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Originally Posted by Bonnevie
I think the hardest thing to do and where a lot of parents fail, is not following thru on the punishment they enact. My neighbors would "ground" their kids or take away the computer, but then if it conflicted with something the parents wanted to do, they would suspend it or find some other excuse of not following thru. Both kids smoked weed, the boy snuck in my house and store money...was huffing inhalants. The hardest thing is to say "no" and stick to it.
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You are exactly right. One of my youngest son's friends was trying to get him to do something one day that he knew better than to do and told him, "Aw, Shannon, your mother's not going to do anything." My son replied, "You don't know my mother and I'm not gonna try her". My kids knew exactly where they stood with me.
The first time my oldest son, Donnie, came in all upset because he had received a speeding ticket and wanted me to get him a lawyer to fight it, we had the following discussion:
Me: How fast were you going?
Him: 68 the cop said.
Me: What was the speed limit?
Him: 55, but I was late.
Me: Too bad. Go pay your ticket and leave earlier next time or just be late. I will ALWAYS back you up when you are right, but not when you are in the wrong. Pay your ticket...end of discussion, big boy.