Originally Posted by Uptown Girl

I hear what you are saying skyguy, but therein lies the dilemma.... you are thinking in terms of having to tolerate (or not!) and still getting your gut in a twist.

Think about how that affects you.... because, in reality, no matter how you try to enlighten others, you are really pushing AGAINST what you don't want.
I know that well, I did it for years. Doesn't work.

Instead, ALLOW them to be, do and say what they want and don't become entangled. Sing a tune in your head, plug your ears and chant, "La La La", imagine them with pie on their face..... whatever it takes to change the channel in your head.
And when you leave their company, (whenever you feel so inspired) DON'T regurgitate the unpleasantness over and over again in your mind, or retell the tale to another. You'll just twist your gut again, and that harms you more than you know.
Let that crud go and put your focus on things that please you and feel good to focus upon.

"They" can dance somewhere else. And so can you.
Takes a little practice to pull off.... but becomes easier each time.
One of the best things I ever learned!