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Chatbrat 06-08-2017 04:47 PM
A person touches you call 911 and have them arrested for battery

pqrstar 06-08-2017 05:12 PM
Perhaps you could have a friendly chat with the instructor and ask them make a blanket announcement at the start of the class that there are no reserved spots in the class.

Also, (if you like) ask the instructor to remind the class to be understanding of newbies who are trying to learn the routine.

If the instructor thinks that class may be too advanced for you, ask them if they could recommend another class that might fit you better.

rubicon 06-08-2017 05:18 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by Md girl (Post 1408887)
This morning I went to Chula Vista Rec Center to participate in a class. This was not my first time there. I tried to go to the back so I would not be in anyone's way. I was told that was not a good place ,then the woman preceded to put her hands on my shoulders and push me into what she considered a suitable place for me. I kept quiet not wanting to start any trouble. As soon as there was a break in the last, she immediately started running her mouth to another participant about me. I walked over and picked up my things and left. I'm not sure who died and left this woman in charge, I hope she reads this. Because I want her to know she was lucky I did not press charges against her for putting her hands on me. As far as I know I have the same rights as anyone else. I pay my fees to use the facilities just like everyone. So who ever you are count your blessings that I did not have you arrested, perhaps you should think twice before putting your hands on anyone.
So why didn't you simply say to her "who died and left you boss"?
flashpoints are common at fitness centers. some sit on equipment while visiting with friends, some rudely stand right in front of a machine your using .... A direct but polite response usually does the trick. Even f this woman is a member of this forum I'll wager she would not recognize it is she you are describing

Personal Best Regards:

pklein9747 06-08-2017 05:48 PM
If this happens again, please go to the person in charge at the Rec Center and report it. You have every right to be in that exercise class and, within reason, stand where you want and not be manhandled or criticized by another person at the activity.

Recreation takes these complaints seriously. We had a problem several years ago with a woman at water volleyball. Several people complained, filed written complaints and she was banned from the pool for six months. It made playing so much nicer :)

Fredster 06-08-2017 06:20 PM
In a lot of situations another person may truly be out of line and obnoxious,
but sometimes our own fear to speak up and defend our boundries is also a problem.
You don't have to get in a shouting match,
but you can simply tell them you don't need their direction and assistance.
If that bothers them, that is their issue to deal with.
I think as I've gotten older it has become easier
to deal with the occasional jerk!
When you deal with one, another will pop up down the line, (there is no shortage),
so I found it better to improve my method of dealing with them.

marianne237 06-08-2017 07:09 PM
Sadly, you find this at so many things happening in the Villages. I used to exercise at the pool, but was told more than once that I had to move because that space was saved "for my friend". And, you will also find this at Operation Shoebox, or any other of the charities. It's just rude and thoughtless people.... Consider the source and let it go. After 2 bouts of cancer, I've learned to "just let it go" and walk away.

Carl in Tampa 06-08-2017 07:13 PM
Not advice.
 
Quote:
Originally Posted by Villageswimmer (Post 1408941)
OP, do you really consider this incident a physical assault where law enforcement should be summoned? Just MHO, but you may be getting advice here that's a bit over the top. I could be wrong. I often am.
The above was posted as a response to my discussion of why you can take photos in a facility owned by The Villages in the absence of notification that photography is forbidden.

My post had nothing to do with having the OP call the police.

It's hard to see why my post was "over the top," and it certainly was not "advice."

mokey 06-08-2017 07:41 PM
There appears to be no exercise classes at Chula on Thursday morning. When did this happen?

bassfish 06-08-2017 08:21 PM
Girl, you need to go back to that class and stand wherever you want to. If she says anything tell her to mind her own business.

Fraugoofy 06-08-2017 08:29 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by Md girl (Post 1408887)
This morning I went to Chula Vista Rec Center to participate in a class. This was not my first time there. I tried to go to the back so I would not be in anyone's way. I was told that was not a good place ,then the woman preceded to put her hands on my shoulders and push me into what she considered a suitable place for me. I kept quiet not wanting to start any trouble. As soon as there was a break in the last, she immediately started running her mouth to another participant about me. I walked over and picked up my things and left. I'm not sure who died and left this woman in charge, I hope she reads this. Because I want her to know she was lucky I did not press charges against her for putting her hands on me. As far as I know I have the same rights as anyone else. I pay my fees to use the facilities just like everyone. So who ever you are count your blessings that I did not have you arrested, perhaps you should think twice before putting your hands on anyone.
This is unacceptable. I will gladly go with you to that class and help you deal with this bully in a nice, but firm way. PM me if you need a buddy on this one... Rae

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ColdNoMore 06-08-2017 08:40 PM
To the OP.

Bullies can only bully...if people let them.

While I realize that a lot of people prefer to avoid any type of confrontation (and there's nothing wrong with that usually), if someone did that to me I would be compelled to tell them something along the lines of... "you do not have the right to tell me what to do and you certainly don't have the right to touch me...so I suggest you cease and don't try either again." :shrug:

ColdNoMore 06-08-2017 08:42 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by Fraugoofy (Post 1409025)
This is unacceptable. I will gladly go with you to that class and help you deal with this bully in a nice, but firm way. PM me if you need a buddy on this one... Rae
Can I watch? :boxing2:


:D

Fraugoofy 06-08-2017 08:44 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by ColdNoMore (Post 1409029)
Can I watch? :boxing2:


:D
The more the merrier!

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Barefoot 06-08-2017 08:59 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by marianne237 (Post 1408978)
Sadly, you find this at so many things happening in the Villages. I used to exercise at the pool, but was told more than once that I had to move because that space was saved "for my friend". And, you will also find this at Operation Shoebox, or any other of the charities. It's just rude and thoughtless people.... Consider the source and let it go. After 2 bouts of cancer, I've learned to "just let it go" and walk away.
Good advice. :thumbup:

theorem painter 06-09-2017 06:16 AM
Quote:
Originally Posted by mokey (Post 1408991)
There appears to be no exercise classes at Chula on Thursday morning. When did this happen?
I am a little surprised that anyone would bother to look this up. I am hoping that you are not questioning the honesty of the OP. BTW there are many exercise classes that are not listed in the Rec News.


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