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CarGuys 08-14-2012 12:21 AM

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Originally Posted by Penguin (Post 539996)
Hey Cappy, i just read in another post that they make behavioral shirts for dogs. Maybe get one for your neighbor:1rotfl:

Amazon.com: Thundershirt Behavior Modification Shirt For Dogs - Small - Grey: Pet Supplies click here

You know brother we can get two used Gems and make some project Cars!

Something like 40+

Schaumburger 08-14-2012 02:12 AM

cappyjon, It is unfortunate that you and your wife have had to encounter such rude, aggressive and potentially dangerous behavior, especially from someone who lives on your street. Hopefully a visit from the police will convince your neighbor to adjust her attitude.

Posh 08 08-14-2012 03:29 AM

Cappy

If memory serves me, you have had prior incidents or an incident with road rage or something of that nature. Also I believe you confronted the other person before? Be careful. You don't now who may be packing a hog leg.

alfred1243 08-14-2012 05:25 AM

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Originally Posted by lovesports (Post 539749)
I don't have time for my full rant but someday I'm going to write a book about the incidents I have seen here. I think it all has to do with overcrowding and some real nut-balls.
This is not the forum to say anything bad about this place or the developer. As I have expressed before, totv is for newbies and everybody licks the windshield when something is new. Plus they put a fortune in beautiful landscaping and everything looks so pretty.
But our friends have been here anyplace from 7 years to 20 years know better. The frienliness of this place has changed. We get together and we are all of one mind that this is no longer a friendly place. Most of us came from small towns and never saw the behavior we have seen here. All of us have seen fights, road rage, fighting over parking places, cutting in lines, etc. Ask anyone who works here how they are treated by many.
A new one is my wife's massage lady said that Villagers steal from the masseurs. She is 59 and said she never saw anything like it anyplace else. One reason is they want no bad press so they let this crap go on. Many masseurs have left and she said she will be next. Can you believe it? I've heard of the crappy tippers and the anger in all different places but to steal from your massage lady.
As I said many times, I live in a great neighborhood, in a beautiful house with great friends. I know there are very nice people in here but... I never got swore at until I moved here. Got the finger a few times too.
Many people are upset and/or have left or never bought. But this is the everything is wonderful forum for people who stay in their houses or don't live here full time or don't live here at all or are new. That's ok, I once thought this place was perfect too. And I still have great fun here.
OK done with the rant. Going down to seabreeze to try to fight my way onto machines at the overpriced exercise room. Laurel manor exercise room is closed.

Bottom line is I agree with cappyjon.


Overpriced excersise room? You've got to be kidding!

cappyjon431 08-14-2012 05:30 AM

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Originally Posted by Posh 08 (Post 540021)
Cappy

If memory serves me, you have had prior incidents or an incident with road rage or something of that nature. Also I believe you confronted the other person before? Be careful. You don't now who may be packing a hog leg.

Thanks for reminding me. The incident to which you refer occured about six months ago (not sure exactly as it is a little hazy). I was driving through the Barnes and Noble parking lot when a car cut through the parking spots (not driving in the traffic lane) and cut me off (I was in the traffic lane). The woman almost hit us and then had the nerve to give us the finger. Yes, I did TRY to confront her, but she tore out of the parking lot when she saw I was trying to catch up to her. Unfortunately my GEM couln't keep up with her.

I'll take my chances with those who may be "packing a hog leg." I refuse to be bullied and simply ignoring the rude behavior guarentees it continues. IMHO it's time that people stand up to these rude bullies. That being said, in the latest incident the woman threatenend my wife and I thought it best that she contact the police.

alfred1243 08-14-2012 05:31 AM

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Originally Posted by cappyjon431 (Post 539991)
This is precisely why we continue to drive on the street and try to avoid driving in the golf cart lanes. Because our GEM does 26 mph and most golf carts are limited to 19 mph, we do not want to be threatening to the slower carts.

The only time I EVER drive in a cart lane is when I drive on Morse north of 466 where there is only one lane available. I don't like driving in the street there because there is no passing lane available and I don't want to be going down the road at 26 mph when the posted speed limit is 30 mph (that really might trigger some road rage!).


You've hit on one of the real issues with street legal carts. If your top speed is 26 mph what are you doing on roads with 35 mph speed limits other than holding up traffic and causing peope to unnecesarily change lanes simply because you are holding up the normal flow of traffic. Can see where this would be very irritating especially when traffic is heavy.

cappyjon431 08-14-2012 05:37 AM

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Originally Posted by alfred1243 (Post 540032)
You've hit on one of the real issues with street legal carts. If your top speed is 26 mph what are you doing on roads with 35 mph speed limits other than holding up traffic and causing peope to unnecesarily change lanes simply because you are holding up the normal flow of traffic. Can see where this would be very irritating especially when traffic is heavy.

That is why I only ride on roads where the speed limit is 35 mph WHEN there are two lanes.

What I am doing on the road is what I am legally entitled to do. The law says LSVs are allowed on streets with speed limits up to 35 mph.

I encounter street legal carts on TV's roads EVERYDAY when I am driving my car, sometimes they slow me down, but I've NEVER found it "very irritating." NEVER.

2 Oldcrabs 08-14-2012 06:15 AM

Wow
 
What is wrong with a "street legal" doing 25 mph on a 35 mph road? Can I do 25mph in my car? I think I will start driving 25 mph on all 35 mph roads. I like gettin "the finger", it makes me feel like they are telling me I am "# one"! Lets not forget all the regular Golf carts going 25-30 mph on the paths that cut me off and give me the finger for going 19 mph. TV is still a very friendly Place until someone gets behind the "Wheel":mad:

hoseman 08-14-2012 07:44 AM

1. What's a GEM?

2. 25 in a 35, are there opportunities to pull over to let cars pass?

WVMtnBoy 08-14-2012 07:58 AM

I feel your pain, Cappy. We've not been here that long and have seen/avoided some really rude and silly behavior. But, having said that, I still don't regret my choice to relocate to TV. No place is perfect and that includes TV. I choose to believe that the rude and inconsiderate are vastly outnumbered by the friendly and courteous!

Illigetimi non carborundum!!!!

ariel 08-14-2012 08:26 AM

Sorry for your experience; but I’m afraid it may not be uncommon anymore.

If the speed limit is 35 and I’m going 25, the courteous thing to do is to pull over (when safe to do so) and let any backed up traffic pass – which is what I do. But 35 is the speed “limit”. If memory serves me correctly, there are some highways that have minimum speed limits, but not inside TV.

As the seasonal and year round population increases, maybe a reminder campaign to “share the road” or something similar would be a good idea.

I often am slightly amused when a hurried driver rips around me and we both end up at the next traffic light together. Maybe he/she eventually gets to their destination a few minutes (and, literally, on short trips, it is just minutes) earlier than they would have had they been a little less stressed; I wonder if they ever think that these aggressive driving attitudes increases the risk of the tiny mistake that might take the life of a cyclist, a golf cart occupant, the occupant of another auto, themselves or their passenger.

We should become wiser with age; slow down out there – aggressive driving is dangerous on so many levels.

Penguin 08-14-2012 08:45 AM

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Originally Posted by CarGuys (Post 540006)
You know brother we can get two used Gems and make some project Cars!

Something like 40+

I vote for putting sportster motors in them and then doing 100 foot burnouts whenever we feel like it. All in the safest possible way of course. :loco:

billethkid 08-14-2012 08:58 AM

I vote for agreeing there is a minority of inconsiderate drivers here in TV (like every where else).....the other 90+++% are enjoying being here.

Just know that you live in an aging community and you just have to resign yourself to defensive driving......

I do not have any sympathy for those who choose to drive a golf cart in competition with automobiles and trucks. On so many levels that just does not make sense....in addition to the cost.....must be saving some seconds or even minutes matter that much to some retirees with plenty of time to ....RELAX.

To each his own however and what ever....

btk

Josie70 08-14-2012 08:58 AM

[QUOTE=dalecrenshaw;539654]These people, and people like this, are going to ruin it for the rest of us law abiding, safe drivers, who are courteous to the rest of the people around us. It is a privilege to be able to drive our golf cart (on legal roads & pathways) and GEM Cars on the streets in the Villages. Where else, in the rest of the world can you do this. If we have enough incidents like this, with rude & dangerous jerks, they will take away our privileges. It is already hard to get golf cart insurance (especially for the snow birds) and the insurance will continue to go up with behavior like this. I just hope that the people in charge don't get to the point that they have had enough of stuff like this, and take away our privilege to drive the golf carts.[/QUOT

The same thing happened to us when we first came down here a car cut us off and she gave us the finger....There are alot of peoploe down here that are not very friendly you pick and choose your friends,and then get rid of the ones that you don't want.....Thank god the both of you were not hurt.....:wave:

PennBF 08-14-2012 08:59 AM

Remember
 
Please all remember this is a community made up of over 90,000 people, without its own police force and a very limited amount of crime. Mostly
over indulgence as the cause. Point me to another city of this size that is better than The Villages for this social behavior and hardley any crime and
I will sell and move there. Also remember there are hundreds of people that
get togehter to hear music every night and they do it with class and peace.
So there is one alleged "nut" that is anti social and uses bad behavior as a way to get attention or get rid of his/her anger. That is pretty darn good
for a community as popluated as The Villages. Count yourself lucky that you found and moved to The Villages. Pray for the poor unfortunate person that threatens someone. This is a retirement community..If you are in a hurry
then for gods sake move to NY City, Chicago or Miami and come back when you can respect others.:wave:

justjim 08-14-2012 09:21 AM

Cappy: I really can't add anything to the posts as they pretty much say everything. One point, should you or any of us, run into road rage it is best to report it immediately as it is happening. The police can't do much except talk to the person or persons later. I am interested to see if you get any response at all from the Sheriff's Department.

It certainly sounds like the lady involved has a mental/behavior problem. There can be many causes for behavior like you described. As you indicated, she did not respond rationally when your wife attempted an "adult discussion" of the incident.

Street Legals, trucks, cars, scooters/motorcycles, bicycles, golf carts, runners and walkers can co-exist in TV but it takes some patience on all our parts. I don't know if it can be changed but it might help if they would change the speed limit on Street Legals to 30 or 35 miles per hour. If I had one, I think that I would contact my State Legislators regarding the possibility. Anyway, lets all be careful out there.

Bogie Shooter 08-14-2012 10:00 AM

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Originally Posted by billethkid (Post 540151)
I vote for agreeing there is a minority of inconsiderate drivers here in TV (like every where else).....the other 90+++% are enjoying being here.

Just know that you live in an aging community and you just have to resign yourself to defensive driving......

I do not have any sympathy for those who choose to drive a golf cart in competition with automobiles and trucks. On so many levels that just does not make sense....in addition to the cost.....must be saving some seconds or even minutes matter that much to some retirees with plenty of time to ....RELAX.

To each his own however and what ever....

btk

As usual a common sense posting. I agree.

Bogie Shooter 08-14-2012 10:01 AM

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Originally Posted by PennBF (Post 540155)
Please all remember this is a community made up of over 90,000 people, without its own police force and a very limited amount of crime. Mostly
over indulgence as the cause. Point me to another city of this size that is better than The Villages for this social behavior and hardley any crime and
I will sell and move there. Also remember there are hundreds of people that
get togehter to hear music every night and they do it with class and peace.
So there is one alleged "nut" that is anti social and uses bad behavior as a way to get attention or get rid of his/her anger. That is pretty darn good
for a community as popluated as The Villages. Count yourself lucky that you found and moved to The Villages. Pray for the poor unfortunate person that threatens someone. This is a retirement community..If you are in a hurry
then for gods sake move to NY City, Chicago or Miami and come back when you can respect others.:wave:

:agree:

Challenger 08-14-2012 10:03 AM

Some posters have so many issues and confrontations. My wife and I Have owned in TV for 2 yrs and relocated here a year ago. We have had one or two head shaking episodes, but certainly no more than when we were living in the Balt/Wash area. What are we missing?? We have found TV on the most part to be very friendly.

cappyjon431 08-14-2012 10:15 AM

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Originally Posted by ariel (Post 540128)
Sorry for your experience; but I’m afraid it may not be uncommon anymore.

If the speed limit is 35 and I’m going 25, the courteous thing to do is to pull over (when safe to do so) and let any backed up traffic pass – which is what I do. But 35 is the speed “limit”. If memory serves me correctly, there are some highways that have minimum speed limits, but not inside TV. .

As far as I know (and I may be wrong), every street in TV where the speed limit is 35 mph (e.g. El Camino Real, Buena Vista) has two lanes, one of which can and should be used for passing slower moving traffic.

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Originally Posted by ariel (Post 540128)
As the seasonal and year round population increases, maybe a reminder campaign to “share the road” or something similar would be a good idea.

An excellent idea!

Quote:

Originally Posted by ariel (Post 540128)
I often am slightly amused when a hurried driver rips around me and we both end up at the next traffic light together. Maybe he/she eventually gets to their destination a few minutes (and, literally, on short trips, it is just minutes) earlier than they would have had they been a little less stressed; I wonder if they ever think that these aggressive driving attitudes increases the risk of the tiny mistake that might take the life of a cyclist, a golf cart occupant, the occupant of another auto, themselves or their passenger.

Very keen observation. I see this all the time and I can't help but think how silly this type of behavior is. As you so concisely noted, in most cases this "need for speed" saves very few minutes on the shorter trips that most of us take within TV.

cappyjon431 08-14-2012 10:20 AM

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Originally Posted by Challenger (Post 540188)
Some posters have so many issues and confrontations. My wife and I Have owned in TV for 2 yrs and relocated here a year ago. We have had one or two head shaking episodes, but certainly no more than when we were living in the Balt/Wash area. What are we missing?? We have found TV on the most part to be very friendly.

I too have found the LARGE majority of resident to be exceedingly friendly, but it doesn't mean we are not entitled to be upset/angry at the ones who are not only menaces on the road, but extremely rude on top of it. I may be wrong, but it is probably just a matter of time before one of these incidents happens to you or someone you love (imagine someone purposely running your wife/husband off the road and then stop to consider how you would react).

cappyjon431 08-14-2012 10:27 AM

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Originally Posted by CarGuys (Post 540006)
You know brother we can get two used Gems and make some project Cars!

Something like 40+

There is actually a company called Ride-4-Fun that puts a 7.5hp motor on gems, reprograms the controller, and sells 14 inch wheels. This combination has been known to increase GEM speeds to approximately 45 mph.

For info: Gem Car - Accessories, Parts & High Performance GEM Cars - We're the Direct Source!

hdh1470 08-14-2012 10:41 AM

My wife doing home health in the villages and sees this happen all the time.People are in a hurry and going 10 under bothers them.Even at this time of year see back ups caused by slower moving vehicles.It makes it unsafe.I would never own one its only a matter of time before someone gets hurt.Either carts need more speed or limits lowered.Your always going to have bad auto drivers why put yourself in harm.

Sanibel7 08-14-2012 10:55 AM

My husband and I were in our street legal cart when we first moved here a few years ago and encountered a woman yelling at us that we are not allowed on the road she was so mad at us it looked liked she wanted to run us off the road because she kept looking at the side of our cart and getting closer. This was on buena vista coming back from the Miona Rec Center. It was scary and she really scary. She was driving a large sliver car could this be the same person?

cappyjon431 08-14-2012 11:14 AM

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Originally Posted by Sanibel7 (Post 540213)
My husband and I were in our street legal cart when we first moved here a few years ago and encountered a woman yelling at us that we are not allowed on the road she was so mad at us it looked liked she wanted to run us off the road because she kept looking at the side of our cart and getting closer. This was on buena vista coming back from the Miona Rec Center. It was scary and she really scary. She was driving a large sliver car could this be the same person?

It's possible. It was a silver Toyota Corolla, and while I don't think of this as a "large" car, they all look pretty large when they are next to a golf cart.

jazzy48 08-14-2012 11:40 AM

With all that has been said, I'd just like to add a note on the confrontation issue.

Keep in mind that Florida does have the "stand your ground" law. While you may be very polite in your confrontation with the rude offender, they may view your confrontation as threatening. There are nut cases everywhere, and one might (I saw might) even be a neighbor.

Barefoot 08-14-2012 11:48 AM

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Originally Posted by CarGuys (Post 540005)

I recently hired a well know landscaper and had a few simple questions was concerned over a part of the job. Drove out to his nursery for help. That ended up with the owner screaming at me and my wife as if he was God of the Villages with his ego and infered reputation being challenged. HOW DARE we ask a question! Heaven forbid! I wake up ever morning hoping it gets better.

Sorry for the hi-jack, but I'm quite sure I know the landscaper you're talking about. I've had a similar encounter. Luckily there are many reputable landscapers out there.

NJblue 08-14-2012 12:26 PM

There are several issues here. One is the prudence of driving a street legal on a road with a 35 MPH limit. As a street legal owner myself, I would never do it and shake my head in wonderment about why anyone would do so.

Of course the real issue here is one of "friendliness" versus road rage and clearly those who exhibit such rage are in the wrong.

A third issue is captured in the title, concerning the question of this being the "friendliest hometown". For it to not be the friendliest, one would have to point to other communities where driving 10 mph under the limit in a golf cart (when there are designated golf cart lanes/paths available) is met with a friendly wave and a smile by 100 percent of the residents. I dare say that if you were to do this in any community in the country you would find at least a few who would give you the one-finger solute or worse.

rubicon 08-14-2012 12:37 PM

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Originally Posted by Challenger (Post 540188)
Some posters have so many issues and confrontations. My wife and I Have owned in TV for 2 yrs and relocated here a year ago. We have had one or two head shaking episodes, but certainly no more than when we were living in the Balt/Wash area. What are we missing?? We have found TV on the most part to be very friendly.

Give it a little more time moving onto 102,000 people plus locals plus guests plus renters and their guests all crammed in this tiny little space and your odds of a confrontation are on the rise. Summers use to be isolated here no longer. Survival calls for a partly self imposed hibernation in the winter months (Oct thru April) for some

hulababy 08-14-2012 12:43 PM

Wow that's awful. It should not be that way. Unfortunately the more crowded we get here, the more likely we are to run into alot of rude people. sort of takes away from the "friendliest hometown atsmophere" I remember yrs ago we all waved to each other while driving in our golf carts. Don't see that anymore. sometimes TOO many people does not make for a great community. Your entitled to drive on road if your street legal. And the neighbor isn't very nice at all to have treated you that way. sorry you had to experience this.

ronat1 08-14-2012 01:02 PM

WOW!!! All of this for a couple of summer time incidents with probably permanent residents. If you think it's bad now just wait several months for all of the snowflakes, renters and other visitors to descend upon us with their attitudes and fury. :22yikes:

thenewkid2 08-14-2012 01:17 PM

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Originally Posted by SkipandSue (Post 540295)
I have to say I agree...If the speed limit is 35 and you can not even do the limit you are a problem...Just because it is legal doesn't mean you should do it...People in cars also , if the limit is 45 why are you going 35....Why drive in the left lane all the time...Everyone points the finger ,but we all have flaws.

A refreshingly intelligent perspective.

Bogie Shooter 08-14-2012 01:38 PM

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Originally Posted by gerryann (Post 539835)
Is there no place to report an inappropriate post??

See that little triangle over near the post # click on that.

gerryann 08-14-2012 01:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Bogie Shooter (Post 540337)
See that little triangle over near the post # click on that.

Thanks Bogie...the inappropriate one had been removed...but boy, sure are a lot of opinions. Some folks can be counted on to find the negative in everything. I called one of them "unhappy" the other day, and I stand by that......I couldn't live my life thriving on confrontation....I guess that's why I have never been in the Political Forum.

Bogie Shooter 08-14-2012 01:50 PM

Some of the posts here speak as if TV is the only place where road rage exists. And thus we become the Unfriendly hometown.
I challenge anyone to say they never saw idiots driving cars/carts/bicycles/scooters back in there hometowns in a dangerous way.
Folks its everywhere. And to say one is considering moving because somebody cut you off at the pass is really sad.

Golfer in Sanibel 08-14-2012 01:57 PM

3 observations
 
1st You seem to be a butt-head magnet

2nd You found another 1 percenter. My math indicates in a community of 90000 there will be about 900 1 percenters.

3rd There are only 898 more people like her in TV. Happy hunting!:police:

goodgrief 08-14-2012 02:00 PM

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Originally Posted by cappyjon431 (Post 539991)
This is precisely why we continue to drive on the street and try to avoid driving in the golf cart lanes. Because our GEM does 26 mph and most golf carts are limited to 19 mph, we do not want to be threatening to the slower carts.

The only time I EVER drive in a cart lane is when I drive on Morse north of 466 where there is only one lane available. I don't like driving in the street there because there is no passing lane available and I don't want to be going down the road at 26 mph when the posted speed limit is 30 mph (that really might trigger some road rage!).

Yep good idea there. Morse is normally 35 south of 466 and I normally don't see golf carts running on there. Once in a blue moon. We don't own one ourselves but I tend to give golf carts extra space when they have to merge in so they don't feel they're going to get cut off. I see construction vehicles in our area run up on them and pass turning cars in the golf cart lanes. I literally cringe everytime thinking what if they didn't see a golf cart slide up by them?? Oh and in my previous post I meant as long as you don't impede traffic. Can't type to save my life sometimes. Your cart should be used on the streets only if you can get up to the speed limit and normally residential roads are 10 or 15 so thats a non issue. Some people don't get that if your under the speed limit and causing a traffic issue you can be ticketed for impeding. But your post sounded like the incidents were on residential for so non issue. Those folks were in the wrong no question and you guys just need to be very careful. Lot of idiots from all over the country here ;) Some drive right, majority don't and then you add circles into the mix....good luck.

kbace6 08-14-2012 02:06 PM

Speed limit vs. Speed requirement
 
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Originally Posted by SkipandSue (Post 540295)
I have to say I agree...If the speed limit is 35 and you can not even do the limit you are a problem...Just because it is legal doesn't mean you should do it...People in cars also , if the limit is 45 why are you going 35....Why drive in the left lane all the time...Everyone points the finger ,but we all have flaws.

Sorry folks, until there are posted speed requirements the sign is "speed limit" not "speed requirement" or even "speed suggestion". Fact: LSVs have every right to be on a road that is 35 MPH or less as long as they are registered and insured like a car, truck or motorcycle is. It is a LIMIT on ones speed, not a requirement. I think when we see the same thing over and over again like a "Speed LIMIT" sign it tends to take on a different meaning.

With that being said, I break the law every day on the highway by driving in excess of 80 MPH and I do get irritated by slower drivers if they are in the fast lane. I just go around them and be on my way. If you can go around a slower vehicle on the highway, why not a golf cart or LSV in The Villages? And please don't point out that some roads in The Villages aren't 2 lanes. The original post in this thread pointed out that they do not drive their LSV on main roads without 2 lanes.

If you are in a car and a golf cart or LSV is slowing you down, just take the time to go around them safely. We are all supposed to be mature adults. There is no need for vigilantism or proving to someone else that you don't like a certain law. If you feel that strongly about the law, then go to the state legislature and try to get the law changed. FYI the law on LSVs or NEVs are across the country and are legislated on a state by state basis. Good luck.

njbchbum 08-14-2012 02:06 PM

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Originally Posted by ronat1 (Post 540313)
WOW!!! All of this for a couple of summer time incidents with probably permanent residents. If you think it's bad now just wait several months for all of the snowflakes, renters and other visitors to descend upon us with their attitudes and fury. :22yikes:

are you implying that there is conflict between the "attitudes and fury" of "snowbirds, renters and visitors" and the attitudes of the permanent residents who believe they're entitled to a preference because they live in the villages all year round? is it really that bad?

JoeC1947 08-14-2012 02:20 PM

My daddy used to say that there are two kinds of drivers. The ones that drive slower than him were idiots and the ones that drive faster than him were maniacs. Before anyone asks which one I am, I'm both at one time or another.


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