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Originally Posted by joerocker
Every child is different and every child needs to be raised differently. Some are little angels, others, the devil incarnate. Some can simply be told not to do something, some need to be physically restrained to stop them. There is a range of intellectual ability. There is a range of emotional stability, a range of compliance and defiance, all kinds of differences. Each needing different rearing techniques. "One size doesn't fit all." IMHO of course.
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Correct. In my teaching/coaching career I was able to observe the behavior of many siblings, presumably raised the same way, in the same environment, by the same parents, and often there would be one or more who were far less respectful and far more incorrigible than the other or others. I also observed some children from the most disfunctional, in some cases criminal, alcoholic, drug addicted, and abusive families, who were model students and citizens. I also observed children from warm, adoring, nurturing families who were virtually uncontrollable and disrespectful. Before you judge parents by their children, or vice versa, you might spend a few years in education and get a real life look at what you observe. Lila and I raised three children all three of whom had different needs, personalities, and behavior, and all of whom turned into successful, and stable, adults despite a few minor bumpy roads as they matured.