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Originally Posted by manaboutown
Presumptions are not facts. By the way, in this country we are all presumed innocent until proven guilty, not guilty until proven innocent. Indeed, what may have gone on behind closed doors is she was abusing him all along and finally attempted to kill him by shooting him in the chest.
Back when I was in my mid twenties I worked with a fellow who had met a woman through an early computer dating service. He started to show up at work with bruises on his arms, neck and face. Black eyes followed and finally a broken arm. His office mate and I got her identification out of him and we called the police. She was arrested and convicted of battering him.
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That is a very sad situation. Thank you for sharing. I used the word PRESUME!!!!!!! I can personally presume anything I want thank you and I'm not in a court of law at the moment. Yes, women batter men. THAT is a fact. But the numbers of men hitting/or emotionally battering women is a higher stat. And..men are traditionally stronger than women. I will not presume ANYTHING about this "particular" couple because I have never met them. But, this is a very interesting subject, because when you are financially set and retired and have all the materialistic STUFF that you want and you have grandchildren and mutual friends....walking out the door is the hardest thing to do. It's VERY hard. Anybody that shoots their partner, however, has snapped and gone over the edge. That situation was attempted murder, and that's not a presumption. This thread though is very important because it is such a hush hush topic, and it's not just about Denise and Dennis...it is about the big elephant in the room that we never see or are aware of. I've been in the field of domestic abuse for many years in the past. I have been to many trainings and worked along side with law enforcement. I've been at the side of a particular young pregnant woman (6 weeks to go) in the hospital because she was badly battered. Pictures were taken and filed. We had to wait till the baby was born before we knew what kind of legal action would be taken against this slime of a "man". The baby could have been harmed by his brutal attack. Her eyes were black and blue and swollen. A BEAUTIFUL looking girl. She and I would get together at the office and view movies (little situational stories) of a variety of interractions between couples. It was a real learning tool because she was unaware. After time flew by, she was thinking of having her little girl get to know her father and perhaps return to him. As we were sitting in my office, I took out her file and showed her the pictures that were taken when she was in the hospital. I read the things that she stated at the time of her filing a restraining order and she relived the moment and decided to forget him. No one can tell a woman what to do (or a man) but coming to their own conclusion with guidance and education is all we can do to help people. I really wanted to share my story. Having this venue resurface, gave the opportunity.