Age prejudice. How can we counter it? Is it real,or paranoia?

Age prejudice. How can we counter it? Is it real,or paranoia?

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Old 04-22-2019, 07:46 PM
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I have friends who are in their late 50's/early 60's who are very highly educated, intelligent, and experienced professionals who can't find work. One is an extremely smart mechanical engineer who is totally sick of being rejected for jobs by much younger and less experienced people. One the other hand, I went golfing last week up North, and for the first time in my life, I got the senior citizen greens fee rate, I saved $9 and rather enjoyed it. And yes, people used to call me dude, now they call me sir. I prefer dude, but I guess dudes don't have very thin gray hair?
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Old 04-22-2019, 08:08 PM
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Even the movies discriminate on age. Did anyone else ever pass as a child, or try to do so, after one reached the age of having to purchase an adult ticket?

When I had reached 55, the age of being entitled to a senior discount at the movies locally, I was single and dating. I used to never ask for a senior discount on a date so I would not appear cheap or 'old'. At age 56 I had started to date a 37 year old woman who I took to the movies. She knew how old I was, at the box office teased me about it, and insisted I ask for a senior ticket, which I did. Although we only dated a couple years we remain friends and get together from time to time. When she turned 55 I took her to the movies and bought her a senior ticket! Yes, she had to show her ID to get it!
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Old 04-22-2019, 09:03 PM
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I don't get carded when I buy a drink anymore, because people think I'm too old-looking to be under 21. And yet, they won't give me a senior discount at the supermarket because they say I have to be 60, and I don't look old enough to qualify.

When I applied for a desk job last year (before we knew we'd be moving to Florida), the interviewer asked me if I expected to need time off to take care of grandchildren. That one really took me by surprise. I totally didn't see that coming. The answer was no, but I felt resentful that he put me in a position where I'd have to either answer it, or explain why I refused to answer it.
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Old 04-23-2019, 06:30 AM
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Even the movies discriminate on age. Did anyone else ever pass as a child, or try to do so, after one reached the age of having to purchase an adult ticket?

When I had reached 55, the age of being entitled to a senior discount at the movies locally, I was single and dating. I used to never ask for a senior discount on a date so I would not appear cheap or 'old'. At age 56 I had started to date a 37 year old woman who I took to the movies. She knew how old I was, at the box office teased me about it, and insisted I ask for a senior ticket, which I did. Although we only dated a couple years we remain friends and get together from time to time. When she turned 55 I took her to the movies and bought her a senior ticket! Yes, she had to show her ID to get it!
The first time I went on a date to the movies, the guy that took me went to the window and said: "one adult, and one child". Being 18, I was totally offended. I ended up marrying the cheap jerk anyway. Didn't last.
I wouldn't think that here in TV, you would meet up with much age discrimination because of the demographics. (There's that word again!) Except maybe against younger people. For example, even though my hard-working daughter is a resident, she can't swim in most of the pools, because she is under 30.
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The first time I went on a date to the movies, the guy that took me went to the window and said: "one adult, and one child". Being 18, I was totally offended. I ended up marrying the cheap jerk anyway. Didn't last.
I wouldn't think that here in TV, you would meet up with much age discrimination because of the demographics. (There's that word again!) Except maybe against younger people. For example, even though my hard-working daughter is a resident, she can't swim in most of the pools, because she is under 30.
Interesting perspective...thanks for sharing.
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I have not noticed any age discrimination here. People are people everywhere you go, some you like, some you don't, age has not been a factor in that for us. I do remember many many years ago when we bought our first house our neighbors were an extremely attractive older couple and I used to envy them because they were having so much fun on their side of the 6ft privacy fence, every Friday night in the summer they would have friends visit for wine and cheese while I was putting young children to bed!!!
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You ask a 19 or 20 year old and many would tell you “I can serve my country and be shot at in Iraq but can’t have a beer in this great country of ours”. I got bad news for you Son, soon you will have to be 21 in order to light up a cigarette. Discrimination? I can vaguely remember when in my State a female age 18 could drink but a male had to be 21. Discrimination? Because I was just short of 21 years of age, my mother had to actually sign for me to get married but my wife, now of over 50 years, who was barely 18 , and just graduated from H.S., could sign for herself. Over the years, we both have laughed about that! I’ve said all that to say this. Now that I’m older, I really don’t feel discriminated against - - I get discounts in many places and since I’m older I feel entitled. Isn’t this a great Country or what?
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I can't understand the logic of allowing 18 year olds to serve their country and vote, but not be able to legally drink. If you are old enough to be able to determine who our elected officials are and carry a loaded firearm, why aren't you old enough to drink? To further the point, an 18 year old committing a crime is tried as an adult. So if you are considered an adult, why can't you make the decision to drink or not? I hate double standards. To make it worse, the dominate political party in my home state up north is pushing to lower the voting age to 16?
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Discriminate and it's other forms seem to be more used as a negative.
Much of our daily lives function with discrimination.

Refresher on the meaning of discrimination:

Discriminate | Definition of Discriminate by Merriam-Webster
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I don't get carded when I buy a drink anymore, because people think I'm too old-looking to be under 21. And yet, they won't give me a senior discount at the supermarket because they say I have to be 60, and I don't look old enough to qualify.

When I applied for a desk job last year (before we knew we'd be moving to Florida), the interviewer asked me if I expected to need time off to take care of grandchildren. That one really took me by surprise. I totally didn't see that coming. The answer was no, but I felt resentful that he put me in a position where I'd have to either answer it, or explain why I refused to answer it.
Having performed literally hundreds and hundreds of in-person interviews in my previous life...the question you were asked was against the law.

There's a whole, long list, of questions that can't be legally asked...and that is but one of them.

It IS legal to ask if there's any reason that you might be unable to work weekends, odd shifts or during certain days of the week, but you do NOT have to explain what those reasons are...even if you were to answer 'yes.'

Not to say that the potential employer won't illegally discriminate due to your answers/non-answers, as that sadly still happens all of the time...but they have no right to ask certain questions in the first place.
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