Talk of The Villages Florida - Rentals, Entertainment & More
Talk of The Villages Florida - Rentals, Entertainment & More
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I do not like to think we CONTROL our moods and attitudes- suggests to my mind a continual struggle with self. I believe we DIRECT our moods and attitudes. We give energy to them or let them fade.... as we choose. Last edited by Uptown Girl; 03-05-2015 at 10:25 AM. |
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I was taught that "what goes around comes around."
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I think sometimes that anger just happens. How we control ourselves is the issue. I have been shaking with rage and indignation at times but tried to act prudently. I haven't ever smacked anyone or told them off in person face to face. Except my kids. And I thought long and hard before I opened my mouth ...most of the time. I sure have told some people off on this forum. I am a wuss behind a computer. I do believe that depression is a real disease as some of us age. A chemical imbalance. Sometimes depression is described as "anger turned inward". https://www.psychologytoday.com/basi...ssion/symptoms
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I don't think i would ever say that.
Do you really feel that is so, Greg? Why? Last edited by Uptown Girl; 03-05-2015 at 04:33 PM. |
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ask yourself...I do..not always easy...bondage of self is an addiction
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Anecdotes aside the fact is we are all human and we falter that is the human experience. So one may contain themselves often or pacify another often but sooner or later something cracks and to one's amazing they don't even know why because the thing that triggered it was a relatively small issue.
Perhaps I am wrong but the only absolute I acknowledge is death. So if one says to me I am never unreasonable well then that word "never" just doesn't get completely digested . We all kill people with kindness, ignore them, humiliate them for being unreasonable, etc. Last edited by rubicon; 03-05-2015 at 05:01 PM. |
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Bumper sticker relative to this thread..
HumanKind - be both
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I truly want to believe but in this day and age there are so many scammers and scams its better to "Trust but verify" everywhere you go. Now that's not unreasonable.
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Someone said, "The hardest person to live with is yourself." That may be true for some, but not for me. I enjoy my own company; I'm like my own best friend and I'm never lonely when I'm by myself. And I seldom disagree with my goals and lifestyle; I'm easy going and agreeable.
Now a different subject: I don't like to make excuses for people being mean spirited or grouchy but here's a possibility: It's called "displaced anger". Say someone is being nagged by a spouse to lose weight but they can't fight back because they need to keep peace in their household. So you come along and start talking about "weight loss and health" and they let out their anger on you. They might say, "It's none of your business!!", in all capital letters. There might be a price to pay for yelling that at home but not on this website. That's displaced anger. And that's just one example as there might be all kinds of issues going on at home. Some people are continually venting on others because there's often no penalty for doing so. |
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Respectfully, DB
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Rubicon - you are correct about miserable, unreasonable, and mean people. However I think it is a choice one makes. And they are everywhere. Personally I prefer to make a different choice and be positive, happy and thoughtful of others (for the most part)!
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All the great things are simple, and many can be expressed in a single word: freedom, justice, honor, duty, mercy, hope. Winston Churchill |
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Here's an interesting technique that has been used on me a few times in the past: The poster starts out with, "VPL, I'm worried about you." Then, having said that, they proceed to enumerate and speculate as to all the possible deficits I may have in my life.
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We have all been guilty of less than perfect behavior and the causes are many and varied. For "most" people, leaving aside the sociopaths and psychopaths for instance, behavior is catching. You do this and in my mind I want to retaliate but like others on this forum, I can retaliate in a new way. I can plant a seed of goodness. That too is catching. Note it is not acquiescing but an attempt to create something better and start a new cycle.
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