Originally Posted by Bucco (Post 744958)

Actually I believe that there are examples for inner city kids. The Cosby types, and there are many of them around our country.....they simply get drowned out by folks who find it easier to blame.

Those groups are supported by most teachers trying to encourage participation by family and rebuffed.

The link below is from a study which is 13 years old, but still applicable.

"The data revealed that teachers are frustrated with a lack of parental involvement in literacy activities at home and at school. Parents, however, expressed distrust toward the local elementary school because they felt the faculty has been biased against African American and Latino children and their families. Consequently, the parents said they deliberately decided not to participate in school activities"

Why Urban Parents Resist Involvement in their Children's Elementary Education

I have had some personal experience with this kind of things while back in PA.

The mayor and a few others felt the Spanish population was growing but there seemed to be very little participation in city programs. A few of us thought it might be smart to get the young people involved in some sports programs. We reached out to leaders of that community and they listened, but only wanted our help in setting up programs INSIDE the Spanish community and told us the had no interest in integrating their young folks into the community. No exaggeration at all.

Thus I disagree with no help......it is there but muted by the louder groups...we do agree on the inner city problem however but, in my opinion, it is being almost taught. In places in Tampa, how to work the system is taught.

Originally Posted by donb9006 (Post 744963)

Now you're catching on to "African-American", Mexican-American", they don't want to be American, they want to be an African or Mexican who happen to live in America. It's like new neighbors who don't want to have anything to do with the neighborhood or the people who live there. They want the advantages without the responsibility. Slowly the neighborhood goes into decline... Slowly our country goes into decline...

Originally Posted by redwitch (Post 744994)

Reality is that Hispanics really don't feel they are xx-American anything -- it was never their intention to stay in the United States. The goal was always to support their families here and back home and then ultimately go back home. This makes them far different from most immigrants here and creates many, many problems. Worse yet, many do not go back home -- they end up marrying, having kids and staying here, yet they perpetuate the myth that they will go back home and carry it through to their children and grandchildren.

As to African-Americans, they use the excuse of never having volunteered to come here -- their ancestors were slaves and they were forced to come here. Once freed, the next round of excuses occurred -- they were free but not considered equal nor given the same chances their white peers were given. Sadly, both issues are true. However, that does not negate the fact that many have chosen to take the easy route and stay in their ghettos and live without hope.

I truly don't understand the willingness to not pull yourself up, to not get out and do. My family traveled all over the world. My father absolutely demanded that we not only accept the culture of the nation we were in, but to embrace it, to learn the language the best we could, to live within the rules and guidelines of that nation even though we knew we would be leaving within months or a year at the most.

Those who insist on living only in their past culture or past history cheat not only the citizens of their present nation, but themselves. America is a beautiful country with truly wonderful people. Given the chance, you can succeed quite well here but you have to be willing to work hard, learn much and have a bit of luck. To be willing to live in a ghetto or a barrio, to never try to learn proper American, to force your children to live this life forces all to fail and to let the drug dealers, the slackers win and we all lose.

Personally, I'd rather see the U.S. give billions to third world countries to help bring the standard of living to something that doesn't force people to leave than to pay people here into a lifestyle guaranteed to instill a sense of failure.

Originally Posted by redwitch (Post 744994)

Reality is that Hispanics really don't feel they are xx-American anything -- it was never their intention to stay in the United States. The goal was always to support their families here and back home and then ultimately go back home. This makes them far different from most immigrants here and creates many, many problems. Worse yet, many do not go back home -- they end up marrying, having kids and staying here, yet they perpetuate the myth that they will go back home and carry it through to their children and grandchildren.

As to African-Americans, they use the excuse of never having volunteered to come here -- their ancestors were slaves and they were forced to come here. Once freed, the next round of excuses occurred -- they were free but not considered equal nor given the same chances their white peers were given. Sadly, both issues are true. However, that does not negate the fact that many have chosen to take the easy route and stay in their ghettos and live without hope.

I truly don't understand the willingness to not pull yourself up, to not get out and do. My family traveled all over the world. My father absolutely demanded that we not only accept the culture of the nation we were in, but to embrace it, to learn the language the best we could, to live within the rules and guidelines of that nation even though we knew we would be leaving within months or a year at the most.

Those who insist on living only in their past culture or past history cheat not only the citizens of their present nation, but themselves. America is a beautiful country with truly wonderful people. Given the chance, you can succeed quite well here but you have to be willing to work hard, learn much and have a bit of luck. To be willing to live in a ghetto or a barrio, to never try to learn proper American, to force your children to live this life forces all to fail and to let the drug dealers, the slackers win and we all lose.

Personally, I'd rather see the U.S. give billions to third world countries to help bring the standard of living to something that doesn't force people to leave than to pay people here into a lifestyle guaranteed to instill a sense of failure.

Originally Posted by senior citizen (Post 744796)

Enlighten me as to the why Italian Americans (just using that one ethnic group for now, of which I am "one half" ethnicity Italian) can maintain a good sense of humor all through the years when shows like "The Sopranos" plus movies like "Goodfellas" among a myriad of others.......and now "The Family" starring Robert De Niro and Michelle Pheiffer about a mobster who goes into the witness protection program in Paris with his non Italian wife and their children.........are frequently promoted depicting Italians as crime family bosses, hit men, thugs, murderers, and so on???

By the way, I can't wait to see it........we've seen every single Di Niro movie and Pacino movie ever made......plus those of Joe Pesce...etc.

BUT, why are we not insulted? How do we maintain our composure and our good humor????





The only scenes in THE SOPRANOS I can relate to are Sunday Dinner.....

Oh, yes, we did have relatives in Caldwell New Jersey and Livingston, New Jersey......but one was a plumber and not in the mob, that's for sure.

He retired to Brooksville, Florida. He wasn't even Italian but Hungarian.

THE GODFATHER movies.......remind me of my own immigrant grandparents when they came to Little Italy New York City in the 1890 time period.........and "how it must have been for them".........as poor people in tenements.

NOT as young Michael becoming the crime boss of the famiglia (family in Italian).

Most Italian Americans were NOT in crime organizations.

So, why do we have to tippy toe around drug dealers that come up from the cities to Vermont??? Especially when it's a fact of life and in our daily newspapers. It's not a secret up here? We don't want them here. Our cops don't want them here. The F.B.I. doesn't want them here.

Or the ones who cross borders illegally?

All of mine came legally and I have the ship's manifests and documents to prove it.

Or the ones who get out of the prison system and then see our small state as a "soft target" where folks are backwards and ignorant. Far from it.

They all stand out like a sore thumb, if truth be told.

I just don't get it.

Any fellow Italians care to enlighten me?
Thank you in advance.............

Originally Posted by lovsthosebigdogs (Post 745007)

Without education, there is no long term, healthy way out of poverty.