Originally Posted by Deseylou (Post 1539574)

Unfortunately cliques are everywhere.
Have you ever been to bunco at Lake Miona on a Sunday? Holy smokes, some of those ladies are just awful.
We live in a village that sometimes monthly get togethers at the rec center.
We went to one and tried to sit at 3seperate tables.
All 3 said they were saving seats.
We haven’t been to one since
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Originally Posted by fw102807 (Post 1539587)

Why does everyone expect that coming to The Villages is automatically supposed to make everyone a saint. The Villages is just a cross section of not only the US but the World. We all bring our bad behavior with us. I am amazed that people are so surprised when these things happen.

Originally Posted by Villageswimmer (Post 1538752)

An experienced Majongg player, I’ve dropped in at various Rec centers to find a game when my schedule allows. I’ve always found welcoming ladies and have met many very nice fellow players who have become friends.

Today I was alone and went to Truman for the first time in hopes of joining a table to play. I was not late, arriving at about 12:15. There were 5 or 6 tables that already had 4 players. There was only one table with 3 ladies.

When I politely asked if I could join the threesome (4 is optimal), I was truly shocked when they refused to let me play. They were not expecting a friend who was late—they just didn’t want me to play with them and made no excuses.

I have never seen mahjongg players so unwelcoming before. Wow. I was hurt and embarrassed and at a loss for words.

Isn’t inclusion a part of participating in Rec center activities? I know this isn’t a big deal. But a little kindness goes a long way.

Perhaps I’ll find a more friendly group next Monday at Truman.

Originally Posted by fw102807 (Post 1539587)

Why does everyone expect that coming to The Villages is automatically supposed to make everyone a saint. The Villages is just a cross section of not only the US but the World. We all bring our bad behavior with us. I am amazed that people are so surprised when these things happen.

Originally Posted by Madelaine Amee (Post 1539664)

A little common decency would help ........

Originally Posted by Mortal1 (Post 1538822)

Strangely enough it's not uncommon for a group not to want a stranger to join them. If a person feels slighted perhaps they are overly sensitive and need a safe space to gather themselves.

Originally Posted by Madelaine Amee (Post 1539575)

At one time I thought I would join the NH Club. The first meeting I went to I sat at an empty table expecting people to join me, and they did and I tried to make conversation with them, but no one at the table spoke to me or asked me what part of NH I came from. I went again, and this time approached a table with three ladies sitting there .... No, cannot sit there, people coming. I moved off and watched and no one came .................. and that was it for me.

I think I should start a club called Publix Deli People, because every time I stand in line at the Deli Counter I meet the nicest people living here and end up having the most interesting conversations ... really every time, where are they when they leave the Deli Counter!

Originally Posted by Madelaine Amee (Post 1539575)

At one time I thought I would join the NH Club. The first meeting I went to I sat at an empty table expecting people to join me, and they did and I tried to make conversation with them, but no one at the table spoke to me or asked me what part of NH I came from. I went again, and this time approached a table with three ladies sitting there .... No, cannot sit there, people coming. I moved off and watched and no one came .................. and that was it for me.

I think I should start a club called Publix Deli People, because every time I stand in line at the Deli Counter I meet the nicest people living here and end up having the most interesting conversations ... really every time, where are they when they leave the Deli Counter!

Originally Posted by Madelaine Amee (Post 1539575)

At one time I thought I would join the NH Club. The first meeting I went to I sat at an empty table expecting people to join me, and they did and I tried to make conversation with them, but no one at the table spoke to me or asked me what part of NH I came from. I went again, and this time approached a table with three ladies sitting there .... No, cannot sit there, people coming. I moved off and watched and no one came .................. and that was it for me.

I think I should start a club called Publix Deli People, because every time I stand in line at the Deli Counter I meet the nicest people living here and end up having the most interesting conversations ... really every time, where are they when they leave the Deli Counter!

Originally Posted by tomwed (Post 1539725)

Originally Posted by tomwed (Post 1539725)

Don't let them fool you. I think it's a thinly sliced cold cult, not very friendly at all. I overheard one of them saying that at the next meeting their leader will be there, the Deli Llama. They may have been roll playing.

Originally Posted by ColdNoMore (Post 1539735)

:1rotfl:

I do think CFrance has a good point though, in the fact that the Deli area...is a good place to meat new people.



:D

Originally Posted by tomwed (Post 1539725)

Don't let them fool you. I think it's a thinly sliced cold cult, not very friendly at all. I overheard one of them saying that at the next meeting their leader will be there, the Deli Llama. They may have been roll playing.