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DonnaNi4os 11-24-2022 08:33 AM
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Originally Posted by flower7330@gmail.com (Post 2160071)
My wife and I have considering moving to TV. We have visited all the squares and we rented a house on the south side for a month a few weeks ago. We love all the activity and energy from TV.
The one sticky point is the grand kids. They are in PA and my wife is having a huge problem trying to justify the move and missing the grand kids.
We have proposed doing a reverse snow bird where we would spend 3 or 4 months in PA in the summer time while the kids are off from school. The parents were not thrilled with us moving away and have not been very supportive.
Would love to hear some opinions on this subject.
Thank you
My family is half in FL and half in NJ where I’m spending Thanksgiving. It isn’t easy to miss out on the grandkids but I come up twice a year and my NJ kids visit during the year. I’d be lying if I said I didn’t miss them. Good luck to you.

NotGolfer 11-24-2022 08:51 AM
We came down 13 or so years ago. Our kids weren't happy with our decision though our grandkids were nearly grown etc. NOW they're young adults and have wives or significant others. The "kids" have their lives and are busy. We've made the trip back a few times but have to work around everyone else's schedules. Our kids don't live close to one another neither so that throws things off a bit as well. Logistics becomes an issue. Once the grandkids are grown---us "old folks" don't seem to figure into their social lives so we'd see them briefly anyway. I suspect that if our grands had been tiny when this opportunity came up, it would have been shelved for a time. My comment to my spouse in the early our decision making...."those kids would move if given an opportunity with our worrying about us." So we forged ahead and haven't looked back.

Txcottage 11-24-2022 09:29 AM
Grandkids
 
We are sunbirds. It’s a fabulous location for our kids/grandkids to visit during summer with all the theme parks/ beaches. But 2 of our 4 children with their families live close to us, and we have a lovely home here so I just don’t want to leave full time. Each person needs to weigh their pros and cons— if you move to The Villages full time, perhaps visit the grandkids every 3 months.

Ltwise3500 11-24-2022 09:41 AM
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Originally Posted by MrFlorida (Post 2160122)
You worked all your life, and now it's me time....enjoy what you have left. The grand kids can come and visit.
They are living their lives the way they want…you need to do the same. They will come and visit. Enjoy! Life is short.

cfhelz45 11-24-2022 10:00 AM
Snow Birds
 
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Originally Posted by flower7330@gmail.com (Post 2160071)
My wife and I have considering moving to TV. We have visited all the squares and we rented a house on the south side for a month a few weeks ago. We love all the activity and energy from TV.
The one sticky point is the grand kids. They are in PA and my wife is having a huge problem trying to justify the move and missing the grand kids.
We have proposed doing a reverse snow bird where we would spend 3 or 4 months in PA in the summer time while the kids are off from school. The parents were not thrilled with us moving away and have not been very supportive.
Would love to hear some opinions on this subject.
Thank you
We spent the summer in Illinois & Wisconsin. I think I see my kids and grandkids more then if I lived there full time. Go for it, they will forgive you in the long run.

kendi 11-24-2022 10:29 AM
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Originally Posted by flower7330@gmail.com (Post 2160071)
My wife and I have considering moving to TV. We have visited all the squares and we rented a house on the south side for a month a few weeks ago. We love all the activity and energy from TV.
The one sticky point is the grand kids. They are in PA and my wife is having a huge problem trying to justify the move and missing the grand kids.
We have proposed doing a reverse snow bird where we would spend 3 or 4 months in PA in the summer time while the kids are off from school. The parents were not thrilled with us moving away and have not been very supportive.
Would love to hear some opinions on this subject.
Thank you
There is a balance between taking care of yourself and being with family. This will look different for each of us. We go back a forth. It’s tough leaving TV and tough leaving family up North. But I love returning to both as well. Grandkids will likely love coming down to visit you. Especially in the summer when the amazing camps are in session. Family may be surprised of the benefits of you being down here.

Another way to look at it, one day you will be gone forever. You being gone now for part of the year can be a way for them to begin to adjust to being okay without you around.

Rodneysblue 11-24-2022 10:53 AM
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Originally Posted by flower7330@gmail.com (Post 2160071)
My wife and I have considering moving to TV. We have visited all the squares and we rented a house on the south side for a month a few weeks ago. We love all the activity and energy from TV.
The one sticky point is the grand kids. They are in PA and my wife is having a huge problem trying to justify the move and missing the grand kids.
We have proposed doing a reverse snow bird where we would spend 3 or 4 months in PA in the summer time while the kids are off from school. The parents were not thrilled with us moving away and have not been very supportive.
Would love to hear some opinions on this subject.
Thank you
You need to do you.

maistocars 11-24-2022 10:54 AM
Do it for you - you're not getting any younger, but living in TV will, IMO, help extend your years and health. It sounds as if the kids are being a little selfish and if they thought about it, TV is a great place to visit during Christmas and Spring break. Being away from TV gets boring real quick live life to the fullest while enjoying the grandkids in TV and on visits up North.

The Left Mitten 11-24-2022 11:13 AM
This has been a discussion among all of us retirees! My husband and I are blessed with the best of BOTH worlds......and have the ongoing support of our children and grandchildren. We are Florida residents and spend nine fun months here, and three summer months in a small condo in Michigan. By the time August arrives, we can't WAIT to return to TV! And the best thing is, we fly back for five days at Christmas.....and our children and grandchildren return WITH us to TV on Christmas Day to spend a week. They LOVE, LOVE, LOVE it here! Our grandchildren range from 14 years old to 8 years old. Our children have made moving to TV their goal when they retire. LOL! I would highly recommend the move, and enjoy your years with your spouse. You've earned it!

Rodneysblue 11-24-2022 11:27 AM
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Originally Posted by flower7330@gmail.com (Post 2160071)
My wife and I have considering moving to TV. We have visited all the squares and we rented a house on the south side for a month a few weeks ago. We love all the activity and energy from TV.
The one sticky point is the grand kids. They are in PA and my wife is having a huge problem trying to justify the move and missing the grand kids.
We have proposed doing a reverse snow bird where we would spend 3 or 4 months in PA in the summer time while the kids are off from school. The parents were not thrilled with us moving away and have not been very supportive.
Would love to hear some opinions on this subject.
Thank you
You need to do you.

Gettingoutofdodge 11-24-2022 01:06 PM
Don’t go until they grow
 
Quote:
Originally Posted by flower7330@gmail.com (Post 2160071)
My wife and I have considering moving to TV. We have visited all the squares and we rented a house on the south side for a month a few weeks ago. We love all the activity and energy from TV.
The one sticky point is the grand kids. They are in PA and my wife is having a huge problem trying to justify the move and missing the grand kids.
We have proposed doing a reverse snow bird where we would spend 3 or 4 months in PA in the summer time while the kids are off from school. The parents were not thrilled with us moving away and have not been very supportive.
Would love to hear some opinions on this subject.
Thank you
I will be in TV a year this month.
My grandchildren are grown and 5 of the 8 are in college. I have a 6 mo great granddaughter who I have only seen once. My children have been here 3x. My Grandchildren have visited also. I’m flying back for Christmas. Unless you can afford to fly back often and deal with the hours in the airport, do the reverse snowbird or wait until the grands grow up.

jimjamuser 11-24-2022 07:20 PM
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Originally Posted by flower7330@gmail.com (Post 2160071)
My wife and I have considering moving to TV. We have visited all the squares and we rented a house on the south side for a month a few weeks ago. We love all the activity and energy from TV.
The one sticky point is the grand kids. They are in PA and my wife is having a huge problem trying to justify the move and missing the grand kids.
We have proposed doing a reverse snow bird where we would spend 3 or 4 months in PA in the summer time while the kids are off from school. The parents were not thrilled with us moving away and have not been very supportive.
Would love to hear some opinions on this subject.
Thank you
You need to resolve that BEFORE you come here and buy a house. That very dilemma can wind a loving couple up in a divorce court situation. I know a man that lives ALONE in his house here for about 10 years and his wife has only been down here a few times during that period. to visit. Some couples believe that their children and grandchildren will visit them often if they buy a house here. But, the parents work or are otherwise too busy to visit, and as the children mature they don't want to leave their friends up north. So, don't count on being visited often here in Florida. Also, the summers are hot and getting hotter, so the parents will be uncomfortably hot here when they go outside.

That was good that you rented here for a month and it was close to the summer. I would suggest another rental for a month, maybe in August, the hottest month. At first, The Villages seems very impressive with a lot of things to do. Then gradually, the golly-gee-whiz aspects wear off. You get older and slow down and stop going to some of the clubs and activities. Just understand that moving here is a high-risk, high-reward situation. Make sure that both parties are FULLY embracing the move and plan and prepare well for it.

Worldseries27 11-25-2022 05:34 AM
Who loves you, baby ?
 
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Originally Posted by tophcfa (Post 2160109)
erggggg, you hit on without a doubt the biggest sore spot in my life. As far as i’m concerned, we raised our kids and the years of children responsibilities are behind us. We are now at a point in our lives where our remaining healthy years are numbered and it’s about us doing what we want whenever we friggin please without all the responsibilities we had to deal with before retirement. My wife on the other hand (i guess it’s a woman thing), can’t be away from the kids for any extended period of time, and certainly can’t miss a single friggin birthday or holiday with them. At the rate the kids are getting pumped out in our family there will soon be a dam birthday every month of the year. This dilemma is making it very difficult to plan extended stays together at our villages home, and it’s getting very expensive and time consuming to frequently travel back and forth. If i had my way, we would sell the place up north and be in the villages from october through mid june and rent places up north for the remaining time and visit with the kids then. My wife on the other hand would prefer two homes and the ability to fly back and forth several times per year, but be up north for most of the time. Imho, way too complicated and expensive.

What is it with women and kids and why can’t seeing them a couple timer per year, around christmas and the fourth of july, be good enough?
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rustyp 11-25-2022 08:24 AM
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Originally Posted by PersonOfInterest (Post 2160342)
Those non-humans who live here through the summer months are actually from Mars where our normal temperature is 950 degrees. We find it quite chilly here in the Summer months and enjoy it very much. We do find the Humans that start to migrate in after summer a little annoying though.
Interesting - both non human and illegal aliens. You better be over 55. Do you return to Mars after summer. That is a "reverse snowbird".

Villages Kahuna 11-25-2022 09:18 AM
If you have this discussion with your realtor or Villages residents, they probably tell your that the very small percentage—only 2-3%—of home buyers here, sell and move back home. And the VAST majority cite the reason being “grandma couldn’t bear to be away from the grandchildren” (that’s grandma, not grandpa). The issue with your parents further complicates the issue.

It sounds like maybe you’re not quite ready for The Villages. More time up north will make your decision easier.


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