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Originally Posted by ilovetv
I think the behavior listed in the o.p. is fed by a lot of really poor upbringing and lack of moral training and character-building. What we've seen a lot in "upscale" neighborhoods as our kids were growing up was total lack of supervision of the kids--they were left alone at an early age and were left to their own devices. They roamed the streets like dogs and the parents would act like somehow, the kids would one day just magically turn into honorable citizens. These were wealthy families, not poor ones. Negligent or no parenting is a trend in all socio-economic levels.
And from what I see, there are fewer parents making sure their kids get a religious education that is relevant and engaging and useful in everyday life. Formation of a person's conscience is aided by being immersed in moral role modeling and with disciplined practice.
Nobody has the answers to all this....this is what I've seen and believe has contributed to a lot of twisted and amoral behavior.
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I agree to a point, but I would also like to submit that perhaps some of the core reasons are that people are no longer held accountable for their decisions, nor are children allowed to "fail" as it might hurt their self esteem.
If someone makes a mistake, we fall all over ourselves with reasons that the person made an error instead of holding the person accountable. How many frivilous lawsuits are out there blaming someone else for a person's own stupidity? We also seem to have more people on various drugs (how many people know someone on Ritalin for example) to just get through the day. Why is that?
As to the kids, if they aren't allowed to fail, what happens when they have to finally face reality that not everyone gets a trophy and that the English language includes the word "no"? Instead of sheltering kids so that "their self esteem won't be permanantely damaged", why aren't we letting them fail and if they do, learn from the mistake and support them through that process?
We also have developed a culture of "I want it now"-patience is no longer a virtue.
I can go on, and I apologize for my diatribe, this is definitely one of my "hot buttons".
I know, perhaps I should just "chill out"
