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Originally Posted by Trish Crocker
I'm sure that the way I'm feeling has a lot to do with this being the first Christmas away from family but I am wondering if others feel the way I do. I have met wonderful, fun, loving people since moving here but there is just something missing. Meeting new people is exciting and fun but it is just not the same as being around old friends that have been through life with you. Jumping into the car to run over to my brother's house for a quick cup of coffee or meeting up with a friend to just talk about everything and nothing..it takes a long while to build these relationships and I'm wondering if it will ever be that way here. Please excuse me if I sound morose, I just wanted to know if others experience this also.
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YES. I do understand.
It takes a while to really get comfortable, even if every thing just fits right with new people. I have had some sad things happen when I leaped into close friendship too quickly here and hurt other people and got hurt too.
Slow and steady wins the race and builds relationships and friendships and there is nothing quite like someone that you have known for a LONG time and who "gets" you and who overlooks the dumb stuff you say and don't mean.."that way". There is something to be said for the similarities in background, even ethnicities and religion that sometimes makes a comfortable fit, even though the religion isn't a BIG factor to me and many of my dear friends don't "go to church" anymore. AND we don't either... It is just a comfortable background sometimes. Just as similar political views sometimes make things more comfortable. It shouldn't but it does.
We are many of us new here and hoping for acceptance and comfort from others but we need to not get our feelings hurt or disappoint others by expecting too much too soon.
I am hoping and wishing that you will ALL soon find the right folks to be relaxed with and maybe SOME old friends will move here to make the pudding sweeter.
On the 23rd of this month we will have three couples at our table; one we have known for less than two years, one who gave us the Kool-Aid, (sorry Redwitch and JHoolman) who we have known for thirty years and old friends who live in Stonecrest who we have known since before our Helene was born more than forty years now. They all are loved and we feel so comfortable with them.
I wish you like blessings, all of you and especially my dear Trish Crocker. AND I miss the folks I don't see as often and with whom there have been missteps.. I/ we still love you and you are always, always welcome.