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Old 01-09-2025, 05:57 PM
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Hi all:

I am an 81 year old man. I have many interests and enjoy traveling the world. I am also an on again/off again snowbird. I plan to spend much more time here, but my wife loves her home up north and will only join me a few months each spring. And that, ladies and gentlemen, leads me to my question: How does a lonely old man find friends here?

During college and during my working days as a teacher, it was a lot easier to meet people than it is here. I enjoy going to various clubs, but I can't very well choose a likely looking person in a club meeting and ask for a "play date".

Sports are out of the question. I used to try golf, but I am terrible at it, and also at most games since I've become a slowpoke.

I am not a "single" so single clubs are not on the agenda for me. At any rate, sexual activity if totally out of the question.

So, do any of you know how I can meet new people here? Actually, I am looking for a club for people seeking friends.

Any suggestions?
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Hi all:

I am an 81 year old man. I have many interests and enjoy traveling the world. I am also an on again/off again snowbird. I plan to spend much more time here, but my wife loves her home up north and will only join me a few months each spring. And that, ladies and gentlemen, leads me to my question: How does a lonely old man find friends here?

During college and during my working days as a teacher, it was a lot easier to meet people than it is here. I enjoy going to various clubs, but I can't very well choose a likely looking person in a club meeting and ask for a "play date".

Sports are out of the question. I used to try golf, but I am terrible at it, and also at most games since I've become a slowpoke.

I am not a "single" so single clubs are not on the agenda for me. At any rate, sexual activity if totally out of the question.

So, do any of you know how I can meet new people here? Actually, I am looking for a club for people seeking friends.

Any suggestions?
Take a look at the weekly recreation bulletin. There are many social clubs/activities listed in there. Cards, billiards, music, etc. I bet you'll find something you're interested in. There's a lot more than sports in The Villages.
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https://www.districtgov.org/wp-conte...24-1467478.pdf

And that is just the small calendar of events for January. That doesn't include all the hundreds of clubs and meetups created by individuals.

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Does your neighborhood have monthly driveway parties, or groups who help others. Volunteering helps meet people
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but I can't very well choose a likely looking person in a club meeting and ask for a "play date".
Why can’t you do that?

(Although I wouldn’t call it a play date!)
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What was your draw to the Villages (or Florida) in the first place. (Maybe your answer)…..if your indicating that Golf, etc is not your expertise? I’m confused that you want to be here (warmer) and your wife is up north (colder). If you’re here for the better weather and if so are you looking for more outdoor stuff (sans sports) like the pool?
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There are so many passive-type clubs that meet on a regular basis - I would begin to visit a few based on your own personal interests - you’ll quickly discover you will bond with people in some, and in some not. Church is another option where you can get involved in small group studies. I know you said sports is out of the question, but shuffleboard is fairly easy that requires little stamina, and is very social, especially the leagues. Just hanging out at coffee shops with a morning coffee and newspaper will lead you to meet and chat up others. It’s so easy to start conversations with most people here in The Villages, just by going where groups and crowds gather. Good luck - if you’re a friendly, positive, out-going person with a smile, you will easily meet friends.
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Yes, I find if I am outside picking weeds for 5 minutes, someone stops to talk. In fact, I never step outside these days without proper grooming even to wash the car.
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There’s a group of people who meet every morning for coffee and shoot the breeze. You didn’t say where you live but the McDonald’s on 466 between 7 and 9 a.m. is your place.
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Most singles groups I’ve seen are friends based and not seeking marriage , most are looking for someone to have dinner with or meet up at the squares with. I would have a chat with my spouse about it and give it a try.
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I have a beginner group of CANASTA players would you like to learn?
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Hi all:

I am an 81 year old man. I have many interests and enjoy traveling the world. I am also an on again/off again snowbird. I plan to spend much more time here, but my wife loves her home up north and will only join me a few months each spring. And that, ladies and gentlemen, leads me to my question: How does a lonely old man find friends here?

During college and during my working days as a teacher, it was a lot easier to meet people than it is here. I enjoy going to various clubs, but I can't very well choose a likely looking person in a club meeting and ask for a "play date".

Sports are out of the question. I used to try golf, but I am terrible at it, and also at most games since I've become a slowpoke.

I am not a "single" so single clubs are not on the agenda for me. At any rate, sexual activity if totally out of the question.

So, do any of you know how I can meet new people here? Actually, I am looking for a club for people seeking friends.

Any suggestions?
I'm a 81 year old guy so I understand you, I been here since I was 60 and my life has changed. Maybe have lunch at one of the squares, you can always get into a conversation with someone, try shuffle bord, or billiard's.
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shuffleboard! or bocce! the villages has leagues for both....so try it and if you like it, join a team
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