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Originally Posted by redwitch
Doesn't sound like an Aspie to me. I'll admit that if you ask me, I'll tell you all about my day, week, month, year. Don't ask me how I'm feeling -- I'll tell you in great detail if I have the chance. Believe it or not, I do it because I'm being polite. If you didn't want to know, you wouldn't ask. The big problem is I don't know how to stop unless you tell me to (and I won't be offended if you say that's enough of that subject). I won't get you trying to change the subject. Subtlety really doesn't work.
At the same time, I won't ask you how you are because I figure if you want to tell me, you will. It's not that I don't care, it's that (1) I just don't think to ask and (2) I don't want to invade your privacy.
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I think she is basically the same as what you have described. For example, she never asks me how I am or how I've been doing. I always ask her and she will say, "fine", and then launch into a long run-down of what she has been doing. In other words, being active is part of her description of how she's doing. So I don't see much difference in this regard.
And you say you won't be offended if I say, "that's enough of that subject".
Amazingly, I don't think she has ever been offended if I refuse some activity, like going out somewhere. Once I was agonizing over whether I should go or not because I didn't want to disappoint her and she said, "if you don't want to go, just say so, it's okay". And I got the feeling she really meant it.
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Aspies are guilty of thinking the world revolves around them but we just don't take offense when you remind us there are other people in the world.
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I've known her for many years and we have never had an argument about anything and only once did I ever detect that she took offense at something.
As someone suggested, we should just take the bad with the good, as difficult as that may be sometimes. And we have had some good times together. Our basic philosophy of life is about the same.
This thread, especially your posts, has been helpful in making me realize that I should be more direct.