbelief at the golfers out in inclement weather (talk about addicted! lol).

Aw, c'mon...:evil6:

How about THIS. We get in touch with Coach and his crew, and Bill-n-Brillo and see WHEN they can get together and we all meet at one of the squares like we used to, when KathieI and SamHass and the first social gatherers were gathering.


Come with a name tag that says..TOTV so if you don't want to be identified, just run the risk of being hugged....and then we can dance and talk and listen to the music and maybe go out to dinner or come to my house for dessert afterwards?


What do you think of that idea?


WAIT.....CFrance may be coming up with even a better idea...........Anyone else?????? I will just come and lurk if those who don't like me are worried.

As the rabbit said to the hunter; I'm game! First couple weeks in February would work well.

I'm game, but don't shoot me. :D

We only shoot messengers around here!:evil6: