Talk of The Villages Florida - Rentals, Entertainment & More
Talk of The Villages Florida - Rentals, Entertainment & More
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Elder Parents Situation - Thoughts Please
My wife's mother and father are both in their 90's and still living in their house. For their age, they're not doing bad, but of course there are health issues and family considerations. I'd like to hear some input regarding the moving-to-The-Villages option.
If they moved to TV, my wife would be helping them all the time. And I would too as needed. I'd just like to get a handle on what the various options are, of course understanding that some might not be extremely practical and all would have pro/cons compared to others. For example, is selling their current house and buying a house small here a viable option? Are there services that could help with health needs and home care needs? If that is not practical, of course there's the ALF option. But I guess my question comes down basically to...are there other options that might somehow be a bit in-between? I'll just stop here because I'd really like to hear your thoughts about any/all options that are available and we may not even be thinking of. Thanks in advance. |
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Personally, I don't think buying a house is a good idea because of the maintenance and the lack of reliable transportation. If they are independent, I think Freedom Pointe is a great place, but it is very expensive. You can get a very nice apartment in independent living, and then move to assisted living or even to a nursing home without ever leaving Freedom Pointe. There are also other similar, less expensive places, but not as nice, in my opinion. I would visit several of the facilities and get a tour.
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Another option is to rent (not purchase) a Villa near you. You can hire in home assistance as needed or for specific tasks (e.g. showering, cleaning...). Even Independent Living is well more expensive than the Villa Option. Hopefully they can stay in the Villa for as long as possible. When you're making dinner for yourselves, just make a few more servings to bring over. Best Wishes in your decision-making. Not easy.
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My first thoughts...have you discussed this with your in-laws and what are their feelings...and how prepared are you and your wife to devote more and more time to providing assistance or purchasing assistance?
My Mother chose to live with my Sister and her family and became as dependent as the kids. When she finally became frustrated at what she perceived as a lack of attention from the entire household she opted for a community that took her from independent living to assisted living to nursing care. BUT she still expected my Sister to visit almost daily and to run her on errands for banking and shopping - taking the community bus to grocery shop or a Doctor appt was not her cup of tea! My Sister moved up many rows for when she finally arrives in heaven and she would not have had it any other way. Se rarely regretted having the time she had with her.
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I guess the answer lies in what they want to do and what they can afford.
Renting close to you could be the start of the process with the idea of going to an assisted living facility if needed. Make sure that you line up medical providers before the move. If they are not on original Medicare then you will need to get a local health insurance plan here. Yes sell their home. Assume you will provide transportation to medical appointments. Can they get around in a golf cart? Join activities etc. Moving here could be a very good idea if they do not have support where they are. |
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Anyway, what do the "nicer" places cost per month when the resident is relatively healthy and independent? Thanks. kathy |
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Keep in mind that they will need all new doctors and they are just not the same down here, at least compared to Northern Ohio.
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A word of advice- check with them first before you do anything at all. People that age have set ideas and may not want you imposing yours on them. After my mom broke her hip we rented a place here and she refused to come. Her friends and support system were up north and that’s where she wanted to stay! However, if you choose to bring them down , there is a wonderful place in Leesburg near the hospital . We checked out all the others in the area and found this one to be the best. It is like a college campus , with a boat to take them across Lake Harris for lunch’s. There is a bus to take them to stores, churches etc every day. The dining room is like a cruise ship and there is an indoor pool/hot tub on site. In addition, there is a bank, hair dresser, ice cream parlor on site. A dr comes in once a week as well as PT onsite. You buy into independent living with the option of getting back 50% for the heirs ( negotiable prices) . They have different size apts. the person can work their way through independent , assisted and nursing home onsite . They were building an Alzheimer’s unit while we were checking it out . Not sure if it is finished yet. The place is reasonable and is called Lake Port . Short distance from the Villages - gives you space yet is close enough to visit every day if you wanted to
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My parents lived in their home until they passed. My in-laws lived in their home until they passed. All our elderly relatives have remained in their homes until they passed .... except for one who had dementia. None of my relatives had children living close by on whom they could rely, in fact several of the children were working abroad. If your parents have friends, a community they like and know, and are still ambulatory I think the decision should be theirs. Many of the East Coast Northern States have excellent facilities for their elderly in the way of transportation and much more.
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We have tried to get the move since 2010. Bought a PV furnished it, for them to use anytime. At our expense.
NOPE, not going to leave their home, they came for a week or so. But will not leave their house unattended. I have added Alexa and blink in their Up north home. Cameras in garage, front door, basement stairs, and stairs to bedrooms. Alexa is in every room. So if fall occurs help is there, Good luck, my parents are in the middle of an ice storm, and I can’t get them to leave even for the winter.
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They will never be happier or more cared for by their trusted doctors then to remain in their own home until their passing. Please let them stay where they know the area and feel safe. Do not make them relocate here. The Villages is good but not great and if you move them you will lose them shortly afterwards. The move and stress you are putting them under will not be worth it and you might regret making them move here. I was a caregiver for both my parents back home. When they passed in their. 90’s I moved here. Trust that after one passes the other will pass shortly after, please keep them in their own home for peace of mind for all. In their hearts they don’t want to move but are only moving for you not themselves. They won’t tell you but they want to stay home. The Villages will never be their home.
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As they say, you get what you pay for. No free lunch
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