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Travelingal702 04-01-2022 01:21 PM

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Has anyone noticed that, as you age, your kids start to treat you like a child, or is it just me? When you forget something, they look at you as if you were demented. They start to make suggestions as to how you should dress, etc. Honestly, I've gotten along very well and now they are second-guessing me.

MartinSE 04-01-2022 02:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Travelingal702 (Post 2078988)
Has anyone noticed that, as you age, your kids start to treat you like a child, or is it just me? When you forget something, they look at you as if you were demented. They start to make suggestions as to how you should dress, etc. Honestly, I've gotten along very well and now they are second-guessing me.

At 72 I am starting to forget things. And my kids always laughed at how I dress - LOL!

Depending on the magnitude of your forgetfulness it might pay to listen to them and have a chat with your doctor. As we age it gets harder and harder to form long term memories. But, like aging, it happens so slowly that it is hard for us to see, but others that don't see us every day notice more than we do.

I noticed me (and my wife noticed me) forgetting things last year. My PCP scheduled a meeting for me for a psych exam. The doctor gave me a series of tests over an hour or so, and said it is normal to begin having trouble forming long term memories as we age - everyone does. In my case the issue was greater than normal, and less than she could make a diagnosis from. So, I am scheduled to go back this year, to see how it is progressing.

Dementia is a generic term covering a lot of different types including Alzheimer's, lewd body dementia, etc etc. In my case one of the symptoms includes growing irritability. ( which is one reason I have to take vacations from here occasionally.)

I suggest being tested - in my case I want to know so I can make plans before I can't make plans.

Good luck.

PS: If your post was meant to be funny, or something, I apologize, it just struck a cord with me.

Mortal1 04-01-2022 02:48 PM

When you reach a certain mental age you start acting more like a child.

Garywt 04-01-2022 02:58 PM

I myself have chemo brain so that can be tough at times. As for our parents my mom is 90 and my mil is 81. Both live on there own and our siblings try to control their lives by connecting to the ring doorbell or controlling their Comcast or trying to do home improvements that might be needed etc. My wife and I are constantly asking them what do you want to do. My sister wanted to replace the furnace and roof on my moms house and I said that at 90 years old is it something that really needs to be done since they were both fine.

So I understand what you are saying but if you can manage on your own then let them know and hope they don’t get made and stop talking to you…

MartinSE 04-01-2022 03:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Garywt (Post 2079018)
I myself have chemo brain so that can be tough at times. As for our parents my mom is 90 and my mil is 81. Both live on there own and our siblings try to control their lives by connecting to the ring doorbell or controlling their Comcast or trying to do home improvements that might be needed etc. My wife and I are constantly asking them what do you want to do. My sister wanted to replace the furnace and roof on my moms house and I said that at 90 years old is it something that really needs to be done since they were both fine.

So I understand what you are saying but if you can manage on your own then let them know and hope they don’t get made and stop talking to you…

It is a good thing to listen to those the love you. At some point you may NOT be able to live alone, but not realize it.

JMintzer 04-01-2022 04:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Travelingal702 (Post 2078988)
Has anyone noticed that, as you age, your kids start to treat you like a child, or is it just me? When you forget something, they look at you as if you were demented. They start to make suggestions as to how you should dress, etc. Honestly, I've gotten along very well and now they are second-guessing me.

My kids started doing that as teenagers...

My oldest, (after being asked how to do something on iTunes for the 2nd time), once said, "I honestly don't know how you make it thru the day!"

I responded, "I taught you how to wipe your butt!"

That shut her up... For about a minute... :1rotfl::1rotfl::1rotfl:

Stu from NYC 04-01-2022 05:59 PM

Our grandkids who are 11 and younger know so much more than we do about so many things.

At least they are all polite about it.

Topspinmo 04-01-2022 10:30 PM

Depends on how much cash got stashed?

GOLFER54 04-02-2022 05:15 AM

I had to read your post 20 times before I could comment, all I can say is

GmaLisaG 04-02-2022 06:30 AM

Thank you ! Very well-stated! 😊

yourjoy 04-02-2022 06:34 AM

I get patted on the head a lot. 🙂

ThirdOfFive 04-02-2022 06:42 AM

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Originally Posted by Travelingal702 (Post 2078988)
Has anyone noticed that, as you age, your kids start to treat you like a child, or is it just me? When you forget something, they look at you as if you were demented. They start to make suggestions as to how you should dress, etc. Honestly, I've gotten along very well and now they are second-guessing me.

No, it isn't just you. But I think that a lot of it (in my case anyway) is that they're not treating you as a child so much as they are showing concern. It may be an expression of love, not patronization.

me4vt 04-02-2022 06:55 AM

Crazy Right
 
I mean seriously, who do they think they are! Ah what were we discussing now?



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Originally Posted by Travelingal702 (Post 2078988)
Has anyone noticed that, as you age, your kids start to treat you like a child, or is it just me? When you forget something, they look at you as if you were demented. They start to make suggestions as to how you should dress, etc. Honestly, I've gotten along very well and now they are second-guessing me.


barbnick 04-02-2022 07:28 AM

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Originally Posted by Travelingal702 (Post 2078988)
Has anyone noticed that, as you age, your kids start to treat you like a child, or is it just me? When you forget something, they look at you as if you were demented. They start to make suggestions as to how you should dress, etc. Honestly, I've gotten along very well and now they are second-guessing me.

This is why I moved 1000 miles away! Now they have to visit, on my turf, to pick on me and insult me!
I think it is Karma. Or revenge!

Two Bills 04-02-2022 07:55 AM

Wife and I threatened to leave everything to the Cat Society.
We now enjoy living in squalor and our senility in peace!


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