All my children have worked hard, saved and built a life for themselves. My parents taught me and I taught my children. Everything I have left will go to the benefit of the future of my family. No guilt, just love.

Life Insurance disbursements are tax free. When you pass, your beneficiaries get the cash without the taxes, unlike other inheritances. Plus, there are other benefits to you, as well. Ed Slott explains: CPA Ed Slott on Tax Free Retirement Using Life Insurance - YouTube

Interesting thread. I am getting ready to change my will, giving each of my two children $15000 per year for the remainder of their life, paid in one lump sum yearly. After their death, the remaining funds will then be paid to the grandchildren, the same way. Anyone have any thoughts on this? I havent talked with an attorney on this yet as I have an undetermined inheritance coming to me still so really dont know what my total estate might be.

I agree with collie1228. I close on my new house in The Villages in a few weeks, and the only reason I can afford it is because my job came with a great retirement plan in mutual funds that kept on growing. I can live on Social Security and 4% of my retirement funds a year and pay for life in TV for decades. My kids have good educations and are great people, but their jobs don’t come with retirement plans, and they don’t pay very well. I’ll be splitting my funds between them when I go, leaving them each a similar retirement plan, not so they will be rich, but so that they can retire on about as much as they had before they retired. That lets me sleep better, without worrying about their future.

Based on your post, I don't think you can accomplish what you want in a will. You will need a trust and a trustee who will manage the money efficiently, and not skim off a lot of management fees, taxes, and other fees. I would evaluate the cost to set up a trust and have it managed for many years. It may not be worth the cost.

Eddie is selling books and seminars.


The IRS exempts estates of less than $11.4 million from the tax in 2019 and $11.58 million in 2020, so few people actually end up paying it. Plus, that exemption is per person, so a married couple could double it. The IRS taxes estates above that threshold at rates of up to 40%.


Married couples with +$20,000,000 are not using insurance to protect a majority of they wealth.


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Love it.

Anyone ever willingly gifted their child with a portion of their inheritance while you are still able to watch them enjoy it?

I'm sorry you have an ungrateful, misguided child, and I'm also sorry you're making a blanket statement about everybody else's kids.


Or maybe you're kidding or trolling.

I believe you need to speak with an Elder Attorney, this is a good link to Attorneys who practice Elder law here in TV : The Villages, FL Elder Law Firms | Lawyers.com

Before we set up our trust and wills I went to many seminars which were very enlightening on the problems people make for themselves when they try to make their own wills etc. One of the main things which I took home from all of these seminars was only leave your estate to your rightful heirs, i.e. the children of the marriage. The reason being is that should there be a divorce, the -in-law can ask for and receive half of your son's/daughter's inheritance. We were also told not to leave money to grandchildren as it is their parents place to take care of their own children. There are many intricacies to leaving money and a good Elder lawyer will steer you in the right direction.

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Sad that you feel this way.

We are believers in unconditional love.

Would that apply to children like these two? Lyle and Erik Menendez - Wikipedia

I agree. To me, the term "unconditional love" does not seem logical. What about accountability?

My children are in their 50s and have made us extremely proud. They are both retired military, one is a combat vet, all their children are college grads with good careers except my youngest grandchild who just got a full ride to a great university. They both married great guys and have successful long-lived marriages. They call us often as do the grandchildren. Of course they will inherit our estate. That doesn't mean we are denying ourselves toys and luxuries in order to provide for them. We all play a role in how our children turn out so if yours is an ungrateful misguided bum, perhaps you should contemplate the guided part of "misguided".