I make my own wine, and often bring it as a present. Here's the deal: There is no guarantee that the wine you brought will be well received by the dinner guests. When a host or hostess has spent a lot of time preparing a meal and picking out the wine THEY decided would pair nicely with what hey have prepared, it's a bit presumptuous to assume that they will brush that aside for whatever you happened to walk through the door with, unless you've discussed it ahead of time with the cook.

I do appreciate it when at some point the recipient of my gift acknowledges it. Unfortunately, since they know I made it myself, I can never believe I got an honest review.

When I bring wine and they try to serve it, I always say, "I was hoping you had something better than that to drink". But, seriously, the wine you bring is a gift and the host has no obligation to serve it.

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The underlined above...says it all.

I've never even heard of someone wanting to get their bottle back...because it wasn't used for a preplanned dinner at someone else's home. :ohdear:

Learn something new every day I guess.

These responses are hysterical! This bottle of wine was to my family's house. I just know my sister will slurp it down by herself. I should have grabbed it back to my car while she was in the bathroom! Actually, I have a wine purse. I should have slipped it back in there and replaced it with a Lakeridge!

Yes. I will bring a cork screw and say "may I" or "allow me". :wine: or, I'll just uncork it and say, "this one needs to breathe"!!!

If you show up with a bottle of wine, it is a gift and the hostess can decide to keep it, serve it, or whatever. If I am going to bring wine I want served, I call before and tell the hostess that I would like to bring a bottle to serve with a dinner course, what will you be serving? After she responds, I say I will bring a bottle for X course if that works OK for you. I chill it if required or get it to whatever the proper temperature is, offer to open it to breathe when the proper time for that is, and voila, my wine is served.

If just a gift I put it in a wine bag and would never expect it to be served. But hey, I can drink Boone's Farm anytime.

AHA! The plot thickens............

Oh my! This thread is already into its third page of whining about wine.

Maybe you will get it back at yourparty

don't want to be smoking either. GOD don't like that, he told somebody. :ohdear:

I'm sometimes invited to play tennis on clay at private resident. I always bring two cans of balls for clay courts and leave them. We also was invited for dinner and took whine, we didn't think of taking it back. I could care less what they do with it. Small token for price of meal.

Yep! :D


It just went from an 'etiquette' issue...to a 'family' one. :popcorn: