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Originally Posted by Rc Moser
IMO majority or large part of America kids are spoiled little brats, most never worked day in their life and wouldn't know what to do without their electronics' gadgets . IS that their fault IMO no lack of thing to do and parents maybe?
Course my kids and grandbabies don't fit into that. They're little Angel's. 
Now with that out of the way I wonder why I see so many misbehaved children these days? 
With the threat of felony charges you really can't spank (hands only course no stick or ruler like teachers use to use in school in my day let alone the big paddle the principle had ) or you take chance of loosing you child in todays society.
IMO it's generation thing loosing family value's which IMO started late 60's and slowly gotten worse for the majority with no dad's or even mommy around (due to working) this is what you get. Street corner or School raised Kids or mainly play ground raised kids.
IMO we could learn a lot from the Chinese when it comes to child care/manner's (course I sure they have their problems also?, But I rarely seen it) and throw the Dr. Spock book away and start over??  
There's big rumor that the author of dr. spock book didn't even have kid??? Please somebody tell me this isn't true?
Too much of any kind of punishment becomes useless IMO. I seen both sides too much spanking and too much time out's with worse results. What's the correct answer? I think when you misbehave when you was small either you recognized it was wrong or you didn't.
If you didn't IMO you turned into little bullies or tantrum drama queens which leads to bigger misbehavior? Once you get there now what? I just glad My child was not little monster and usually the threat of punishment 99% time took care of the problem. Course some will say threats would be mental punishment?? But wouldn't time out fit into that category??
IMO at the end of the day really hard Question/answers which ever side of the river you on? |
You are right. Any form of punishment becomes useless when overused. I can count on one hand the times I can remember being spanked. My brother a little more. Once we got the message, it would only take "the look" to shape us right up. By the time we were teens, our punishment took on totally different forms. We didn't know terms like "grounded or timeout". Instead, it was "You're not going anywhere until I say so", or "You are not having friends over or talking to anyone on the phone". (We only had one phone and our conversations were limited, too.)
I always took the time to explain to my boys why they were not allowed to do some of the things that their friends did or why I did or didn't want them to do something. I always hated the phrase, "Because I said so", which my mom would often use and vowed not to do that to my kids.
Both my boys are retired Navy and said that you could tell the ones that had had discipline and responsibilities growing up from those who didn't. They either could not adjust to being told what to do or had a hard time doing so. (I think the same holds true for other occupations, as well.) When the youngest one first went in, he said in one of his very first letters home, "Now I fully understand why Dad always said that he would tell us only one time to do/not do something. Thanks, Dad."