I don't know who cooked up those Cosmo lists. Although a few make sense to me and are valid, many are ?????

The best book I ever read on the differences in men and women is written by an Australian husband and wife, Allan and Barbara Pease. It is entitled "Why Men Don't Listen and Women Can't Read Maps". It was a #1 international best seller, first published in 2001. I have a now very dog-eared 2009 edition. Mine I think I bought in Singapore. It was published in the UK, Australia, New Zealand and Asia according to the copyright notice page in my copy. I do not know if it has been published in the USA.

Some of the topics:

Why men can't do more than one thing at a time

Why women make such a mess of reverse parking

Why men should never lie to a woman

Why women talk so much and men so little

Why men love erotic images and women aren't impressed

Why women prefer simply to talk it through

Why men offer solutions but hate advice

Why women despair about men's silences

Why men lie and women cry

p.s. This video provides a few amusing revelations of differences between men and women. http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature...&v=L29KmQxEA3E

That's exactly what I want when I get to TV. I want no pressure just good friends to hang with and have a drink with, and yes, sometimes ask for help with. Married or single - we all need human contact. I too am ok with being single. It's really not a bad thing !!

What is singles life...thanks Katie, a world of good happening...
Charles escorted me (dating is not for me at this time) to McCall's last eve, where we bumped into Jim and Marianne. I knew Jim from dancing. The music was gritty dirt blues and I can't say when I've had such a good time on the floor.
Charles talked me into ignoring my "need" to get back to my puppy dog, and said I have to learn to stay up late, get up late, "the night is young"...so we went to City Fire and danced on...my animals were very happy to see me when I got home.
I guess if I'm gonna be single here, Emma and Raul will adapt to getting up at 8 instead of 6....
happy, come on down, Katie, it's :coolsmiley:
Kitty

This usually comes up at the doctor's office, but whenever someone asks me, "Do you live alone?" in that slightly worried and pitying voice, I reply, "Yes, thank goodness!"

As the saying goes, I like having a man in my life but not in my house.

Queasy, that image is shocking....I can't look at it...
I've been single 15 or so years...I don't live alone, I have an amazing kitty and boxer.

Better? :-)

Another thing I wonder is why medical history forms always want me to check if I'm married/single/divorced/widowed/separated. Why differentiate? I gotta assume it's so that medical staff can evince the proper level of concern relative to what they believe is my sad emotional state of singlehood.

I think this is the first time I've lived alone in my life and I absolutely LOVE IT! I can do what I want, when I want and don't have to compromise or account for anything. It's AWESOME! I could never give it up.

Oh Kate, I divorced over 10 years ago, turned down proposals, adopted an abandoned boxer with whom I have a love affair. Single rocks! I'm finding that close friends and dancing excel dating for being close without strings....have decided not to date. Life is so simply delightful.
Kitty

There are too many Katie, Kitty's and Kathie's now on TOTV, LOL.. I'm getting confused, you know I'm OLD!!!!

I'm one of those weird people who although married for 30 years, I actually lived alone for most of my life. I love living alone, as someone said, do what I want, when I want, and if I don't feel like shutting lights,,, I DON'T HAVE TO.... :a040:

As a career girl living in Manhattan, I didn't have roommates, didn't want roommates and if it meant that I couldn't buy the new pair of shoes, I put newspapers in them rather than have someone sharing my apt with me. Told you I was weird...

Oh yeah, better image...! I live near Bonifay, where flip flops were the theme for the Christmas tree!

I think this article says it all about how living alone affects women v men. I hate to speak in generalities, because it always comes back to bite me in the derriere, but, I'll go out on a limb here and say that this is probably right on for most of us and it's a fun read.

http://www.nytimes.com/2012/01/08/fa...anted=all&_r=0

I see this said over and over it kind of trashes my dreams of settling down and starting a family.

I think everyone needs their space. It's liberating to watch old movies all night rather than sleep.

put my in the like living alone camp. I always said if I'm lonely then at least there is a reason...but having been lonely while living with someone--that's much worse.
I like to socialize, don't get me wrong, but I like going home to my own place...
nothing like snuggling on my sofa with my dogs snoring next to me....

i happen to be visiting a married couple for a few days and when i awoke this morning i could hear their loving chit chat downstairs and remembered how wonderful it was to have another heartbeat near me, of one i dearly loved....i do love my independence and doing what i want when i want to but i also miss that aspect of a happy marriage. i guess everything in life is a choice but dogs snoring next to me would definitely not make me happy! sorry dear emma! :)

I'm sure it's different if one had happy memories of a marriage...for me, I'll take the dogs

I have memories of a happy marriage, I have memories of a marriage decaying. I have memories of things happening in the divorce total out of my control which effected what I worked for all my life. I remember when I was in my teens my 13 year old dog died, he was my best friend.

Today I would like nothing more than to have a happy marriage and a dog but I can not bare the thought of suffering the sorrow resulting from the loss of either one.

By this age, I've locked my heart away because wearing it on my sleeve didn't work out. Trying to be more open, but it's scary...and I like friends and my animals for now.
Kitty, not dating...

Oh, Dear
 

In these last few posts everyone seems so sad. None of us have reached this age without having both wonderful and horrible memories. I would like to think that there is something for everyone in TV - For those with great memories of a marriage cut short or those - for which I am the poster boy - where the wounds are just too fresh to be willing to even consider another relationship. But for each of these memories and all those in between, isn't is possible to take from TV what best fits your current needs? From everything I've read about getting over the death of a spouse or that kind of death a divorce creates - and I've been through both - the best way to get through it and to come out pretty healthy in the end is 1. Make lots of friends, 2. Keep busy 3. Get a facelift - that last one is just on my wish list

Katie

of course you are right, kate! and all those things can be accomplished here in the bubble, even #3.

this just in from newbie single reporter, Miss Kitty...
I'm finding it very easy to find male and female friends and go as a pack to dance events, and I hope somebody wants to see Iron Man. If I wanted a relationship, I could find that easily too, nevermind the buzz about ratio...
Finding a life love is another matter, I haven't had the knack for that, so it would be a huge surprise if that happened. btw that isn't sad, it's just true.
grateful to...Dianne/cha, loaned me her friends to get me started...and her hospitality...she's my hero...sorry Tony Stark....Cha rocks!

Actually, the inside info I've gleaned from this thread has my curiosity peaked. Thanks to Kathie I finally learned what a 'nurse' with a 'purse' means - I'm embarrassed to admit, I had no idea what you guys were talking about. I'd love for some guy try that one on me. And the other is the whole 'entitlement' thing that was brought up early in the thread and Kitty just alluded to.

I can't wait for the opportunity to respond to that come on. Are there any more of these expressions unique to TV? Sorry, guys. I don't mean to be picking on you. I know that you can't label all men game players. It's just that all this is new to me. If there are more behaviors in the single world that have resulted in a 'name' unique to that behavior, I'd like to learn them- and it could be women who are game players, for all I know - but, as they say 'knowledge is power'...

Katie

Katie, I didn't mean to say anything about entitlement..
I'm pleasantly surprised at how many nice new friends I am finding of both sexes. It is necessary to have a partner at dances and I've found a couple of guys for that. I don't think it's beneficial to approach living here on the defensive. and not really possible to know how being here will feel until you are here.
I like it better than I thought I would. Not only is there something to do and somewhere to go all the time, there are nice people to make friends with.

There's nothing wrong with being prepared. Fool me once and all that...

Best time to visit TV?
 

Greetings all. TV is on my list of places for retirement. I can retire in the next 3-4 years. I would like to use my vacation time to plan my retirement. Born, raised and now working until retirement in MN. I am looking forward to retiring to a warm place. Had more than foot of snow this year in May!!!! Single for a few years, got one son, he is doing great. In great health, very active, have taken up running, run marathons last 3 years (and many shorter races), running groups at TV? I am in a position to take a couple weeks off in either Dec or Jan. Is this a good time to visit TV and get a real feel? :wave:

You can get a rental in December much easier for two weeks than January

Welcome Rick from MN. You've been given good advice. Finding a reasonable rental after December is tough. I too am making a trip down to see what the Villages is all about and to meet all the friends I've made through this thread and others - Everyone is very supportive and willing to make the transition easy. I'm sure you'll enjoy your vacation.

Katie

Double Ditto!!

Rick, do you know how to send a private message? I might have a deal for you for a december rental if you'll pm me I'll send more info.
Kitty

Kitty - I don't know how to private message
 

Hi Kitty, I would be interested Dec 15 - 20. Not able to take as much time in Dec as I was hoping this year.

That sounds fun

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My daughter is 35 and has a 6 year old daughter. She followed her dad and I here. She came with a mate and he is no longer in her life. She works in The Villages and lives 10 minutes away. She has no social life whatsoever. She is so unhappy here and wants to go back up north. Where do young people go to meet others, or do they?

i think if you search this topic you will find an earlier thread. most of the wait staff at any of the restaurants and clubs are young, and there must be teachers at the schools in her age group....perhaps she could take a course or two at the Central Florida Community college in leesburg... church is a great place to meet someone! she could also try some of the dating sites, such as Plenty of Fish which is free. no matter our age, we all have to make an effort when we come here as a single person, but it turns out well for most, even the young people. :)

Which groups are best. Some of them are really crazy and do not want to mess around with those. Is there a rating system or something to tell me which ones are the best?

want to find a male who will love you forever and always be true? get a dog!

And the list gets shorter.

Can i come by myself?????????????????