Bringing wine when invited to dinner
 

I was invited to dinner and brought a nice bottle of wine. The hostess finished off the wine she had opened and did not serve mine. I know it is considered a gift for the hostess. But what is the etiquette regarding bringing wine? Should the hostess offer serving the wine that I brought? I really was anxious to try what I brought. Should I have taken it back? What is your opinion on this?

IMHO it is a gift for the host and hostess

Etiquette says the hostess should thank you for the wine and serve whatever she likes. if you wanted to try the wine, you buy it and serve it at your house.

:agree:

From what the OP wrote it seems to me the hostess had selected wine(s) to go with the meal/courses she was serving.

Bon appétit!

Bingo.

" ... Should I have taken it back? What is your opinion on this?"

Dear lord, NO! Why on earth would you even think of taking back a gift? I can only imagine the conversation with the hostess ... Uh, since you didn't serve it, may I please have my wine back. Ouch!

But I don't think you really meant that.

I don't know much about etiquette, but I am learning...a work in progress. I recently discovered that it is considered tacky to take a cooler to church. Won't be going to that church again.

We always take wine when invited out. We also always take a good wine and certainly would never expect to take it home if it was not used that evening. As the others said, it's a gift to Host and Hostess.

Buy another bottle of what you took, make a nice meal and try it at home yourself!

LMAO!!!! I'll bring the bread!

Really?

Actually, I have never taken my wine back.

Ok was this a rare or hard to acquire bottle of wine? If you were uncomfortable taking the wine due to cost and thought you should take it back is unheard of. Unless you were asked to bring a certain bottle to have with dinner, then your bottle is just that a GIFT.
We have had dinner parties that each course is well planned out and I take extreme time and effort to make sure that each wine matches perfectly with each course. A bottle brought as a gift should be enjoyed at a different time

As a wine professional for over 30 years I must say it definitely.......depends.

1. If the bottle is wrapped it is a gift.
2. If not wrapped it is meant to be enjoyed with the meal. (Further indicated by having a corkscrew in the other hand.)

David Copperfield - "I always attend dinner parties with Grape Expectations."

I think that there is a " Seinfeld " episode which touches on a situation like this .

George `s parents brought an item to a dinner with the parents of George`s girlfriend of the moment .

It wasn`t served and George`s parents wanted it back ........

I`m sure several who read this will recall that episode .

Yes. George Costanza and his parent are invited to dinner at George's future in-laws to which they brought a loaf of bread. George's father was so upset that they didn't serve the bread with dinner that George winds up stealing the bread on their way out.
f I'm not mistaken George decides to go back to his future in-laws and breaks into the house to return the bread. Of course in typical Seinfeld fashion, hilarity ensues.