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Velvet 07-26-2019 09:29 PM

I was told there is an Indian saying: if you have only 2 rupees, spend one on a water chestnut because you have to live, and spend the other on a movie because you need a reason for living.

Chi-Town 07-26-2019 09:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Kenswing (Post 1667745)
Not San Francisco. But Seattle.. If you believe this article the Seattle metro area spends over $1Billion on 11,643 people..

Over the past five years, Seattle has seen an explosion of homelessness, crime, and addiction. | Christopher F. Rufo, City Journal



Seattle is under siege. Over the past five years, the Emerald City has seen an explosion of homelessness, crime, and addiction. In its 2017 point-in-time count of the homeless, King County social-services agency All Home found 11,643 people sleeping in tents, cars, and emergency shelters. Property crime has risen to a rate two and a half times higher than Los Angeles’s and four times higher than New York City’s. Cleanup crews pick up tens of thousands of dirty needles from city streets and parks every year.



At the same time, according to the Puget Sound Business Journal, the Seattle metro area spends more than $1 billion fighting homelessness every year. That’s nearly $100,000 for every homeless man, woman, and child in King County, yet the crisis seems only to have deepened, with more addiction, more crime, and more tent encampments in residential neighborhoods. By any measure, the city’s efforts are not working.

This should be of more interest to you.

The Numbers Behind Oregon's Homelessness Crisis | Portland Monthly

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manaboutown 07-26-2019 09:48 PM

A friend of mine was an reserve officer with a municipal police department for 35 years. During that period of time he talked with hundreds of homeless. Most all of them told him they wanted to live like they did. In other words it was their choice. He included this in a book he wrote about crime. https://www.amazon.com/ABQ-Blues-Cri.../dp/0578411016

ABQ BLUES - Crime and Policing Interview on KCHF TV - YouTube

anothersteve 07-26-2019 09:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Taltarzac725 (Post 1667775)
I am glad you are posting on Talk of the Villages. My younger brother was homeless for a while after we had to kick him out of the house here in the Villages as he would not stop drinking and lying about it. And he had a DUI with one of our cars. A religious organization in the Tampa Bay area eventually got him off of the street into a stable environment which he lost when he roommate turned out to be a sex offender from Michigan and the media made a huge thing of it even though the roommate had not re-offended. They just did not like this person to be anywhere near kids. Painting with too broad a brush for TV ratings IMHO. And then my late younger brother had the last long bender after getting back on his feet. He found a very good job but losing those daily church contacts to his beloved church made him fall to his illness yet again. He did have a stable environment through the church program but with the loss of that was drawn back into his alcohol addiction eventually due to whatever triggers must have set him off.

There comes a time when you have had enough. I'm going through that with my brother now. There are only so many times you can pick a person up until you realize they are beyond helping themselves. I'm done.
Steve

manaboutown 07-26-2019 10:03 PM

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Originally Posted by anothersteve (Post 1667794)
There comes a time when you have had enough. I'm going through that with my brother now. There are only so many times you can pick a person up until you realize they are beyond helping themselves. I'm done.
Steve

So you stopped enabling him. Good for you!

Nucky 07-26-2019 11:51 PM

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Originally Posted by anothersteve (Post 1667794)
There comes a time when you have had enough. I'm going through that with my brother now. There are only so many times you can pick a person up until you realize they are beyond helping themselves. I'm done.
Steve

STEVE, if you ever need to talk just PM me and we can speak a little more openly than we can on this Forum. As painful as it is you may be on the best course for you and your brother. I have experience in this area and I also have no regrets.

The only people I ever see hawking money is the people at the end of the exit to Walmart on 441. If you really wanna help them buy them a meal don't give them cash.

Watch for yourself when the people at that corner change shifts. Keep an eye on the vehicle that they take their break in. Not all of them are running a racket but some are. I want to use kind words and not paint with a wide brush. Some are legit some are total Fugazy's.

No matter how you slice it homelessness is a painful area to deal with when you have no background on how to help without getting hurt. I didn't know until lately about the situation in The Ocala Forest. Rough to say the least. :pray:

graciegirl 07-27-2019 05:06 AM

Be realistic. Be practical. Give only to someone you know personally who is in need. Or someone you don't know who has REAL need.

If you don't spend your money emotionally, you still have it. There are no points for wasting money.

It is not unkind to spend your money carefully, you worked hard for it.

Chi-Town 07-27-2019 08:09 AM

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“ye have the poor always with you,”*

Hmmm, now who said that? And is it something to get used to or do something about.

Taltarzac725 07-27-2019 08:22 AM

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Originally Posted by Jazuela (Post 1667785)
I'm sorry to hear of your loss.

Thing about homelessness - and even beggars on the street corners, is that until and unless you actually speak with them, and hear their story, you have no way of knowing their circumstances. And every single one of us is one mortgage payment, one drink, one surgery recovery painkiller, one tragic traumatic mind-snapping moment away from being in their place.

Does it mean we have any obligation to help every beggar we see, every person who looks down on their luck? Absolutely not. It isn't our obligation. But it is our responsibility to treat them like human beings and not look down on them like they're dirt under our feet. Even a nod of recognition of their existence, is better than how they are usually treated.

On my late younger brother, we lost him around late November of 2014. A hard journey with him and his alcoholism of about 15 years. If he had committed to the AA meetings and the AA 12 step program he would have done a lot better but he never really did that and lied constantly about his use of alcohol.

On a related note. I do not think that the panhandlers you see around US 441/27 are all that representative of the homeless you might find up in the Ocala National Forest.

I do try to take each person as an individual with his or her own stories though. Each is different from the last. It is a lot more work on the heart and mind though.

VApeople 07-27-2019 08:38 AM

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Originally Posted by jcvdd1 (Post 1667686)
My question is do you guys give these people money out of the kindness of your heart?

No, I never give money to beggars.

However, as I have grown older, I have turned into a fairly generous (by my standards) tipper - usually 30% for meals, and often $5 or so for a worker who is cleaning up at a place of work.

I respect people who work and take their job seriously. Since we always pay cash for our meals, I like to hand the money directly to the worker and thank them for the good service.

Madelaine Amee 07-27-2019 08:56 AM

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Originally Posted by jane032657 (Post 1667712)
Interesting topic. I am presently volunteering as an Executive Director (my profession) to help open a shelter for the homeless in Daytona/Volusia County where we live part of the year. The word homeless describes a state of being, not a person. The people who are homeless cannot be categorized under one umbrella. Certainly there are some who are fully functional but for whatever reason, prefer this life. However, there are so many people who are not as together as the rest of us. Addictions, Mental Health, Veterans with PTSD and other issues which changed their lives, those who lost their home or their jobs, those disenfranchised for so many sad reasons. Opportunity to get clean, or sober, or cleaned up and have some health care; to have some help getting into housing and job training, and life skill training, sometimes a hand up, sometimes unification with family. One day, take someone to coffee and buy them a meal and hear their story. It is so easy to judge until you get to the heart of the person. Not everyone who is homeless is just wanting to have a sign and a quarter given. People are people, everyone is different. And so many people are a paycheck away from finding themselves destitute. Consider your blessings a gift for your good fortune in life, and offer some hope to someone, even if it is just some kind words. You do not know what a difference you make to someone when you just listen and give a smile and some hope.

Thank you for your kindness and the work you do for the less fortunate. I was raised in a home where it was just accepted that you helped those less fortunate than yourself.

manaboutown 07-27-2019 09:07 AM

This, to me is fraud. There is far too much of it. Irvine City Council Candidate Caught Dropping Off Mom To Panhandle – CBS Los Angeles

Velvet 07-27-2019 09:33 AM

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Originally Posted by anothersteve (Post 1667794)
There comes a time when you have had enough. I'm going through that with my brother now. There are only so many times you can pick a person up until you realize they are beyond helping themselves. I'm done.
Steve

I understand, exactly. You can’t change other people, no matter what you do, you can only change yourself.

perrjojo 07-27-2019 11:39 AM

There are many reasons a person could be homeless but for many it is a choice. In my lifetime I have know two families with “homeless” children. The families were wiling and able to help but the adult children chose the homeless lifestyle. Maybe it was a mental heath issue but the families were heartbroken.

tophcfa 07-27-2019 12:01 PM

A wise man once told me that if someone is hungry you can buy them a nice fish dinner and they will be hungry again tomorrow looking for someone to buy them another dinner. But if you teach them to fish, they can provide their own fish dinners. The problem with many (not all) homeless people is that they would rather have someone else provide them with dinner and don't want to learn how to fish.


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