Originally Posted by Easyrider (Post 750755)

It is so troublesome why someone always feels a need to be so negative about anyone's encouraging efforts to help others and then to even blame the victims too. Especially bad is it when it is something they know so little about and there is such a great need for it? Anyone can carelessly make baseless negative comments on anything but it just makes them look bad and shows they don't care about the problems of others. I would encourage anyone to consider how their comments will be interpreted and if they may be hurtful before they post.

I sincerely hope and believe this research will give us a great breakthrough into this terrible disease and for sure we are already a lot closer to understanding cancer which is also great.

Reminds me a famous quote/story by Will Rogers who died in 1935.

Quote from Will Rogers: "After eating an entire bull, a mountain lion felt so good he started roaring. He kept it up until a hunter came along and shot him.
The moral: When you're full of bull, it;s best to keep your mouth shut".

P.S. I agree with Will Rogers, if you cannot say something good, why say anything at all? But then we know it is all just said in fun... :a040: :a040:

Originally Posted by Lpierleo (Post 790009)

This post has pulled ay my heart strings in a way you can not imagine. My mother, who is 78 is in the last stages of Alzheimer's. If you watch someone living like this, it is agonizing. My parents have been married for 57 years and my dad who is 77 is her primary care giver day in and day out. He made a promise to her and we can not get him to break it. She is still living at home, fully bedridden, thinks my dad is her father. We feed her, wash her and try to make her comfortable. She can not carry on a conversation and doesn't typically know who I am. She just wants "Dad". I feel I truly lost my mom 3 years ago, and my father is "My Hero". I worry about him so much. He fell the other day outside on the patio and took a big hit to the head. I was so thankful I was there. I carefully laid him back, resting his head in the ivy and went to get a cloth for his face and grab my phone. The first thing he said to me was not to tell my mother, because she will worry. He cracked his wrist and had a good shiner. His one eye was closed for about a week, but my mother doesn't remember. She did tell him one night, she loved him no matter what he looked like. This is a story of true love and "until death do we part.". I truly know my dad is doing everything he can to fulfill a promise but so so worried it is going to take him as well. The only thing I can do now is to support his wishes and help as much as I can, which fortunately for me is daily. I miss my mom so much and if there was a drug for her, we would try it in a heartbeat! Thank goodness for any advancements coming our way.

BTW, this may sound defensive, but my mom led a healthy lifestyle and is a breast cancer survivor as well. She did not deserve for her last years to be like this, nor should anyone else!


Respectfully,
Linda

Originally Posted by KyWoman (Post 790063)

Deat Linda, I could have written your post as my Dad is also caring for my Mom and will continue to do so until he is physically unable to do so. She is not yet bedridden, but cannot verbally communicate and definitely doesn't know us. I won't go into the other problems here........

I am also very defensive when people tend to "blame the victim" by insinuating that people with Alzheimer's either ate wrong, didn't "exercise their brain" etc., etc,.. This cruel disease has attacked some brilliant minds and I'm sure all of those with Alzheimer's didn't acquire it because they ate "wrong"!

I certainly pray there is hope for a cure and prevention, but certainly am pesimistic after everything we have been through.

God bless your Mom,your Dad and you, Linda.

Originally Posted by graciegirl (Post 790077)

As KyWoman says so clearly, if there was an easy fix, it would be fixed. I hate it too when people are critical of the victim.


There are many who post here who have very respected medical and scientific backgrounds themselves and who have explored all possibilities for help for their family members. It is way too simplistic to offer diet and brain exercise as a cure for issues that are congenital.


I offer prayers for all who are facing Alzheimers directly or in their families.


I pray to see the answer unlocked in our lifetime.

Originally Posted by Lpierleo (Post 790102)

Thank you both KyWomen and Gracie. I too pray for an answer for all of us. So sorry to hear you are going through a similar situation Ky. May God Bless.


Linda