[margaretmattson]

Do you live close to your parents and sister? If so, communicate calmly what items you would like. Perhaps, she will give them to you before your father dies? Wouldn't this bring comfort to your father? He would be over the moon knowing you have the items to pass on to future generations.

If you live out of state, you should accept what has been done. It is easy to judge from afar. Or, get on a plane, and help with the daily care that is needed. If you fail to do this, I understand why your sister would leave you in the cold. Being a caregiver is extremely difficult. Your refusal or inability to help pierces wounds in her heart that may never heal. Sorry for being harsh. But, you can not expect someone to bend over backwards for you with nothing in return. If she is the only care giver, she is exhausted. Most likely, she needs a break. IF this is your situation, help the family now, or accept the loss. IMO, if you live out of state, there are no in-betweens.