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People are people regardless whether married or single.
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Kate Rogers . . .
. . .Thank you for starting this thread.
As a single, I have had some of the same concerns as others. I am finally retiring at the end of June and will be able to use my villa and enjoy life in The Villages. I will be arriving for the winter season around the end of October-beginning of November time frame. I wish I were going to be able to attend the get together being hosted by Kitty. I have been reading all the responses and everyone seems like the type of person I would like to know. I am not one to put myself "out there" but, I am going to force myself to do that in the fall. If someone plans a get-together in the fall (after I arrive), I hope I would be welcome to join the group. It is nice to know that there are others who share the same concerns about being single and finding friends in the Villages. |
And Kitty must give details of the potluck which is happening as I type for all of the out of towners!
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Hi Katie
I just moved down permanently a month ago. I'm working PRN a few hours per month here after years of full-time work. So to fill my extra free time I plan to stay busy with the different exercise and line dance classes. Being single, you have to keep yourself motivated especially at first. Then I think meeting people and joining groups, they will keep you motivated. I noticed there are some single groups. I'm going to check those out. Plus, there are drive way parties around, too. There are so many things to do here, you have to decide and schedule. Having a dog helps out, too. They get you out. I've met so many people walking my Schnauzer Patrick. Looking forward to making close friends here at TV. |
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the boxer, Emma, barked dutifully as each person came in. She never gave up and 19 barking episodes was a serious responsibility, but I was happy to see a larger crowd than I expected. For more info, I posted a separate thread Kitty's party. |
Going forward
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And through parties like Kitty just had, friends you make online can become your new social circle. Others have already indicated they might be willing to host these get togethers in the future. Do I hear any volunteers for next month? For some this is a more comfortable way to enter this new world than to walk into a singles group cold. Even if you've lived in TV for awhile, but haven't connected yet, hopefully others will pass the word that we exist. Katie |
aaah, good to see you Katie, your post and all the replies and readers made it clear that you and I are not the only ones trying to figure out what it's like to be in a subgroup of TV's fishbowl. I hope to be extra careful about dating if I decide to date, bc I've learned the hard way that one ex can poison your inner circle and your favorite hangouts.
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The Fishbowl Phenomena
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Katie. |
I wasn't trying to name it...I wanted to describe that it's a fishbowl inside a fishbowl.
I have to be careful about cursing, dating, what I say...it's good for me. I am making an especial effort to be tolerant of other viewpoints, chill and shut up when my buttons are pushed, make friends with everyone possible, make interdependent alliances with a few, make sure the tag of my clothes isn't out (means you are available), or get help pulling the tag out, :chilout: don't hang around the bar at Katie Belle's... and I don't know what I don't know, so please tell me! Kitty |
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When dating within a community proceed with caution! |
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Great advice! when I retire next year at the Villages, I will make sure to date outside the community. |
At the risk of sounding like a "negative nell", I think too much is being made of marital status. Singles can be friends with marrieds and marrieds can be friends with singles. What on earth is the big deal? Not all single women are cougars and not all single men are lounge lizards. Can't we all just get along ???
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Personally, I feel the same way you do, but then I'm coming from a recent divorce so paring up is the last thing on my mind. But, let's face it, it's human nature to couple. I am going to put this out there for the men, in our fishbowl. A guy friend told me that men don't have single girl 'friends'. Or, at least, there is always some kind of sexual undertone, whether they feel they can act on it or not. I may not be articulating his message exactly they way he expressed it, but you get the drift. Kitty, that was supposed to be a joke - albeit, poorly executed- I would never think that, if we did give the group a name, that would be your choice. Katie |
Katie,
My sense of humor is whacky and whimsical. Fishbowlers? oh, even better Bowlfishers?!!:ho: |
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I agree they can be just friends. If there were no male/female friendships without sex, I doubt the phrase "friends with benefits" would have come into use.
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Kitty,
I read all the posts about that party. It was a great success. You got the FISHBOWLS off to a great start. Thank you again for volunteering. I hope the trend continues... |
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The Top 10 complaints by Men and Women
I ran across an old Cosmo that had an article I thought might be a great subject for this thread. It listed the top 10 complaints men have about women and women have about men. It was kind of an eye opener for me, at least where the men are concerned. So, it would be a kick to find out, if you think they got it right and what complaints do you think they missed.
MENS COMPLAINTS ABOUT WOMEN - You like to play coy - You fixate on what we're thinking - You don't understand and/or like our need for alone time - You have a complicated set of double standards - You want us to change, and then lose respect for us when we do - You see us as projects you can fix - Your expectations are set by Hollywood - You're always looking down the road - You have a tendency to be critical - You play hard to get WOMENS COMPLAINTS ABOUT MEN - You're all talk, no action - You're dishonest about what you want - You don't take the initiative or plan - You don't listen - You don't communicate, especially your feelings about anything - You're not understanding enough - You're not sensitive to feelings or needs - Order and cleanliness are not that important - You don't appreciate the efforts women make - It's always about you The one complaint I'd like an explanation for is this alleged set of complicated double standards we're supposed to have. What's that all about, gentlemen? Katie |
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Thanks for the laugh.
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So Kate, give us an update....what's happening with you now re moving to TV?
Kitty btw, this is an amazing thread...the best ones allow some rabbit trails but not too many. Kitty |
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I deleted it after being chastised..by you. My apologies again. . |
thanks, ontrack. glad to know how this stuff works, it isn't easy.
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Ron! hey!
Your honor, :bowdown:
rabbit trails=posts off topic. Fishbowl=singles life in TV Bowlfishers=laughing at ourselves as singles in TV. Respectfully, please make me laugh, I know you can do it! Kitty |
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Love bugs=the people that come to The Villages for the winter. |
oh dear, to my dismay, I get it...intuitive and nutty...well there you are. We have that in common, Ron!
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Not soon enough for me.
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I'm aiming for September. It depends on whether I can find a 3/2 rental that doesn't require more blood than my body can still live on. Thanks for asking. On another note...Is there a single male (or female for that matter) who can enlighten me as to what the "Complicated Double Standard" is that they are talking about, and we woman are supposedly guilty of? - As referred to in the Men's complaint list. Also, here is your opportunity to list the ones that they missed. Katie |
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