Why don't you just talk to him about it instead of trying to guess what's up?

Honest opinion ... let him eat what he wants. Unless he is getting ill, getting fat, getting high BP he's a grown man and can make his own decisions. If cooking what he wants bothers you tell him to make it himself. You think opinions you will get here are better than what a doctor will tell you?


You asked so don't kill the messenger. ;)

I do not see a problem but you could try and switch the "big" meal to lunch time.

I'm married to a man who just clams up, does not talk. Never talked. His Father was EXACTLY the same and his Mother used to get as frustrated as I do. I'm on lots of blood pressure meds .......................

We eat our large meal at lunch time. Protein, veggies, fruit. Supper is the traditional old southern way of something lite like a sandwich, scramble eggs, sometimes just fruit, maybe granola.

It’s been too hot and eating is the last thing on my mind. However, if his weight takes a large drop, I would be concerned.

There are many nights I could be happy with popcorn for dinner.

Well, after all the really great suggestions here, I'm going to consciously relax and let things just happen. It should be very interesting, if nothing else!

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Strange personal discussion for social media.

Sometimes a half of a PB and honey sandwich, sometimes hummus and pita chips, sometimes cereal; tonight, Mrs. KC fixed shrimp, coleslaw, fries and corn casserole. It was good but way too much to eat for supper.

Yet more interesting than most

Maybe Bogie, but where else would you get such a diversity of information? This is not a conversation I could have brought up with friends at a dinner party, or I would have been dining alone. TOTV is rather like going to the psychologists office, no one knows me here, no one is really interested in my situation, but they have taken the time to let me know that my husband is no different from dozens of other aging people and I very much appreciate the wealth of information I have been given.

Consuming most of your calories at breakfast and noon, with just a snack in the evening, is the healthiest option.

The added benefit is that going out for "lunch" is usually cheaper than dinner, and the menu is often the same.

If his Dr. sees no problem and he's fine otherwise don't worry about it and leave him alone. Sometimes your system knows it doesn't need pasta or other carbs and goes for a salad instead. If you think you need a full meal, reduce the recipe and fix whatever you want.

I think its great that you brought it up and its a good topic with no real answer. I want to eat like I'm going to jail the next morning most of the time. It may be a blessing in disguise for your husband. I think I would let him do his thing and who knows maybe he'll come around.

You are a wonderful wife and person for investigating! Bravo! :bigbow:

My appetite has waned for the last couple of years and I too see a doctor four times a year. I haven't lost weight and I do also see an endocrinologist for hyperthyroidism and all checks out. I am the cook and nothing tastes really good to me and sometimes I anguish that I am not cooking well for my husband and our daughter. I worry about that a lot and bring it up and it probably sounds like I am asking them to compliment when in fact I worry that I have lost my touch. They always answer in the affirmative, but they are both kind and sweet. I am glad you brought this up. I feel better hearing this discussion.