Oh my oh my oh my.... I think someone is making an awfully big mountain out of an itsy bitsy teeny weenie nothing anthill. Why can't someone just wonder if someone is male or femaie? What's the big deal? It's no more suspect a question than, "Do you have tile or hardwood?" Do we insert suppositions based upon tile people versus hardwood people? Just the way we are. Actually, we are laminate people.

I think you are on to something.

Yes, of course. And who gets targeted? Men! :jester: (No woman ever points a squirt gun at another woman.)

Don't be so sure. It's an equal opportunity posse.

I don't need to know anyone's gender. I think my response would be the same but I need more time to think that one over. It's a good question.

Having said that, this is my first social media experience. I avoided other like sites.

I feel safe. I always presume on this site I am writing to others around my age who probably live around here and not a 12 year old, half way around the world, pretending to be an English speaking retiree.

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I takes me a long time to write what I write. And this isn't the first time that as I was forming my thoughts others were posting what I was thinking.

I'd rather have an honest answer instead of one based on my gender.

There you go! You just gave a great example of solidarity in action. It happens automatically. If the tables were turned and 1) I asked to know who's male and who's female and 2) Graciegirl started this thread......

....would you have jumped in and posted what you just posted? Would you have come to my defense?

I always wondered about "Pat", the a long ago character on Saturday Night Live.
Was he or was she?

I thought for the longest time VPL was a woman, that expounded on the virtues of eating correctly.

I even lost a bet, and had to buy someone dinner. :(

It doesn't make a difference to me, but on certain subjects, it would be nice to know, as some poster are a little rougher, when they think they are talking to a man. I cam only imagine the political forum, in it's heyday.

It was meant to be a fun post, so everyone doesn't need to get their knickers, in a knot. :D

Maybe if everyone posted their picture, one might not have to remain anonymous. I have run into several people who recognize my picture and have responded appropriately. My viewpoint is some people want to remain anonymous, so they can be difficult in their posting views.

Huh? There I go? Where is the example of solidarity in action?


All I said was it really isn't important, it is so insignificant, it didn't really merit getting upset about it. I likened the significance to whether you are a tile person or a hardwood, or whatever. I don't understand why you see that as "jumping in and coming to someone's defense". I don't think this was a defense but just an observation and opinion.

Posting a picture won't always be that helpful. Many years ago, when my lady friend wrote a column for the Daily Sun, from time-to-time I drove her to various assignments in The Villages. One day the event she was to write about was javelin throwing and other such sports. So we went to where these sports were being practiced. From a distance I thought all those who were involved were men. I decided to get closer and talk to some of them and, to my great surprise, they were all women.

If someone were to post a picture and you were in doubt, wouldn't that be embarrassing to make a wrong assumption or perhaps especially embarrassing if you had to ask?

So now you're assuming I was upset about it? You are rephrasing everything now. It wasn't only what you said but also how you said it. Go back and read the exact words. It was so condescending. You started with, "Oh my oh my oh my, someone is making an awfully big mountain out of a itsy bitsy anthill."

Would you have spoken to Gracie in that same way?

See the exact words in my next post down below.

Doesn't seem to me that it is really important, but just nice. I know that not everyone attends the get-togethers at Crisper's, but if and when you do, it's kinda nice to put the girl names to the girl faces. Lots of people have been surprised to learn that I am a "girl" (actually 70's and married to my awesome fella) by some of the phrases I have used when posting. My first name is the male spelling (don't go by it 'ceptin when I have to for legal-schmegle stuff) and it is unbelievable all the mail I get addressed to "Mr.". Heck, when I was a senior in high school, I got a letter from the Marine Corps Recruiting Office offering to "make a man out of me". Uh, no thanks, don't think so.:a20:

I'm still not sure I understand you correctly. Is your first name "Dilly"? Is that on your birth certificate or is that your nickname?

:agree: For a lot of us, this is just a fun place to chat, and to exchange opinions and comments. And sometimes it's fun to find out more about people.
"Where were you born" or "What's for dinner" or "What's your favorite club in The Villages" or "What kind of pet do you have", or "What's your pet peeve in restaurants" or "Are you male or female". No hidden agendas, just chatting.