My father, his mother, two uncles, two brothers, and sister were all in institutions due to Alzheimer's. My father and uncle were extremely combative to the point of threatening to kill people. It took a very long time before my mother would agree that he had to go to a memory facility. After being admitted they had no problem with him, I'm sure he was somewhat drugged to settle him down at first but after a few months he called it his home. The professionals are trained to handle combative patients, we may not like what they do to calm them but something has to be done for safety reasons. It will be much easier on your friend to visit her husband as often as she wants rather than take a chance of being hurt or worse at home.
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