23 year old daughter may move with us
 

Were thinking of moving to the villages in fact we have four days booked in March as part of the Lifestyle preview plan.
My daughter who's 23 is thinking of moving down with us, Is she allowed to live with us? If so how common is this? she really isn't enamored with living in a retirement community. Any input would be appreciated.

She is allowed to live here. She will need to check to see if there are career opportunities here for her field.

She's not going to like it. Many old people will resent her. If she's good looking, the married women will shun her. Highly not recommended.

You forgot the smiley's.

My daughter moved here with me when she was nineteen. She lived with me, worked at Applebee's, made friends at work, ultimately got her own apartment. She now lives in Ocala with my grandson. She enjoyed TV. She went to the pool, played some games, etc. she never felt resented by anyone here. It's not the optimal choice for a young person but certainly doable.

What a mean thing to say. I assume you are kidding, but the OP doesn't know you or that you are joking (if you are) and she asked a serious question. There are plenty of young people around TV and jobs at all of the restaurants for them. I know at my age I don't want to be a waitress and be on my feet all day.

Very well said. What a lucky family able to share this utopia together.

At 23 I wanted to live on my own, away from my parents, in a big city with lots of occupational, educational and dating opportunities. I chose the D.C. area which worked out very, very well. Residing in a retirement community was definitely not on my list! Of course different strokes for different folks and all that...

Bring Her Down
 

Our 25 year old Grand daughter has lived with us here in The Villages for the last three years. She works locally for a home health agency and is completing her Masters degree next month. She has loved it in The Villages. She is not resented in any way by our neighbors and she considers many of them her close friends. She will be moving to a convent in St. Leo Florida in January and we will miss her but she has a higher calling. Bring your daughter down - I think she will enjoy our community.

23 year old daughter may move with us
 

Wow.

Our 23 year old son has just moved out ( :) ) after living here for two years. His experience was just fine and was treated wonderfully by everyone at all times.

[QUOTE=outlaw;1141374]She's not going to like it. Many old people will resent her. If she's good looking, the married women will shun her. Highly not recommended.[/QUOTE

Wow the Villages old reputation rears it's ugly head.

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I am guessing that when you visit that you will see that most people are friendly and accepting. I am sure that she would love it here but a lot of young people might want to live in more age diverse areas.

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Wow the Villages old reputation rears it's ugly head.[/QUOTE]

Over the last couple years There have been a number of posts pertaining to 20 somethings living in TV. Some pros. Some cons. I take it you have been around a while since you responded so negatively on your second post.

This issue is so personal and considered for a number of reasons that it would seem any response would be inadequate

Only on this board do I see/hear people so begrudgingly adamant about keeping this a sleepy "retirement" place.

Only here do I hear negative things about people under 55 living here. Our neighborhood has many people still working part-time because they don't want to be idle, they want to let retirement investments grow more, and they don't want to be a golf addict.

We also have a good number who continue to work by computer at their career jobs but from afar, and we have small business owner neighbors, too. Who doesn't want neighbors like this who work and pay taxes/SS/medicare that benefits the whole country????

Everybody we know LIKES younger people coming to live here. Most 20-somethings I'd venture to say are here with a purpose such as working to earn college money and qualifying for in-state tuition.

It looks like many here are clueless about what it's like to have a $1,000/month student loan payment with a new grad income of $30-35,000/year and rent at min. $750 with a roommate, plus car and insurance and gas costs. Suggesting going to DC/NY/Boston with triple the cost of living is just oblivious.

To the o.p., there are plenty of young people or young-MINDED people in TV. Your daughter will be fine here and I'd figure she's not planning to make TV her residence for the next 60 years, but for just a few!

Your absolutely correct. We would be moving from Ct and she's a only child. We don't want to leave her alone she's a bit of a introvert. This arrangement would be for a year or two until she gets her bearings. She's Ct certified to teach elementary school.

Actually I think you miss the point...
 

altogether. Most of the folks I know here feel that younger folks have younger ideas as to what "fun" means. This being said the older some of us get the quieter we prefer our lifestyle. The young folk tend to look towards a more active noisier atmosphere. While your take is quite negative mine is base on reality.

[QUOTE=Smeck;1141414]No, not the Villages.......just one poster!
And what do you mean "old reputation"?

I have a friend who had four children The three older ones (girls) married and moved out. The younger son was happy at home. My friend and his wife moved to a Sun City fairly close by, and their son moved with them. No matter how happy he was with mom and dad all his life, he didn't last three months. Who could blame him?

My take is negative only toward people on this board who complain about young and/or working people who are here and working with a purpose for their future. We have kids in their 20's, and they don't look for "noisier atmosphere" where they live. They look for vitality and to me, the working people in TV add much vitality to it.

Vitality is not always "noisier" as in bothersome to others, or disturbing the peace. On the other hand, "retired" can translate to extremely "noisy" when retirees are drunk at bars in TV or when others are sitting beside a table of 20+ people yelling over each other. It also gets pretty "noisy" here when seniors b*tch about a hypothetical $2 increase to their amenities fee for something like safety striping the multimodal path curves and exits. "Noisy" in TV takes on many forms amongst "retirees"!

I had thought there were age restrictions on the majority of neighborhoods in TV but that there were some that were fine with families with children. Maybe I misunderstood that and certainly didn't look into it too deeply as my wife and I don't have kids and are of the target age for TV.

I do recall having seen signs at some facilities like pools that restricted use from anybody under the age of 30-something (I don't recall exact details as I don't live in TV yet though my wife and I did buy a house this year to retire to as soon as we can manage it). I'm not sure what other facilities (rec centers, educational centers, etc.) have in terms of age-related restrictions, if any.

It does seem like there is plenty of service work available in and around TV, from retail to restaurants to health care to whatever. A young person should be able to find some kind of work there. The OP mentioned their daughter being in her early 20s. If she has a college degree in something in particular, she may or may not find job opportunities in or around TV.

I'm not sure what the social opportunities would be for a younger person as every restaurant, theater, store, bowling alley or whatever that we visited definitely seemed to be skewed towards and older consumer. That was just fine with us, but might not be so attractive to a younger person looking for folks their own age to hang with.

I would suggest that the original post look into what age-related restrictions there may be (if any) for housing and/or facilities in TV, have the daughter look into what job opportunities there may be in the area and, ideally, bring her along on the lifestyle preview to see if can picture herself living in the bubble amongst a bunch of frogs. I can't wait to move there myself, but I'm not exactly in my early 20s anymore!

I can't see any reason that she could not live with you in the villages. It is not a typical lifestyle for older people.

my son was in college and so "lived" here when not at school. He loved playing pickleball and got to know lots of people. they were very accepting. He had a Villager ID because this was his permanent residence and he could go every where I could except the adult pools. I don't resent younger people around...it's enjoyable to talk to them.

Is it just me or do people turn against each other very quickly over age-related and dog poop threads. Easy way to cause a stink or stir the pot.

She will love it here. People are very accepting of younger people. There is plenty to do and a lot of job opportunities.

And yes, anyone over the age of nineteen can be a full time permanent resident in The Villages.

some people do....luckily I still think the majority here are very accepting and just want to enjoy retirement and that other stuff isn't an issue

The age stipulations are that 80% of the homes must be occupied by at least one person over the age of 55 and no one under the age of nineteen is allowed to live here for more than one month total per year. Other than that just about anyone can live in The Villages.

I think that a lot of people might be surprised how many younger people live here and how many younger people come into The Villages from the surrounding areas.

There are three (I believe) Villages that allow children under the age of nineteen. These family villages were built primarily for employees of The Villages but are not restricted to them. Residents do not pay an amenity fee and are not able to access the amenities in The Villages. I also believe that these villages are not golf cart accessible.

I miss everyone under the age of 55.

I do too! Lately there have been some young adult grandchildren and people under 55 showing up at our pickle ball weds-fri group. What a lot of fun to play with them. Their energy is contagious.

I spent last weekend with my old family and my new family. I love making babies and little ones laugh. I miss that the most.

At 23, she can live here. Maybe the best thing to do is once she is here, let her decide whether she likes it or not. If it's a no go, then look at options.

I always thought that was fun too.

One suggestion for you when reading the answers posted: throw out the #1 most positive and #1 most negative comment, and consider the rest.

That is right. A 23 year old is not a minor and she is probably captain of her own ship.

I haven't heard any negative comments about well-intentioned and respectful young people who live with their parents.
Smeck, I think your daughter will do well here if she likes the lifestyle. Not all 23 year olds would be enthusiastic about living in a retirement community, no matter that it's vibrant and offers a great lifestyle. I'm sure people will be friendly to her, and she will easily find employment in a restaurant or store if she is so inclined. If she has a medical background, there should be scads of opportunities.

Oops.:smiley:

Actually, there are upwards of 110,000 people living here in the season. Good and bad. I have met a ton of good people. But ,as a young person, I could not imagine wanting to live here. Let's face it. It is geared towards seniors, as it should be. Most young people, I think, would want to live around their own generation, with activities geared toward what their generation is interested in.

It seems to depend of the personality of the person moving here be they 23 or 63 or 83.

It does not take much to keep me happy and I moved here at 46 or so in 2005 from Palm Harbor, Florida.

Highway 19 and all its traffic and headaches is something I hardly miss. More options in shopping, movies, theaters, walks and the like is a loss however.

Highway 19 is one of the most dangerous in the US. It is in the Tampa Bay area.

My younger brother was here for 1.5 years back around 2009-2010 but he did not fit in all that well here. While my older brother is used to cities like DC and San Francisco, so the Villages would probably be way too quiet for him. He does enjoy the less stressful environment the every 6 month trip he comes down here though.

There are times when I do miss the company of people of my own age and interests however.

Good spot, GracieGirl - helped lighten the thread

You will be sorry !!!!

About what?