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Originally Posted by Trish Crocker
I'm sure that the way I'm feeling has a lot to do with this being the first Christmas away from family but I am wondering if others feel the way I do. I have met wonderful, fun, loving people since moving here but there is just something missing. Meeting new people is exciting and fun but it is just not the same as being around old friends that have been through life with you. Jumping into the car to run over to my brother's house for a quick cup of coffee or meeting up with a friend to just talk about everything and nothing..it takes a long while to build these relationships and I'm wondering if it will ever be that way here. Please excuse me if I sound morose, I just wanted to know if others experience this also.
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Truly, nothing can replace our old friends with whom we shared childhood, teenaged, young adulthood, married life, raising children, sharing the births of grandchildren, the bonds that survive everything, including losing our own parents or spouses.
In our neighborhood of these past 40 + years we have all shared the bond of grieving when those once young friends passed on........we all surrounded the family with love, with care packages of food and just "being there"........ just as we did when we were all young, having our first babies, our second ones and so forth.......nothing can replace those bonds. We all had many things in common. Sincere feelings.....happy for their grown children when they graduated high school and we were invited; ditto for college commencement, etc. Understanding how they felt when all of our college educated "kids" relocated halfway across the country and world...........an entire new life began. We all understood.
It's nice to meet new folks, but nothing can happen instantly to replace the friendships of a lifetime. The bonds of old friendships live on.
It takes a lifetime of living to forge those bonds........but keep an open heart as one never knows when a "new friend" might appear on the scene. Not everyone is compatible for the long haul. The ones who are authentic and "real", compassionate and sensitive, genuine and accepting, will appear and you will be drawn to them as if to a magnet.
Friendships cannot be forced. Certain types are drawn together for the long haul.
Everyone remembers their first jobs when someone you thought was your friend was really your adversary on the career front; perhaps going behind your back to the boss or higher up. Perhaps you shared too much with that new friend, being too trusting. Live and learn.
I always tell my younger friends: "Marry your best friend"........
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"A true friend laughs at your stories even when they're not so good, and sympathizes with your troubles even when they're not so bad."
"The heart that truly loves, never forgets."
"It is prosperity that gives us friends, adversity that proves them."
"True friends are the ones who never leave your heart, even if they leave your life for awhile. Even after years apart, you pick up with them right where you left off, and even if they die they're never dead in your heart."
"A friend is a hand that is always holding yours, no matter how close or far apart you may be. A friend is someone who is always there and will always , always care. a friend is a feeling of forever in the heart."
"A true friend is someone who thinks that you are a good egg even though he knows that you are slightly cracked."
"True friendship isn't about being there when it's convenient; it's about being there when it is not."
"The most beautiful discovery true friends make is that they can grow separately without growing apart."