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BrianL99 02-17-2024 06:07 AM

Why is everyone jumping to this guy's defense, without any facts to back up that position?

He supposedly lived with this women for 20 years. She didn't see fit to protect the guy upon her passing. Call me naive, but it seems there's a message there.

For all we know, the recently deceased could have been the subject of the proverbial "elder abuse" that's always getting tossed around.

& where is this guy's family in all this? All we really know, is that apparently he's got a nice dog.

JohnN 02-17-2024 06:54 AM

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Originally Posted by BrianL99 (Post 2301904)
Why is everyone jumping to this guy's defense, without any facts to back up that position?

He supposedly lived with this women for 20 years. She didn't see fit to protect the guy upon her passing. Call me naive, but it seems there's a message there.

For all we know, the recently deceased could have been the subject of the proverbial "elder abuse" that's always getting tossed around.

& where is this guy's family in all this? All we really know, is that apparently he's got a nice dog.

This is a forum, we don't have "all the facts". Either his partner deliberately did not want him to continue to live there - OR - she didn't want to deal with it. My wife's parents (yes, they were married) did zero estate planning and through some mishaps, their estate lost quite a bit of money to the state. They didn't plan that intentionally, they just didn't want to deal with estate planning and facing life-after-death stuff.

On a 2nd note, there is a decent looking room rental in Silver Lake area for $800/month. Over the guy's budget but something to consider, perhaps. It was on craigslist.com

crash 02-17-2024 07:01 AM

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Originally Posted by dewilson58 (Post 2301760)
:beer3:

Family owns house??
Family says he can't live alone??
Family lives next door??

:shrug:

Significant others family inherited house and wants to sell it would be my guess.

Goldwingnut 02-17-2024 07:02 AM

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Originally Posted by jebartle (Post 2301738)
What resources will help 84 yr old man, with dog, After death of significant other dies, family wants him out by March, that will house him and dog for $500 month,

While we don’t know the full story or all the facts, it’s obviously not a good situation for this gentleman.
Not much of a “family”, what a terrible thing to do to a member of your own family. I don’t have a solution to this gentleman’s problem but wish him the best of luck and hope he finds a new home were he will be respected and can live out his remaining days with his furry companion.
As for his “family”, they will get what’s coming to them one day…

Lovey2 02-17-2024 07:10 AM

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Originally Posted by Jayhawk (Post 2301756)
His own family wants him gone?

Something is missing in the story.

I assumed it meant he was living with someone that passed and now THEIR family wants him out.

La lamy 02-17-2024 07:30 AM

As difficult as this man's situation seems, I'm huge on 'make your own way' in life unless you are absolutely incapacitated in some way. In Canada I live in my boyfriend's house right now and pay rent. If he happened to pass, his kid would inherit the house and I'd assume I was supposed to leave so they could sell it. Normal!

BrianL99 02-17-2024 07:45 AM

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Originally Posted by Goldwingnut (Post 2301915)

... Not much of a “family”, what a terrible thing to do to a member of your own family.

... As for his “family”, they will get what’s coming to them one day…


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Originally Posted by Lovey2 (Post 2301920)
I assumed it meant he was living with someone that passed and now THEIR family wants him out.


That's exactly right, but some folks don't bother to read, they just jump in with unsubstantiated opinions or invective.

defrey12 02-17-2024 08:00 AM

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Originally Posted by jebartle (Post 2301738)
What resources will help 84 yr old man, with dog, After death of significant other dies, family wants him out by March, that will house him and dog for $500 month,

Check with Catholic Charities (www.findhelp.org)…you do NOT have to be Catholic to enlist their services or support. A wonderful organization!

defrey12 02-17-2024 08:05 AM

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Originally Posted by LuvNH (Post 2301766)
Agree, something is missing from this story. If he is really being put out on the street or made to leave the house (if it is his) he needs an elder law attorney.

The way we understand it: He was living in his lady friend’s house with her. She died. He has no legal claim to the property. HER family wants the house. THEY do not want him and, thus, want him out. Very sad.

Gpsma 02-17-2024 08:17 AM

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Originally Posted by defrey12 (Post 2301942)
The way we understand it: He was living in his lady friend’s house with her. She died. He has no legal claim to the property. HER family wants the house. THEY do not want him and, thus, want him out. Very sad.

It is a sad situation. Even if her family were kind hearted and let him stay, he has no means to support paying the bills for that house.
The family would have to contribute to his upkeep. They have no obligation to do that.

ChilePepper 02-17-2024 08:25 AM

Is he a military veteran? There might be resources there.

Moderator 02-17-2024 08:25 AM

OP is looking for suggestions on finding living arrangements for this gentleman.

Thank you if you can help, with situation.

If not please keep your post kind, guessing why this situation happened or negative comments is not helpful for OP

ThirdOfFive 02-17-2024 08:37 AM

Pretty limited information....but from what is available I Don't see many silver linings to this particular cloud. Florida pretty much sucks when it comes to social services and mostly what they do is reactive, not proactive. Not much in "the system" here that he would be able to access. And unfortunately there are 84-year-old homeless people.

One thing I would urge strongly. Talk to a lawyer. Florida is an "equitable distribution" state which means that in the absence of a will when someone dies, or in cases where a will is contested, a judge gets to decide who gets what. There may be legal avenues available to this guy to at least get something to help sustain him in his last few years. Worth asking about, at least.

Girlcopper 02-17-2024 08:37 AM

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Originally Posted by Jayhawk (Post 2301756)
His own family wants him gone?

Something is missing in the story.

Yep. There’s obviously a big part of the story missing

Johncolson 02-17-2024 08:49 AM

I helped an elderly man get his golf cart (dead battery) home near Chula Vista golf course. He told me the same story, it could be him. Lived with a woman for 18 years and never bothered to put his name on title. Now the woman's family wants him out in the spring. I checked Florida Common Law rules. They were taken off the books in 1968.


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