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Old 03-18-2015, 04:05 PM
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I'm having second thoughts about moving to TV. Our plans are to move by September. Our house goes on the market in 2 weeks and now I'm scared and having second thoughts. I don't understand this because I've wanted this for 5 years. The stress of selling the house and our families telling us we're making a mistake is really causing me to question what we're doing. Have any of you been here before?
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Old 03-18-2015, 04:07 PM
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Old 03-18-2015, 04:11 PM
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I had second thoughts. When I came on this forum and questioned everything, people called me a troll.

It is hard to leave our other life, but what I said to our children is this;

If we don't do it now. When will we do it? We don't have unlimited time on this earth.
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Old 03-18-2015, 04:12 PM
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Our son and his family had a hard time understanding why we wanted to move to TV after just moving to KC to be near them only 2 years ago; he visited us the first week of March and was able to understand why.
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Dee. There are many who questioned. Hit the search button and type in second thoughts.

Here is one that came up;

http://www.talkofthevillages.com/for...py-sad-140816/
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I think any move away from home is hard. Friends and family will happily come down to visit you. You will happily go up to visit them. Moving here doesn't take your old life away, it just puts it on a different shelf.

There are some who have regretted moving here, have sold and moved back home. For the vast majority, moving here has been the right move. This was right for you five years ago. It is probably right for you now. Moving jitters are right and natural.
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I keep wondering why the %$#^ I drove away from TV about a month ago.
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...The stress of selling the house and our families telling us we're making a mistake is really causing me to question what we're doing...
Whatever you decide, just make sure it 's what you want, and not what your families are saying you should want.
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You have someone telling you that you are not going to be happy. Maybe you should hold off selling and rent for six months then rethink
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Whatever you decide, just make sure it 's what you want, and not what your families are saying you should want.
Best advice you can get.
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I hope your family can become more supportive of your choices. Be true to yourself. The rest is easy!
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Old 03-18-2015, 05:16 PM
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We made a move one time based on what we thought the kids would like. Bought a house on a lake and all necessary "lake toys". They did not spend the time with us that I had hoped. Busy working, kids in sports, etc. We lived there 10 yrs and loved it but decided all future decisions would be what we wanted.
We have no regrets. They love to visit.
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Old 03-18-2015, 05:39 PM
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You've wanted to be in TV for 5 years. Why do your relatives say it's a mistake to want what you want?

It's your life, not theirs.

Maybe you could hold off on selling the house, and then either rent in TV for a few months in the fall, or buy a reasonably priced villa that's easy to re-sell if TV is not for you after living here for awhile.
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Old 03-18-2015, 05:41 PM
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The things you loved about The Villages that made you want to live here have not changed. Has your situation changed?

This is a very friendly place. Everyone here is from "somewhere else" and making friends is easy. You won't find a place with the activities and amenities anywhere else.

We left kids and grand kids in Ca, Ut, NC. It wasn't easy leaving the west coast. But we don't regret it for a minute. Our kids love it here, they wish they could come more often and so do we. But we will make trips out to see them too.

It is the best thing we could have done. We are enjoying this stage of our lives in a way we could nowhere else!

Don't talk yourselves out of this dream. It's even better than we ever thought it could be.
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Listen to your own "little voice".
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