Michael 61 |
02-15-2025 04:52 PM |
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Originally Posted by Pairadocs
(Post 2409737)
Personally not at all disposed to be a "negative" person, thus, we've accepted our decision to build here when we retired. But, disappointed, yes, of course, saddened, yes of course, but not letting that ruin retirement years for us. The old "most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be" definitely applies to us. Now, how did some disappointment set in over the years ? Well, we were advised that building in a designer/premier area would give us some advantage that the neighborhood would not become an AB&B or other short term rental area. That did not turn out to be true, 3 of 5 homes across the street are AB&B's, and 2 of 5 on this side of street are part time residents. We just make the best of it, really like and miss our part time owners (snowbirds who also have several other homes so not here the entire winter season), but the AB&B people, regardless of who they are rarely speak even when spoken to ! ? Usually just kind of nod and obviously don't want to take up any of their long weekend getting acquainted with people they will probably never see again. So to explain the sadness that sets in, it was tough to see the weekly "drive way" parties go away, sad to see the often empty houses (does make for a very quiet neighborhood), and of course the daily chatting with everyone working in their yards, or planting flowers, trimming bushes, etc. disappeared as the complexion changed. If we had expected things would never change, we'd be devastated, but don't know of anywhere we could move where changes would not be the reality. So hope this helps you understand, not all long time residents are unhappy, but there is definitely a loss that you will probably experience at some future date. People move, pass away, homes are sold to anyone of any age, so really no way to control if it becomes one of a string of for profit AB&B's with new people in and out every week or long weekend end. By investing in a larger home in an area of similar homes, we believed we made the best "bet" possible for stability, but there is no guarantee no matter where you live in ANY state. Hope that explains the difference in a sadness setting in, and actual unhappiness and depression ! You just have to join new groups, or go to some new activities, and not spend your life regretting how your once friendly neighborhood has changed ! We all have a choice in HOW we feel (emotionally) everyday !
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Thank you for posting and explaining your situation. I first-hand understand your disappointment with what has occurred in your neighborhood with short term rentals and the lack of full time residents.
I am in a villa neighborhood (purchased December 2022), and I was quite surprised to find out that once I moved in, of the 85 villa homes, over half were snatched up by investors. Although there are a few full time renters, the rest are AirBNB. Of the remaining villas, I’d say half of those are part time snowflakes or snowbirds, so that leaves about 25% of my neighbors as full time residents. This did come as a shock when I first moved in (if you want to hear my story in detail, Jerry and Linda did an entire episode on my situation, interviewing me in my home, and did a follow up episode about 7 months later.)
This all has a very happy ending though, and since I had very few neighbors to bond with, I immersed myself in many activities, and quickly assembled dozens and dozens of very good friends (a few from other parts of Richmond, but many from places like Fenney, Hawkins, Newell, Dabney and Moultrie Creek). My entire social life revolves around all areas south of 44 along with Brownwood. I was able to find friendships outside of my immediate neighborhood.
Though it would be wonderful to have a tight, close knit group of neighbors that live on your same street, if that doesn’t work out, there’s always plan B.
I realize people have different needs and different expectations for what they want The Villages to be. I can only speak for myself, and that is The Villages, though not perfect, nor did I expect it to be, checks quite a few of my boxes for what is important to live a happy, healthy, and engaged retirement.
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