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Originally Posted by dillywho
Many of the most violent kids I have ever encountered had ZERO discipline of any form. They "ruled the roost" and expected the same once they left home. They were the ones who later abused their parents and anyone else they so chose.
There is an absolute difference in abuse and discipline.
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I think there's a point being missed here. It's not only the kids who got beat who grew up to be fine, upstanding citizens. It's also the ones whose parents demanded respect from them, demanded they respect others, and followed through with their non-corporal punishments.
Every kid has a different level of emotional tolerance, and physical punishment can demean and humiliate some kids. Why take the chance when there are emotionally kinder ways to discipline a child?
My mother was mentally unstable and had terrible anger issues that she visited upon my brother and me, both physically and emotionally. I vowed never to put our kids through that. One of ours was not an easy child to raise, but nevertheless we used other forms of discipline, and he was never disrespectful to us or his teachers. After he "came through the other side" of his teenage years, he said to us, "I can't believe you and Dad didn't strangle me in my bed!"
The other one was a piece of cake to raise. They both turned out the same--responsible, caring adults.
That's our story.I'll never be in favor of corporal punishment.