[dewilson58]

Originally Posted by Garywt

2% of any group try to ruin it for the rest. Just stay positive and ignore the noise.

Usually all "you" hear about is the top 2%, this is the bottom 2%.

[New Englander]

Originally Posted by ckcapaul

This happens a lot on forums

[OhioBuckeye]

Originally Posted by NotGolfer

I'm on the "net" a fair amount...maybe too much some days. I've noticed the snarkiness of "some"....generally it's always the same people. This site is tame compared to others I've belonged to. It's amazing how more than rude people can be when they hide behind a screen. Out and about, every once in a while one can observe some very rude people. I was raised to be polite and the "Golden Rule" was emphasized. Sad to say I'm not always using those but keep in mind for others---they may have not been taught the social mores that a bit of "sugar" goes a long way over "vinegar". What I've really noticed is that "some" people feel the need to comment whether or not it applies well to the subject or not....or a question is given and an correct answer is not---only a string of "something else's" spew forth. I've belonged to this site about 10 yrs and the kindness of posts have ebbed and flowed.

I agree, I think sometimes when you give your opinion about something, there’s some people that aren’t going to let you be right & can get a little mean about it when they tell you that they know more about the subject. Where I live now, it’s not a retirement community but a very nice place to live, other than this one time comment. The first thing I was told by my granddaughter was, watch what you post. Apparently a couple of people didn’t like my comment & I was called a Ahole & a P_ _ _k. They could of made their point without saying what they learned when living at home.

[graciegirl]

Originally Posted by JimJohnson

I felt that when I started posting on this site, but found quickly that if you are harassed, the monitors will step in an correct the situation. Don’t get trolled in and I witness that after 10 years here, only a very small group will give you a hard time. Ignore them and you will enjoy this site and I promise, you will love The Villages.

And some grow softer and kinder as the good stuff that happens here changes them into better people.

[mikelin]

I totally agree with both the positives and negatives. If someone was hateful in their previous location ... people change addresses ... they don't change personalities. I'm from NYC ... Wall Street ... some attitudes extend past the job and life experiences. My positive contribution ... my husband and I can't imagine living anywhere else. We've slowed down and taken the time to enjoy the clubs and various activities. BTW ... try the Next Door Neighbor site. TMI and OMG! LOL!

[Mortal1]

Originally Posted by lovinganimals

I often am amazed at how rude responses can be on this forum. Uncalled for and just plain mean. Cant people respond in a nice manner, even if they disagree? Why all the animosity? I'm not talking politics or anything like that, but sometimes the post is totally innocent a d people respond like the OP has no brain. It's just plain mean and rude.

of understanding "human" no? Have you even bothered to understand why we are the way we are? No? Not surprised.

[Northwoods]

Originally Posted by Mortal1

of understanding "human" no? Have you even bothered to understand why we are the way we are? No? Not surprised.

Either this is sarcasm or it's a great example of the topic of this thread. (or am I missing something?)

[pauld315]

I have read through some of the responses to this thread. The funny thing is that many of the people who actually are the meanest on this forum, don't even recognize they are he people the OP are talking about. I have been a victim of their comments whenever you might say something negative or realistic about what is going on here. Look at yourself in the mirror.

[Northwoods]

Originally Posted by pauld315

I have read through some of the responses to this thread. The funny thing is that many of the people who actually are the meanest on this forum, don't even recognize they are he people the OP are talking about. I have been a victim of their comments whenever you might say something negative or realistic about what is going on here. Look at yourself in the mirror.

[graciegirl]

Originally Posted by Madelaine Amee

My very personal feeling is that it is built into us to fight before we flee. If humans were able to politely disagree in a rational manner there would be no need for war. My Father used to say put all the warmongers from both sides in a room and let them fight it out, instead of sending other peoples' children to fight their battles for them. Maybe we need a chat line where posters can throw insults at each other and get it out of their system.

Rudeness, throwing a finger, yelling obscenities and actually raising a fist to someone who does something that WE think is against us personally is, unfortunately, becoming the way most of the human race reacts, and it would appear that many people think there is nothing wrong with that reaction..

Most people would never try to harm another.

[CFrance]

Originally Posted by Madelaine Amee

(snipped) Maybe we need a chat line where posters can throw insults at each other and get it out of their system.

That was called the political forum...

[Madelaine Amee]

Originally Posted by graciegirl

Most people would never try to harm another.

I totally, but respectfully, disagree with your comment. I think the time we are living in is driving more and more violence, both verbally and physically.

There is the difference, I acknowledge your right to disagree with my comment and I do so RESPECTFULLY and have not chosen to answer it in a negative way which, unfortunately, many posters here would do.

[Madelaine Amee]

Originally Posted by Northwoods

Either this is sarcasm or it's a great example of the topic of this thread. (or am I missing something?)

I think it is sarcasm

[Love2Swim]

Originally Posted by Polar Bear

Amazing how some can use nasty and mean terms and then hide behind the fact that they speak in generalities and don't direct the attacks at specific posters.

(Hey...pretty good tool. )

Yes, or they can be folksy and kind to some people, and snarky with others. People do notice.

[jacksonbrown]

It's the same problem that plagues all social media sites; FB, twidder, instagrom, etc. That is, people will say (write) comments that they would never do face-to-face.