My favorite obit from a neighbor...'dont worry if you don't make it to my funeral....i wont be making it to yours'

My aunt was a social worker who worked in a VA hospital in Washington DC. She was working with a gentleman who was nearing the end and told that he needed to think about what he wanted to do with his remains. His initial response was that re really didn’t care. When she came back the next week, he said “I want to be cremated and have the ashes shipped to my brother. I never really liked him, anyway.”

We will be cremated. I doubt that any of our family will ever visit us very often, if at all. Perhaps made into a Christmas ornament so that we are remembered at a happy time of the year?

Unique Cremation Jewelry and Cremation Glass Art

Had to go to Ocala, there was a thrift store there. Lady was looking at a nice glass sculpture. She turned it over to look for the price, there was a name date and place engraved.

She thought it was the designer, nope it was ashes from someone’s not so loved relative. May be a forever home, until it goes in the garage sale:1rotfl:

“Well, you can bury her, burn her, or dump her in the Thames.”
“Dump her in the Thames?”
“Oh, were you fond of her?”

My dad had my mom cremated when she died ten years ago, then dumped her ashes under some rose bushes in Washington Park in Denver, a place he liked to visit. He could sit on a bench there and think of her. But now he’s 95 and not allowed to drive, so he can’t easily get there. Then the parks department dug up the rose garden and replaced it with native plants. (You might call them weeds.) I took him there last December. It wasn’t the same.

Now he wants to be cremated and thinks maybe his ashes should be scattered under the big fir trees in the backyard. But we point out to him that after he dies, we are going to sell the house, so it’s not like we would ever sit there to think of him.

My family lives in my heart—many generations of them. I never visit their graves. As long as I think of them, in a way they live on. Ashes? Just let the cremation company toss them, or flush them down the toilet. Treasure up your loved ones in your memories.

This is all a personal decision. And anyone who leaves their death arrangements to family members at the end are inconsiderate. Plan your own afterlife. Quit being cheap and expectin everyone else to bury you or what ever.

Loved your story and your sentiments. Beautiful!

Have thought about it AND done something about it. Not dumping it on the kids.
Going back up north same place as many other family members. Lots have been purchased and stone has been erected.

Many never visit a cemetery anyway, so wouldn't worry about if the kids will visit. Who says they'll even BE in FL in the future?
I figure it's for the convenience of grandchildren, great-grandchildren and many beyond.

Just curious - how often do you visit the “cemetery up north where many family members are located”?

I'm from Texas. Born in March when the bluebonnets bloom prolifically each year. My kids have known for years I wish to be scattered in a bluebonnet patch somewhere in Texas.

Do you know if this applies to non-military spouse so they are buried next to each other?

I was thinking of being laminated in plastic and left at a local bar.

Lady Lake Cemetery in one of their columbariums. Beautiful small local Cemetery.

Surprised no local funeral home or cremation service ads popped up on this thread....yet!

We'll be at Bushnell. We've made all the arrangements; will, power attorney, trust, prepaid funeral/cremation, funeral mass.
And we've discussed it all with the kids. Its a pain to go through it all but worth it.

Check out LONE OAK CEMETERY of Rt.44 in Leesburg, Florida. 352-326-9085 or 352-267-6409.