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Old 02-17-2008, 03:11 PM
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I have a nagging question,

What is the difference between love and friendship??

and what levels of each are there?? from figure of speech, to "BEST" friends.

If sex becomes involved with friendship, are you automatically lovers.

Is there a universal definition of each or is it interpreted by each individual??

:dontknow: I'm so darned confused!! :dontknow:
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Old 02-17-2008, 03:24 PM
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I have a nagging question,

What is the difference between love and friendship??

and what levels of each are there?? from figure of speech, to "BEST" friends.

If sex becomes involved with friendship, are you automatically lovers.

Is there a universal definition of each or is it interpreted by each individual??

:dontknow: I'm so darned confused!! :dontknow:

I can only respond to the one about sex with friends. Once sex happens you reach the elevated status of being a friend with "benefits".
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Old 02-18-2008, 12:08 AM
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I have a nagging question,

What is the difference between love and friendship??

and what levels of each are there?? from figure of speech, to "BEST" friends.

If sex becomes involved with friendship, are you automatically lovers.

Is there a universal definition of each or is it interpreted by each individual??

:dontknow: I'm so darned confused!! :dontknow:
Pete, in my opinion, you can love a "best friend" but you don't become lovers unless you physically have sex. However, I agree with Oshun, "if you give your heart along with your body, then it is love." There is no universal definition because each individual is different and have different levels of emotions and vulnerabilities.

Hope this helps your confusion but if not, don't ask me as I'm extremely confused by your question.

Kathie :redface:
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Old 02-18-2008, 12:40 AM
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Guess it boils down to this...if you give your heart along with your body, then it is love.

The body in some cases is not an option!!

If love has to include sex, how can the physically disabled (Who can't consumate a marriage) love each other??

Or, why do virgins,(in love), get married if their friendship hasn't elevated to having sex??

I kind of like punkpups idea.

And what are the different levels of frienship???


:dontknow: I think you are confusing me more :dontknow:
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Old 02-18-2008, 12:42 AM
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Pete!

I have a headache!
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Old 02-18-2008, 12:44 AM
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Dear Doctor Ruth,

Once upon a time.... Nah
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In my opinion...love has nothing to do with sex...love is a state of mind

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Old 02-18-2008, 12:52 AM
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Pete I think I've done tooooo many posters for you! Johnny
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Old 02-18-2008, 01:25 AM
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Perhaps I'm naive but I don't think this thread is silly. I think Pete is searching for answers that have no answer. Each to their own and to their own be true.
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Old 02-18-2008, 02:47 AM
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To me, sex isn't just intercourse. There are many ways to consummate a relationship, to take it to the next threshold so to speak. Even a quadriplegic has some options. I was a virgin when I got married. There was no question I was totally in love with my husband. He was (and is) my friend. I knew he was to be my lover, just not yet.

There are many types of love -- the love of a parent towards a child; a child to its parents; siblings to each other; same sex (non-homosexual) friendships; opposite sex (non-sexual) friendships; same or opposite sex with fringe benefits; significant others. To me, the difference between loving a friend with or without fringe benefits is the "butterflies" just aren't there. I don't want to be around my friend all the time. I do my lover (at least in the beginning stages of love).

Of course, in the beginning, I'm much more in love than I love. Love takes time, getting to know the whole person, accepting the good and the bad and still wanting to be with that person, not just as a friend, but to share my home, my bed, my heart. I have to be able to trust that person to try to not hurt me, to be willing to protect me, to be there when I need them. Just as importantly, I need for that person to want and need me. I don't quite expect all of that from my friends.
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Old 02-18-2008, 03:16 AM
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Guess it boils down to this...if you give your heart along with your body, then it is love.

The body in some cases is not an option!!

If love has to include sex, how can the physically disabled (Who can't consumate a marriage) love each other??

Or, why do virgins,(in love), get married if their friendship hasn't elevated to having sex??

I kind of like punkpups idea.

And what are the different levels of frienship???


:dontknow: I think you are confusing me more :dontknow:
I think you can definitely have sex without love, and definitely have love without sex.
I think many couples have passionate relationships which include sex; and many have wonderfully satisfying unions without sex. And really, it is really very private and something people probably don't readily share.

And the older you get, the less important the physical aspect becomes, although always lovely.
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Old 02-18-2008, 03:24 AM
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barefoot,

great, this is what i'm trying to get from this post.
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Red,

Quite thought provoking.
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Bright,

I share your intersest.
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Johnny, thanks for the pictures.
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F16 , Try to stay warm, And Dr. Ruth is , or was , a gas ( I don't know if she is still alive)
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Why hasn't Tal given us the definition yet??
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A quote:

Friendship is love without it's wings

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Old 02-18-2008, 04:27 AM
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Perhaps I'm naive but I don't think this thread is silly. I think Pete is searching for answers that have no answer. Each to their own and to their own be true.
Pete,
I agree with Bright..Every person is going to have a different opinion...
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Old 02-18-2008, 04:22 PM
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I think Barefoot hit the nail on the head. I agree with every word. :bigthumbsup: :bigthumbsup: :bigthumbsup:
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