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ColdNoMore 06-12-2020 06:43 PM

Prenups
 
Given the total number of couples here, I'm sure there are a number... who have been married more than once.

Just curious of the numbers who chose to have a prenup (and the reasons for your choice)...in your second (or ???) marriage(s)?

I also recognize that there are many who have had only one marriage (and more power to them, for getting lucky enough to get it right the first time :thumbup:)...so this thread shouldn't really be of interest to those folks.
:ho:

Boomer 06-12-2020 07:34 PM

Prenup?

What do I think?

I think at the point we have reached in life, to marry without a prenup is crazy.

And if your lovah says that you are being unromantic and untrusting, you had best do some reconsidering and maybe some serious running.

I have known of some real messes made by later in life marriage without a prenup. It's not just about protecting assets for your kids, although that seems to be everyone's first thought. It's about protecting assets for yourself.

Or might it sometimes just be easier to do things like K. T. Oslin sings about in "Live Close By, Visit Often"?

I remember getting into an argument with a guy at work over this one. It got pretty heated -- although it really was a good natured debate.

I think I won by creating awful scenarios in which I asked my opponent to imagine himself caught -- because he did not believe in prenups. It was fun to debate, especially for me because I was right. :) He never did admit I had won though. But I could see his wheels turning so I knew.

Velvet 06-12-2020 09:42 PM

No prenups. The aristocracy used to have transaction marriages and outside love relations. I choose to trust my partner. I trust myself.

And Boomer... she’s no troll, she’s my personal angel.

graciegirl 06-13-2020 04:31 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Boomer (Post 1783019)
Prenup?

What do I think?

I think at the point we have reached in life, to marry without a prenup is crazy.

And if your lovah says that you are being unromantic and untrusting, you had best do some reconsidering and maybe some serious running.

I have known of some real messes made by later in life marriage without a prenup. It's not just about protecting assets for your kids, although that seems to be everyone's first thought. It's about protecting assets for yourself.

Or might it sometimes just be easier to do things like K. T. Oslin sings about in "Live Close By, Visit Often"?

I remember getting into an argument with a guy at work over this one. It got pretty heated -- although it really was a good natured debate.

I think I won by creating awful scenarios in which I asked my opponent to imagine himself caught -- because he did not believe in prenups. It was fun to debate, especially for me because I was right. :) He never did admit I had won though. But I could see his wheels turning so I knew.

I agree with every word of this post.

I was just really lucky the first time. REALLY LUCKY.

For my friends seeking romantic adventure at this age, I am mightily in agreement with "Live Close By, Visit Often". Makes good sense.

Chatbrat 06-13-2020 04:48 AM

No one mentions the disparity in assets, don't know what either party brings to their union prior to marriage are considered community property in Fl--if it is--IMHO you have to be out of your mind if you don't have a prenup

I've instructed the Admiral, if I croak before her, nothing without a prenup, no annuity's, no financial advisors !!!!

Rwirish 06-13-2020 05:08 AM

Why would one be curious about this?

jedalton 06-13-2020 05:20 AM

pre nup?
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by Boomer (Post 1783019)
Prenup?

What do I think?

I think at the point we have reached in life, to marry without a prenup is crazy.

And if your lovah says that you are being unromantic and untrusting, you had best do some reconsidering and maybe some serious running.

I have known of some real messes made by later in life marriage without a prenup. It's not just about protecting assets for your kids, although that seems to be everyone's first thought. It's about protecting assets for yourself.

Or might it sometimes just be easier to do things like K. T. Oslin sings about in "Live Close By, Visit Often"?

I remember getting into an argument with a guy at work over this one. It got pretty heated -- although it really was a good natured debate.

I think I won by creating awful scenarios in which I asked my opponent to imagine himself caught -- because he did not believe in prenups. It was fun to debate, especially for me because I was right. :) He never did admit I had won though. But I could see his wheels turning so I knew.

after 3 failed marriages, wish I had done a prenup and wasted attorney fees.

Two Bills 06-13-2020 05:33 AM

My wife and I have a prenup.
If she ever leaves me, she takes the ******* cat with her!!

Northerner52 06-13-2020 05:42 AM

If you don't marry you don't need a prenup. Even a prenup wont prevent you from being responsible for your spouses medical bills.

Dlbonivich 06-13-2020 05:53 AM

More important is a co habitation agreement before you live together. Many times as a real estate agent I have seen issues when the relationship does not work out. My daughter who is an attorney used to do a lot for gay couples but anyone with assets should have one before moving in together.

runkcrun 06-13-2020 06:09 AM

Prenups
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by Northerner52 (Post 1783141)
If you don't marry you don't need a prenup. Even a prenup wont prevent you from being responsible for your spouses medical bills.

Second marriage. Both brought near equal amounts to the table. He has 1 child, I have 3.

Executed prenup and updated wills in Michigan. Really, really need to see a FL attorney to update.

Have heard in FL it is possible to get a "medical divorce" if one spouse gets ill.

Need to look into that too.

greenflash245 06-13-2020 06:28 AM

everyone has been married at least once

OrangeBlossomBaby 06-13-2020 06:41 AM

Neither of us have enough assets to care. We each agreed that we'd be willing to sign a pre-nup when we first got engaged. I guess we just figured the fact that we were willing to do so, was good enough for us.

Married 29 years so far, not concerned.

Ldemayo26@gmail.com 06-13-2020 06:41 AM

Protect
 
Yes get a trust set up. He wanted me to pay rent that just went to his pocket. He was a scammer.... finally got in writing.... said I wouldn’t pay any more. $ talks at least yo him...

ColdNoMore 06-13-2020 06:44 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Rwirish (Post 1783106)
Why would one be curious about this?

Why not? :confused:


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