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senior citizen 09-16-2013 12:22 PM

You are not alone
 
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Originally Posted by Bonnevie (Post 746047)
I guess I'm looking for some affirmations. Having bought a CYV a few months ago I have been trying to sell my house. One great offer fell thru but I got another not as great but one I can live with. I hesitate to say the house is sold until the actual closing given my past experience. Nevertheless, I have spent the last few weeks sorting and tossing and I have movers scheduled this week.

Did others have the mixed emotions I'm experiencing? I'm excited to finally being able to get in my villa and make it my home. But I find I'm noticing the things I like about where I live now. I've had my pet sitter since 2000. Publix is closer to me than it will be up there. I have a great dentist and good doctor.

Still, I have researched and for me as a single person, the activities and opportunities TV offers seemed to make it a good choice. I have a great neighbor up there who helped me by keeping an eye on the place. Everyone else I've met in the neighborhood has been welcoming and friendly.

Still all this packing, sorting, discarding on one's own is hard.
....I wake up in the middle of the night wondering what the heck I'm doing.....

You are not alone.......I'm pretty sure of that.

While it is easier to stay in our comfortable nest, whatever that may be at the moment.........prepping to move, the move itself and then settling in, will certainly NOT be easy....... but the end is in sight.

Just take one day at a time when you arrive.......give yourself permission to rest up after travel down to your new "home"......then go slowly.

In a few months, everything will seem familiar..........

"The past is history" whereas "the present is a gift".........
"The future is a mystery"......enjoy the ride.......

Wishing you peace and comfort in your new place.........

beekman 09-16-2013 03:32 PM

You are experiencing very common "I hate to move" symptoms. We have all been there and the symptoms get worse as we grow older. I recommend you continue to march forward without looking back and embrace your new exciting adventure....at least 80,000+ people already have! See you in TV!

smcgirl 09-16-2013 07:00 PM

My husband and I are going through it right now. We are renting until our new home is ready and our furniture arrives in a few weeks. STRESS??? it is more than I could have ever imagined. Even though we try to convince ourselves age is just a number, when it comes to moving it is overwhelming when youth is not on your side. I will be thinking of you as I try to get through this move myself. The kindness of everyone in The Villages makes it a bit easier.

senior citizen 09-17-2013 03:12 AM

Just remember you are not alone. When we were younger, we could have the new house "all put back together", boxes unpacked, etc. beds assembled, pictures hung, curtains up.....the same day we moved in. And we didn't have corporate moves, paid for by an employer, with boxes packed up by the movers. We did it all ourselves.

Of course, we were in our twenties, thirties and the last time 49. But, knowing how we feel today......it will never happen at our age of 68 now......and probably 69 when we eventually buy in TV. We will just try to remember to take it one day at a time.

Madelaine Amee 09-17-2013 06:24 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Bonnevie (Post 746047)
I guess I'm looking for some affirmations. Having bought a CYV a few months ago I have been trying to sell my house. One great offer fell thru but I got another not as great but one I can live with. I hesitate to say the house is sold until the actual closing given my past experience. Nevertheless, I have spent the last few weeks sorting and tossing and I have movers scheduled this week.

Did others have the mixed emotions I'm experiencing? I'm excited to finally being able to get in my villa and make it my home. But I find I'm noticing the things I like about where I live now. I've had my pet sitter since 2000. Publix is closer to me than it will be up there. I have a great dentist and good doctor.

Still, I have researched and for me as a single person, the activities and opportunities TV offers seemed to make it a good choice. I have a great neighbor up there who helped me by keeping an eye on the place. Everyone else I've met in the neighborhood has been welcoming and friendly.

Still all this packing, sorting, discarding on one's own is hard.
....I wake up in the middle of the night wondering what the heck I'm doing.....

When you have made your move and have settled in, will you come back on this forum and let us all know how you are doing - we have all been through this and we really do understand and feel for you.

Cantwaittoarrive 09-17-2013 04:00 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Bonnevie (Post 746047)
I guess I'm looking for some affirmations. Having bought a CYV a few months ago I have been trying to sell my house. One great offer fell thru but I got another not as great but one I can live with. I hesitate to say the house is sold until the actual closing given my past experience. Nevertheless, I have spent the last few weeks sorting and tossing and I have movers scheduled this week.

Did others have the mixed emotions I'm experiencing? I'm excited to finally being able to get in my villa and make it my home. But I find I'm noticing the things I like about where I live now. I've had my pet sitter since 2000. Publix is closer to me than it will be up there. I have a great dentist and good doctor.

Still, I have researched and for me as a single person, the activities and opportunities TV offers seemed to make it a good choice. I have a great neighbor up there who helped me by keeping an eye on the place. Everyone else I've met in the neighborhood has been welcoming and friendly.

Still all this packing, sorting, discarding on one's own is hard.
....I wake up in the middle of the night wondering what the heck I'm doing.....

Fantasy because reality and you are just second guessing yourself

gomsiepop 09-17-2013 04:10 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Bonnevie (Post 746047)
I guess I'm looking for some affirmations. Having bought a CYV a few months ago I have been trying to sell my house. One great offer fell thru but I got another not as great but one I can live with. I hesitate to say the house is sold until the actual closing given my past experience. Nevertheless, I have spent the last few weeks sorting and tossing and I have movers scheduled this week.

Did others have the mixed emotions I'm experiencing? I'm excited to finally being able to get in my villa and make it my home. But I find I'm noticing the things I like about where I live now. I've had my pet sitter since 2000. Publix is closer to me than it will be up there. I have a great dentist and good doctor.

Still, I have researched and for me as a single person, the activities and opportunities TV offers seemed to make it a good choice. I have a great neighbor up there who helped me by keeping an eye on the place. Everyone else I've met in the neighborhood has been welcoming and friendly.

Still all this packing, sorting, discarding on one's own is hard.
....I wake up in the middle of the night wondering what the heck I'm doing.....


If only we could have purchased our home in The Villages without any stress! The packing, cleaning, transporting, scheduling, banking, etc, etc, etc. It is no wonder you are second guessing yourself. Try deep breathing exercises or whatever it takes to calm down. All of this will come to pass and before you know it you'll be enjoying yourself and getting into all that The Villages has to offer. It is a very unique and wonderful place to live. I look around as my husband and I are driving in our golf cart and say to him "I can't believe we live here". You will, luv, luv, luv it.

kittygilchrist 09-17-2013 04:10 PM

You know what geese do to encourage each other in migration??
 
Canada Geese Honking & Flying Off - YouTube

HONK, HONK, HONK!!! You can do this! We've got your back!

Bonnevie 09-17-2013 07:49 PM

somehow I have to get everything done by Thursday morning....I look around and things still seem so chaotic....I'm now just throwing things in boxes indiscriminately and will have to sort thru it on some lazy, rainy day up there. I expect I'll have to make several more trips to the Goodwill truck in the grocery store parking lot.

kittygilchrist 09-17-2013 08:13 PM

We can have the pickup crew come to your door, truly lots of orgs collect. Honk when you get here.
Kitty.

ssmith 09-18-2013 08:42 AM

Another Thought...
 
...I have not moved there....but I have moved. It will take about a year before things really, really feel like home. At least this is how it is for me. I have ups and downs after a move but after about a year....all is familiar and I have friends and then things are much better.

Love how people have told you to write down why you are moving and refer back to it often.

Also, it is not set in stone...give a try....if not for you....then you will know.

Keep us posted.


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