I don't know if there is a right answer. I have a neighbor who gives us food and I throw it away and clean the bowl the second we receive the gift. I don't want to hurt his feelings but I don't think he seems very clean. I always say thank you and put on a facade like we ate whatever it is that he is proud to share.
I take pure pleasure in sharing extra food with my family and friends too. I can honestly say I'm afraid it would put my nose out of joint if they said they didn't like one of my dishes after they'd accepted it in the past. Right or wrong, I'm being honest with myself and you. I think it would hurt my feelings and I'd be a little offended. Even though the adult in me knows better and knows all of the right answers and would know your intentions were good. I'd rather you had told me in the beginning rather than after you'd accepted the food several times.
I offered homemade turkey soup to a neighbor just this week who is a temporary bachelor. He said no thank you and said he was going up the street for apple pie and was offered chicken soup there and also said no thanks. He just wanted the dessert. I wasn't offended and said maybe next time.
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