I'm Continuously Amazed...
 

Amazed at the number of people who seem to be miserable living in TV yet choose to remain...

If I was that unhappy living somewhere, I'd leave skidmarks... (no, not THAT kind... :1rotfl: )

I agree, and I feel the same way about people who constantly complain about this beautiful country too. You don’t like, find where you want to live somewhere else in the world. That’s what my parents did. They came here.

My mother was like that. She was never happy with anything or anyone including herself. She was quite difficult to live with so I left home and joined the Army as soon as I could just to get away from her and her negativity.
You can give some people a $100 bill and they will complain that is green and wrinkled, why wasn't it $200, why didn't you give it to me last week, when can I expect the next $100, what are you wanting from me, and I'll bet you want me to appreciate it.

Some people are not happy unless they are miserable about everything, they try to suck the life out of everything. If we were miserable we would sell and stay up north. We happen to love being in The Villages and wish we could be there more. Just sitting in the house doing nothing is better than being in the cold weather but we are usually out and about on the golf cart.

You are assuming they would be happy elsewhere. Those who dislike their environment changing addresses may not make a difference. One of in-laws hated their up north home, too cold.. then hated their Florida home, too hot. Moved to Midwest, too hot and too cold. Some can’t ever be happy no matter what is outside their window

I’ve met people who had miserable lives. They tend to take it out on anyone who might listen and are so negative. They can’t see good in anything.

I can’t be around people like that. I can’t fix them and they emotionally drag others down with them.

Turn Negativity Into a Positive
 

Aside from this topic being mostly trolling and clickbait I have found that to be a general mantra around here. Comment that one doesn't like this or that the response is "if you don't like it, move." Evidently the only way to live here is you have to drink the Kool-Aid and accept everything as it is UNLESS the other person agrees with your complaint THEN it's OK to not sell. :)

Any YES, moving from the northeast has been traumatic. 5 years next week and I still can't fully adjust to some of the stuff around here both regarding the location and the population. A lot of the good overrides some of the bad but some of the bad is just bad. There were things where I lived previously for 60+ years I didn't like either. One learns to overlook the bad most of the time.

Telling someone to move if they are unhappy is for their own benefit. They need to give themselves that option too. Why would they want to stay where they are miserable? One life, it might as well be the happiest one they can have. (Unless, of course they chose to be miserable, always find something to make themselves unhappy.)

The trauma of change can be likened to growing pains, part of getting to something better.

I'm from the north east (NY born and raised and left as a young adult for south Florida), NJ for 16 years in between living in Florida). There is nothing I miss from the NE other than family. Well......one more thing I miss is the tremendously wonderful feeling of the first warm spring day as we defrosted from the frigid winter. Sometimes we actually had a 50 degree day or two in February and that was glorious too.

Back to The Villages........I can not think of one thing I do not like about living here. This is paradise for me and hubby. He complains a lot about the hot summers but the hot temperatures and high humidity don't bother me at all, especially when I spend most of my time in air conditioned spaces.

Yeah but it’s hot in the Summer, crowded in the Winter, I can’t get a tee time for my group of 32, service at the country club restaurants is poor , a dog peed on my daisies, grandpa clipped me in a roundabout and the local car dealership is run by a bunch of crooks. Move (hmmmm) , never thought of that:bigbow:

I think that those with nothing better to do than read/comment on for forum (like me right now) are bored complainer types.

A Lot of the negative-nillies don't live in TV.

They do not admit this because they will really be hammered by residents.

Keep in mind, there are only about 100 total posters on this site..................out of 150,000, not a representation.

:ho:

I'm amazed by the number of people that are amazed at the number of people who seem to be miserable living in TV yet choose to remain...

My favorite campaign....far too often the isolated incidences are presented as general conditions.

....but the statement above attests to the stark reality.

Didn't Lincoln say "folks are usually about as happy as they make up their minds to be."?

He did…:mademyday:

People are people. We know that or should know that. Is the glass half full or half empty?
It applies to everything. Simple example, some look at a lawn and see only the weeds.

I agree in general to "Just Move if you Don't Like It," but this statement is not always possible.

Not everyone can afford or endure another move -- especially as they age.

The next mantra is "You should have known better, researched, rented first!"

Many people don't have the means to come down for several "Lifestyle Visits" or have a season of leisure to rent before buying. Most people I have met all agree that you have to settle your ties and debts before moving here. There are some that maintain lives here and afar, but many homestead.

I suspect if people had unlimited resources and were not happy here, they would find another place to suit them.

Some people, I agree, are in the business of misery -- if not for misery, they would be terribly miserable.

There are a lot of frogs here that don't have the means or energy to find another pond.

Well, as Mom used to say, "you'd complain if you were hung with a new rope".

(Never did quite figure out what she meant by that...)

I got a complaint about idiots who give half ass/ misleading titles to their posts so people will click it. This should be a 14 day ban for giving low effort titles to their lame ass posts.

I agree with you. I think far too many people get to the point where the northern winters are just too much to handle and they hear about TV and come down and fall hopelessly in love with what they see. They buy on a whim and find out later t that TV is not for them, and then it is too late. The cost of homes in the Northeast is astronomical compared to Florida and they find they are stuck.

I proudly have a strange view of most things. Friendship. For me my definition of a friend is someone who can tell you, you are wrong and you realize perhaps they are right. It is done in private.

"Benefit from trying to make things better." Read through the posts. Few have a solution. Most are I am right and you are wrong. Reality, things will never be perfect.

Many people do not even see the negative consequences of what they think is a solution.

"Telling people to move somewhere else." Back to reality. For all, if, you would be happier somewhere else, you owe it to yourself to move there.

Perfect example of an individual's happiness driver (living location) being projected onto everyone else's happiness driver, and therefore the solution of moving to a new location as an unhappiness solution.

Human behavior is generally much more complex and subconscious than what is visible.

Most likely, if the person's unhappiness is rooted in their environment, and they can change it, they will. If not, the unhappiness is not rooted in their environment, but the negative complaints about the environment is symptomatic of some other unhappiness which they are no longer willing to fix.

So moving will not fix their unhappiness, as its not rooted in their environment, but is just a symptom. . . most likely in retirement, its a symptom of the end of the fun, and being now trapped in a place they never imagined they would. . a loss of some view of life . . .

I guess it depends on what you mean by "miserable living in TV."

By that do you mean:

people who look at what was considered weeds where they came from, and miss the grass?

people who are confounded that they have to wash the outside of their house every few months to get the mold off the siding?

people who would love nothing more than to sit in the back yard watching the sunset but are viciously attacked by fire ants?

people whose only previous experience with cockroaches were the little ones in their studio apartment that they shared with 2 other people in a city walk-up during their senior year of college, and now are seeing the "big guys" raiding the fridge and making themselves at home on the couch?

people whose previous community involved a majority of drivers who used their turn signals consistently and correctly?

people whose previous community did NOT involve a bunch of political nuts plastering "This guy sucks" on their bumper stickers and golf cart windshields and raising "this guy sucks" flags on their flagpoles?

people who didn't need deed restrictions to know that it was important to maintain their yard, and that an entire block of white crosses was actually offensive to some of the neighbors so maybe put those things in the back yard instead?

people who are more concerned about their freedoms and rights than peaceful cohabitation with their neighbors?

My -neighborhood- where I live right now, is mostly peaceful, we get along, we help each other.

But there's one guy who has a big ugly metal trailer on his driveway - been there for a couple of months, with no sign of them preparing to move it. It's a storage trailer. OUR deed restrictions don't prohibit this. And yet - he's the only one in the entire section of the Villages where it's "allowed" that has one. Why is that? To me, it's because - he doesn't give a flying fart about the rest of the neighborhood. He's allowed, so dammit he'll do what he wants and to heck with everyone else.

We have another who has parties at their house every week, which would be okay except their pals block the driveways of the houses next to them, they're loud and obnoxious, none of them are over 50 (let alone 55), and they're slovenly. They don't -care- that their neighborhood, while modest in quality, makes some attempt at keeping the properties maintained and looking decent, and that they are the ONLY neighbors in the entire neighborhood that are like this.

They live in their own worlds, and don't care that the entire rest of the neighborhood has to deal with them. They don't care that their next door neighbor has to endure seeing the guy sitting in his lounge chair with no shirt, in his boxers with an open front fly, displaying his altogethers to whoever walks past or happens to be out in their OWN lanai next door, just trying to enjoy the weather with a cup of coffee.

I shouldn't have to move. I was here before those people. And if I moved every time I met a neighbor I didn't like in life, I'd be living in a tent somewhere by myself.

You can't pick your neighbors. Sometimes you're just stuck with them, like it or not. You can't choose who will drive in front of you on the road. Sometimes you're just stuck with morons who don't know their left from their right. You can't choose who will drive anywhere near you - there will be pieces of crap who will insist on paying attention to their cell phone instead of the road while they cut in front of you and come to a complete stop in the middle of the road, because they need to yell at their spouse who forgot to replace their hearing aid battery and can't hear what she's saying.

Does this make me miserable all the time? Of course not. I'm mostly a happy person. Does it make me feel miserable during the individual incidents? You bet. It harshes my mellow. Do I get over it? Yup, sure do. Usually a few minutes later.

Does it mean I should leave? Nope.

Does it mean you have to be able to relate to it? Nope.

I am, however, amazed by people who are incapable of comprehending why some folks have - human responses - to human experiences.

this brings up the question, with modern medicine, is a quick and sudden death now better than a very slow and drawn out decline?

ooof. . . .

I had a co worker like that, we called her Mrs. Miserable. Everything was negative. We avoided her like the plague, or now days like Covid....Life is what you make it...

The older I get the more the lyrics to Johnny Mercer's song Ac-cent-tchu-ate The Positive make sense to me

"You've got to accentuate the positive
Eliminate the negative
Latch on to the affirmative
Don't mess with Mister In-Between..."

Not at all so. Cost of homes actually has gone up throughout the nation. Perhaps, more so in Florida. My point. Assuming you lived up north and wish to return. You can sell your home in the Villages for more than you paid for it and buy a northern home, similar to what you had. You will not only sell your villages home for more than you paid for it but the northern home will cost you more than your sold yours for.

People are only stuck if they stick themselves. Happiness is a choice. People are happy and miserable by their own choice.

Snow is pretty except when you need to get to work. I still remember my OLD snow blower that ran great all summer but refused to run in the snow. Perhaps, it had more sense than I did. I remember our neighbor from across the street coming over with hot cocoa. I got rid of my snow shovels. When, I got here I bought a manure shovel.
This time was I to DECIDE to move I would take it. It would work fine in the snow.
Northern Ice scrapers. Tough to find in Florida. They are perfect for scraping love bugs off your windshield.

HAPPINESS IS A CHOICE.

Left out is the case where one spouse loves it and the other hates it. Which one gets to enjoy life?

Positive? Negative? Realist?
 

Glass half full or half empty? Doesn't matter. Glass is at 50% capacity.

Truth, before moving to the villages I became aware of an island for sale in North Carolina. It had a nice home, several acres and a wild herd of horses. It could be bought for one million. Not sure if I was teasing or not but I suggested to my wife we could set up a Kingdom and she could be Queen. That idea died in a Revolution.

That is one SOLUTION. Happiness is a choice. Perfection, is a dream that does not, cannot, will not exist..

Aside from your personal insult regarding the intent of my post, I never told a soul to move. I stated what -I- would do...

I never said a word about legitimate complaints. So spare me your projections...

New ropes are very "scratchy" on the skin...

Much more comfortable to be hung with a well used, smooth rope...

Wait, what? :icon_wink:

Or, a ban to those who insult other posters (which is actually against the rules)...

Huh?
 

You really shouldn't be.

You've just described problems that happen in EVERY SINGLE NEIGHBORHOOD, across the country.

Maybe not all of them, but many of them...

And if you actually read my initial post, I never suggested that anyone (except ME) do anything...

This post conflicts itself. Perhaps, a state of humanity for all of us. Robert Frost, the path not taken. I had a minor in psychology. Normal humans go through two stressful life periods. Around 15-18 what am i going to do with my life. Then, 50-???? what have I done with my life. That seems to be where most of these posts are.

Many ironies of life. Ponce de Leon came to Florida to discover the fountain of youth.
Florida is loaded with senior living-HUH?

The means or the energy? All the OLD lines apply. The world is your oyster. Where there is a will there is a way. The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.
Whatever you have there will be some with more and some with less.

I do not have the answers and if I did they would be my answers not the answers for others. I do perhaps see in many of these posts that some do not realize what the real problem is-it is them.

Have met a couple of those here.....usually the wife loves it and the guy hates it. There is a solution to that but guys don't usually function well alone which is why they remarry and the women stay single. Good news is the haters are in the minority here.