Originally Posted by outlaw (Post 1067257)

I hear you. You are possibly coming from a different perspective than this man? How many people have committed suicide because people minded their own business instead of trying to help those people. Yet, when someone does interject, the first thing that others say is "mind your own business".

Originally Posted by graciegirl (Post 1067204)

I was going to yell at you but I reread it twice and I get what you are saying.

I know Connie and her family. I understand as much as a person who is not living her life day to day can understand. I honor her and love her and her equally devoted husband for showing us what unconditional love is.

I know first hand the mistakes that a parent of a handicapped child can make. Always walking between the lines of too much and too little help and protection and trying to get it right so your child feels some level of freedom to feel just like other people.

I have had well meaning people offer all kinds of suggestions to do something we tried and it didn't work years ago. Most of us with normal children struggle to do the right thing and usually get it right but not always.

At the very least. It was NONE of his business and Patrick was safe with hundreds of eyes who saw him nightly and would never allow harm to come to him.

It is just common sense, and common courtesy to hold your tongue sometimes. I don't know how that guy got to be a senior citizen without knowing someone first hand in a very similar situation and because of that developing a little.....respect? restraint?.

We are all peddling as fast as we can. We need to learn from each other.

Originally Posted by cquick (Post 1067283)

Thank you for your opinion. I am the original poster, and I appreciate all the ideas posted. I didn't tell the man to mind his own business, actually I realized that he thought I was neglecting my disabled person. But if he had waited or had seen my husband and I taking care of him, he would have known that my son prefers to sit close to the band so he can see them. I just think he thought that it wasn't right to sit there, instead of out in the audience.

Originally Posted by outlaw (Post 1067311)

... It's interesting that you stated you realized he thought you were neglecting your son, which is really what I was saying all along. Don't get me wrong. I don't think you were neglecting your son. I just thought maybe the man only approached you out of concern for your son. ... At least, if indeed he was watching out for your son, he did get involved, although, maybe not in the most tactful way. BTW, when did you come to the realization that the man was just concerned about your son being neglected? Just curious.

Originally Posted by golfing eagles (Post 1067324)

I'm not so sure I buy this argument. Look at the OP---"A man came up to me and said that he had been told by other people and entertainers that they think it's rude for me to put him by the stage and just leave him there."

He did not say he was concerned for Patrick's safety since he saw him sitting there alone. He did not say HE was concerned at all. He stated "other people and entertainers" thought it was RUDE. This seems to have quite a different connotation that simply a concerned individual with a poor choice of words

Originally Posted by graciegirl (Post 1066813)

BUT.

It was none of his business, and he should have waited and watched and noticed the caring love you always show Patrick, before he ran his mouth.

Originally Posted by ScorpioSquared (Post 1067337)

Totally agree...none of his business. It amazes me how some folks feel they're the moral compass for others. As adults we know there are times stepping in is necessary. This wasn't one of them. I'm so over people like this! I don't know that I could have responded any better than the OP...than again I have not had medical intervention for my menopause symptoms so anything is possible. :1rotfl:

Originally Posted by ron122049 (Post 1067409)

Connie,
UNFORTUNATELY, The Villages is home to some people who despite all the activities here have nothing better to do than BITCH & COMPLAIN about things that are none of their business. I too recently received an anonymous complaint delivered by the sheriff about something that was none of anyone else's business. People who make anonymous complaints are COWARDS!

Originally Posted by outlaw (Post 1067311)

BTW, when did you come to the realization that the man was just concerned about your son being neglected? Just curious.