[sheena0904]

Originally Posted by asianthree

I am the oldest with medical higher education. My German father upbringing would only choose younger brother, drop out with bankruptcy past, because he is male.

The week before my father passed away he admitted it was a mistake. Asked me to make sure mom would be taken care of. I informed him that couldn’t happen, I had no legal right to make medical or physical changes because he named executor to my brother.

My mom in need of long term care, there was $$$$$$ to carry her through for 15 years at the best facility. However my brother has been filtering off money from the accounts since the week after dad died. I hired elder care attorney, but wheels take long time. At last account $700,000 has disappeared to my brother bank accounts.( yes have copies all signed checks, withdraws, mortgage payments, his services $900 month for lawn/snow care) He doesn’t have a clue I have online access to all bank accounts, to acquire transactions, but no legal right to stop him, and mom is at the far end of dementia, with no knowledge who anyone is.
Sorry you may hire an attorney, but so far @ $10,000 attorneys fees, the money still disappears, every month, while my moms favorite spends her money.

God that sucks….. I’m sorry… my wife’s sister ending up being the executor for her father’s passing who is on drugs. No money has been seen and everything is still in "probate” but not nearly as much money as what you are going through. Gosh what is wrong with people?!?