Most smokers I know are VERY considerate of others and would have extinguished the cigar immediately, IF you would have told them you [or your wife] are allergic.

Did you inform this person of your allergy or just vent on TOTV ????

By the way...it is not bad manners to smoke on the golf course; cigars or otherwise. Leaving butts all over the place is not OK though.

Get over it, you're outside?????? Really???? As someone who is very allergic, I would hope I don't have to use my epi pen when I'm outside, but the cigar smole would do it to me. Now I know he/she has the right to smoke a cigar but at the very least they could have asked. There are certain things that are serious triggers for allergies and cigar smoke is one of them just like peanut butter, hence no peanut butter and jelly sandwiches for lunch at school anymore.

Gracie - I was not there to witness, but am assuming that he did keep pace because one of the ladies in the group was almost passing out with the stench :yuck:

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You must be playing on different courses than me. I have often noticed cigar butts on the course.

Discarding the Butts
 

IMHO, The butts are as offensive as the smoke. I see butts all over the golf course especially at the tee boxes. Why is it okay to drop them all over the ground? They wouldn't do this at their own homes. Some people place them on the yardage markers but why not keep them in their carts. Use an ashtray like you would at home. This drives me crazy! :cus:

I Saw a cigar but at a tee box on Tarpon Boil yesterday. Yuck.

Open season on smokers. That should make the gun folks happy.

Guess so.

You are correct that the he/she has the right to smoke, they don't have to ask permission but it would be nice. If not, they could try to stay downwind. I just hope he/she doesn't start eating a PB&J sandwich out there. The poster that said get over it was out of line.

What gets me sick on the course (besides a bad game) is woman's perfume. Way worse than cigars! P.U.!

JoeC, I agree about the perfume....and yes, I'm a woman. Played with a friend today and two very nice guys, had fun...no cigars, no PB and J, no perfume. Great day!

Okay. So... the deal here was that this person was added to the group as a substitute. It seems to me that it's up to him to ask permission to light up, and not to the OP's wife to tell him not to. He's the add-on. Obviously he wouldn't know if smoke would be bothersome to anyone in the group, and it's just plain arrogant, given today's public knowledge about the dangers of second-hand smoke, to light up around a group of people you don't know. Go smoke with your own smoking buddies.

In fact, in today's world it should never be the person with the allergies or dislike of second-hand smoke who bears the responsibility to ask a person to stop smoking around him or her. Anyone ignorant enough to light up around a group of people he doesn't know is either oblivious or arrogant.

The standard today is that the majority of the population doesn't smoke. The minority should not light up around them. I'm astounded at what this guy did.

I don't think he had any less right to light up because he was a "substitute".

Any less RIGHT??? probably not, but wouldn't it just be common courtesy if you're joining a group?

I really disagree with you on this one. He is in the minority as far as the percentage of smoking population. The scientific proof is there as to the health dangers of second-hand smoke. Plus he has been added in to a group whose habits or preferences he does not know. To light up in those circumstances is... like I said, he's either ignorant or arrogant.

He needs to ask permission, not put everyone else in the uncomfortable position of having to ask him to stop. It's common sense.